Shower Help Needed ASAP

My maid of honor just called and said she wanted a tentative list of shower invites by Friday and I am freaking. We are having a rather large wedding with 17 including us bridesmaids, ushers, and flower girl in the wedding party and invitations going to 210 guests. My problem is that I really feel kind of bad giving my girls a list of like 70 people. Is that to many shower invites? I do not want them to pay a fortune but I do not want to leave anyone out or hurt feelings. Should I narrow the list? If yes how should I decide who gets get out? I am not getting married till February and she has really sprung this on me as a surprise. Please Help!!!!!!!

Shower Help Needed ASAP

70 is not TOO high - you have to figure that 30% ish won't come, right?? :) My invite list is at about 160 and I have 50 on my shower list! That doesn't include the other 10 that I'm leaving to my MOH's and my mom's discretion. Honestly, I'm praying they have a BBQ in my sister's backyard!! Suffice it to say, of the 160 on my guest list, about 115 are mine and 45 are his! LOL Good luck!! :)

Trying to keep it simple

This is definitely a 'do what`s best for you' type situation. For our wedding, we have about 200 on the guest list, and a great majority of those guests are mine. However, when discussing the brida shower invites with my mom, she felt that just the closest women should be invited ... people who I actually know and have a decent connection to. My list got to just over 32 and I thought that was ideal. Part of me doesn`t want this to feel like a mini reception, and the same will go for our rehearsal dinner. We only anticipate having immediate family and the wedding party with guests. By the way, I wanted to have my fiance and some of his closest guys at our 'wedding shower' but my mom didn't go for the idea and has decided to stick with tradition. (At least as far as I know - maybe the girls will convince her??!!)

Trying to keep it simple

Keeping it simple - below 35 :) - is hardly feasible for me. Almost 25 of the guests on my shower list are my family (I have 5 sisters and 2 *almost* sisters-in-law). Another 10 are his. I only have about 15 friends/co-workers on the list!

Trying to keep it simple

On the list should be anyone you personally know that you are inviting to your wedding. However, if you have male friends who are bringing dates you don't have to invite them. Just tell your bridesmaids that they don't have to splurge. Maybe they can have it at someone's house. My wedding isn't until February but my bridesmaids have asked for a list now so they can surprise me. They don't want to ask for it later right before the shower.

Submit your list as is....

Give the list you want. If they can't do it let them make the adjustments. I am sure they will do their best to acomodate you....but if they can't they will do what they can.

Ooops...did I mention we both have small families?? :) *NM*