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SHower Guestlist - Part II
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i had the same problem - my fils wanted to invite 60 people!
my mom told them 25 only from their side b/c my mom was not paying for 80 people at my shower
that seemed to solve the problem
my mom told them 25 only from their side b/c my mom was not paying for 80 people at my shower
that seemed to solve the problem
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I asked for a list. FH's mother doesn't believe in showers. Go figure. But she did give a healthy list.
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That's tuff... I always thought it should be every girl on the list.. minus those that are coming as a date which you usually dont know well or even at all.. Mine plan on inviting all the female guests (i think) not sure about FH friends girlfriends or chick friends from College i have only met once or twice, so i dont think they should be invited...
I told FH he is going to the shower with me cause I dont know 80% of his mom's friends.. i think it's only fair... I have been to showers where the groom was there.. It was fun! and he's a ham so he will eat it up..
FH's mom threw her other now DIL a seperate shower of just her (FMIL) friends.. i would be MORTIFIED going to MY shower w/o knowing anyone!!! the her DIL's mom or MOH/sister wasnt even there!!! So I know his Mom will help chip in for her friends... it's only fair if a shower ends up being SOOO Big! she feels she has gone to all her friends kids showers and given gifts so she wants us to have the same... as she says it's only fair for all the showers she has given to that her friends do the same for her kids.. I dunno.. i am whatever about the shower.. i just dont want an out of control wedding!
I told FH he is going to the shower with me cause I dont know 80% of his mom's friends.. i think it's only fair... I have been to showers where the groom was there.. It was fun! and he's a ham so he will eat it up..
FH's mom threw her other now DIL a seperate shower of just her (FMIL) friends.. i would be MORTIFIED going to MY shower w/o knowing anyone!!! the her DIL's mom or MOH/sister wasnt even there!!! So I know his Mom will help chip in for her friends... it's only fair if a shower ends up being SOOO Big! she feels she has gone to all her friends kids showers and given gifts so she wants us to have the same... as she says it's only fair for all the showers she has given to that her friends do the same for her kids.. I dunno.. i am whatever about the shower.. i just dont want an out of control wedding!
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It's going to be tough, my FI has a huge family and I know all his cousin's and their steady girlfriends etc., so it's looking like everyone will need to be invited! ![]()
Of course, with exception of a few people here and there I've never met, most of the ladies on both sides will be invited.
ETA: I just did a quick count, and it looks like about 90 people - holy cow!![]()
Of course, with exception of a few people here and there I've never met, most of the ladies on both sides will be invited.
ETA: I just did a quick count, and it looks like about 90 people - holy cow!
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we are inviting all women from both sides.
We are not inviting like peoples guset who are woman just women who we know or they are dating for a looooong time or married
we have 117 people
BUt i am more than sure the out of state people are saying no
We are not inviting like peoples guset who are woman just women who we know or they are dating for a looooong time or married
we have 117 people
BUt i am more than sure the out of state people are saying no
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Only inviting his immediate family or those people who's shower's I have been invited too.
I already have too many people.
I already have too many people.
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I asked FMIL for a list and she gave me a list of 21, so not bad at all. She just invited close family members (aunts and cousins).
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Sorry, Suz, I don't think I answered your question exactly.
I'll probably be in the same predicament as you, I just cannot invite every.single.female. I guess I'm going to have to put a cap on the number of guests and let the in-laws wield who will be invited and who will not. Is this something that you can do? Explain to FFIL that it is way too many people and unless he would like to pay for the additional seating (IN FULL not deducted from gifts! Grr), then that would be fine.
In all honestly, there are some family members on FI's side that I barely even met, and I just don't feel right inviting them to the shower, so I'll have to see how this is going to come up when it comes time for this as well.![]()
I'll probably be in the same predicament as you, I just cannot invite every.single.female. I guess I'm going to have to put a cap on the number of guests and let the in-laws wield who will be invited and who will not. Is this something that you can do? Explain to FFIL that it is way too many people and unless he would like to pay for the additional seating (IN FULL not deducted from gifts! Grr), then that would be fine.
In all honestly, there are some family members on FI's side that I barely even met, and I just don't feel right inviting them to the shower, so I'll have to see how this is going to come up when it comes time for this as well.
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Posted by MissingTheBGene
(IN FULL not deducted from gifts! Grr)
In all honestly, there are some family members on FI's side that I barely even met, and I just don't feel right inviting them to the shower, so I'll have to see how this is going to come up when it comes time for this as well.![]()
I think I may tell FH to convey to the FILs (cause I aint doing it!) that I only intent to include people who I have met at least 1 time on my shower guest list. I know they are going to flip a lid, but her guestlist right now has a bunch of people who I don't have any idea how they are even related. While I don't want anyone to feel 'wronged' that they weren't invited, I don't want people to think I am fishing for a gift either (since i never even met them before - or knew of their existence!)
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Posted by SuzBride
While I don't want anyone to feel 'wronged' that they weren't invited, I don't want people to think I am fishing for a gift either (since i never even met them before - or knew of their existence!)![]()
EXACTLY! I totally hear ya...let us know what happens!
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The only ladies from DH's side that were invited were his mom (of course) and his two sisters. And actually his sister's mother in law because we're all close.
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Posted by MissingTheBGene
Posted by SuzBride
While I don't want anyone to feel 'wronged' that they weren't invited, I don't want people to think I am fishing for a gift either (since i never even met them before - or knew of their existence!)![]()
EXACTLY! I totally hear ya...let us know what happens!
Thanks! I will!
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I can't imagine people that don't even know you expect to be invited to a shower simply b/c they'll be invited to the wedding. DH's sister made the list of who to invite on DH's side to my shower. We invited DH's sister, mother, grandmother, aunt, cousins, and father's new wife (but luckily she didn't come b/c that could've been a problem). IMO, only close family and friends should be included in the shower especially if the BMs are the ones paying for it.
