I don't mean to be all whiney but my shower's coming Saturday and while I loooove my Mom and Moh and family.....I'm missing my dad so much. We were cleaning out an area to make room for the gifts and moving all of his tools and it just hit me so hard that he is not here through all of this. I wish he was here to make a spot for my things and tell me what to buy or not and help us look for a house. He was so great with that stuff and my biggest supporter and I miss him terribly. I just want him back to give me a big hug Saturday morning and go 'WOW' when I am all dressed and ready to go. I'm trying to be so strong and not say anything to anyone, I know my mom would break down if I said anything....
I know some of you girls must be going through the same thing? There's just an empty hole in my heart. I miss him terribly. sorry to be so whiney and depressing, I just had to get this out.
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I'M SO SORRY TO HEAR THIS! but, it's a normal emotion to have at this time in your life!! keep your chin up, it's your shower..think of all the great gifts your gonna get!
catsgirl
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your not being whiney at all, you are being human.. what you lost is greater than anything imaginable.
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It's not easy. I lost my mom 4 years ago and I so wanted her to be with me for all the planning and shopping and to see me in the dress.
Your dad will always be with you and always watching over you. He is forever in your heart. Feel that hug from him on Saturday morning, and on your wedding day, feel his kiss on your cheek as you meet your husband to be at the end of the aisle.
I wear my mom's wedding ring every day, and made a point to wear it on my wedding day even though it did not match my other jewelry. Some of her diamonds have been incorporated into my wedding band. It is my way of having a piece of her with me every day.
You are not whiney. It is a real emotion that a lot of us share.
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I am so sorry to her that.
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I'm sooo sorry that you are going through this...Not to sound corny...but I really believe that he will be looking down at you and he somehow will be with you....try and think of that and maybe it will make you feel a teeny tiny bit better.
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he will be there with you and he will say wow!!! at how beautiful you will look!
Kerin2804
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Remembering your dad is a good thing even when it is sad. You are not depressing or whiney. I understand completely. My dad will be gone for 9 years next week. As I go through this process I wish he were here to have met my FH and walk me down the aisle, etc. Sometimes a good cry helps.
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OMG!!! I'm so sorry!!! Your dad will be there on Sat at your shower, He's going to be looking down at you and have this big smile on his face, he's going to be so proud and happy for you.
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I'm so sorry.. im tearing up reading all these posts. Its so true though, just know that he is always there with you , especially on these big days. You will have a beautiful shower..
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I know exactly what you are going through. I lost my mom 4 days before Christmas, and it's really hard doing all this planning without her there. I know I am going to be a wreck on my wedding day. I know she will be there with me though, and I am trying to incorporate her into my wedding in many little ways. I am missing her a lot lately with Mother's Day coming and her B-Day a week after that...I'm not sure how to deal with all of this? How long ago did you lose your dad? How did you deal with all the 'firsts'?
deb08
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so sorry- but just think that he is with you, watching over you and smiling because he is sooooo happy that you are happy!!!
NapaValleyGirl
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i got teary reading this. Hugs to you.
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i sort of know how you feel. I lost my mom about 5 years ago and it was just when FH and I started dating so she never got to meet him. I feel so sad when I do all this wedding stuff and shes not there to help me especially with picking my dress and things. I kind tell myself that shes with me in spirit but its still hard.
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I understand how you are feeling. I lost my dad coming up on two years and it is so hard going through this process without him here. I know he is with me in the figurative sense, but sometimes thats not enough and you just want your dad to share this with. Maybe you should talk to your mom, it may me comforting to speak about your dad to her, even though its gonna be a sad topic. If you ever want to talk, feel free to FM me
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how you feel right now. FH's father passed away suddenly in January. It was a huge shock for the whole family. I loved him like he was my own father. It won't be the same without him here through the whole process but I know that he will be looking down on FH and I at the wedding. Your dad will be doing the same for you.
sassygirl9
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I'm sorry you feel this way. I think it's natural. He may not be there physically, but I'm sure he's smiling down at you
anamaree77
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It's so sad to see how many of us have lost a parent. It's been a long time since my dad passed now, i've learned how to cope with it and accept it BUT...the huge milestones in life always get me.
Hugs to all my girls, ur all the best.
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I am with you...dad died four years ago this month....when I had went to see my dress after it came I was cranky that week and wind up having a break down with fiance. I realized it was because I know he won't get to see me in it or walk me down the aisle. I am thankful for my mom because she will be filling his place that day. Hang in there...what gets me through is trying to remember the happy times together and know that he will be close in my heart that day...same for you
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Aww - don't worry you're not being whiny and depressing at all - it's so sad, and I'm so sorry for what you're going through. But always know that your dad would have wanted you to be happy and is definitely watching over you.
