Ok, so as you all know, fh moved in on July 1st right after we got engaged. While we were dating sleeping in the same bed was fine b/c we only did it on the weekends (and we weren't really sleeping anyway). Now that this is the real world, I get very little sleep. He hogs the bed in the worst way and I always feel like I'm about to hit the floor. My sleep is broken every night by having to ask him to move over. I'm going back to work next week and now I always wake up exausted. argh... Living together is amazing in every other way. Do you have this problem, too?
LnF0405
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I've been living with FH for over 1.5yrs and let me tell you..i still dont sleep straight through the night! He constantly moves, he talks in his sleep, and he takes the covers. I'm a little more used to it by now, but when he goes upstate on the weekends to work, I feel like i'm in heaven b/c I can sleep a solid 9 hrs without even waking up lol
FH and I will each have our own cover b/c if not is a continue fight will go over the night ( I am the one who take all the cover)
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we don't live togetehr but i have that problem when he sleeps over now! I don't know what to do about it, I think it is something you just have to get used to
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We have lived together for 4 years now so things NOW are perfect... but at first it took him some getting used to not having the entire bed to himself. I bought a huge body pillow from Bed bath and beyond and stuck it down the middle of the bed and bought two cheap blankets (one for each) and that's how we slept until he learned that there was someone else in the bed!!! Worked like a charm
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lolol. can't help you with this one. i'm the bed hog in the relationship! diagonal sleeper!
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TOTALLY had this problem! you are not alone. my DH tends to sleep in a weird diaganol position, that takes up the entire freaking bed. i would get a small part of the bed to try and sleep. not to mention he SNORES like you wouldn't believe.
it takes some time--cause they are used to their own sleeping habits....but after awhile they eventually compromise and automatically adjust to let you sleep. i still sometimes have to push my DH and tell him to 'turn over' so he's not snoring right in my ear. but overall--after a little while he finally stays on his side of the bed!
i had the same problem. we've been living together for 6months now and its better. i dont notice the snoring anymore, and he knows hes not allowed on my side of the bed. he falls asleep weird but i kick him and move him and then we;re fine.
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Ohhh...! Not sure if anyone else has this problem, but sometimes my FH seems to forget that I am in the bed at all when he gets into the bed after me, and i end up with his knee and body weight leaning on my shins!! After numerous screams of pain, he's learned that he can't just climb into bed where ever he wants when i'm there!!
seriously, girls, I now undersand why some older couples have separate beds, if not separate bedrooms.
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Mine was a bed hog too. Not only did he hog the bed but I am always asleep before him, he would always wake me when getting into bed; we started using individual blankets and the problem was solved.
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OMG! I know exactly what you mean. It is so ridiculous. He swears he does not come all the way over to my side. I can't sleep through the night, not once since we moved in together. He wraps his leg over my body and I want to kill him. before we lived together we would spend the nights together all the time and I swear this was never an issue. I just don't get it and I agree, everything else is perfect, but this sleeping thing is killing me
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I didn't live with DH before we got married and we only got to sleep together when he had long weekends off from the Army and his family was away. Having to sleep with him all the time has been an adjustment. He snores something fierce, but I got used to it. Earlier this year, he ended up sleeping on the couch because I was snoring. It got to the point that I had to buy the Breath Right strips to help me stop snoring. That didn't work so DH bought ear plugs. There would be nights that he would forget to put them in.
Just recently, in the middle of the night, while I was sleeping, he pulled the pillow right from under my head. I gave him such a dirty look and cursed him out. I couldn't believe he did that. The next morning he said that I was taking up the whole bed
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I can't help you with this one! I am the biggest bed hog. FH thinks that not only do I hog the bed but that I am the biggest tuck & turner he has ever met. I actually hold onto the blanket as I turn over throughout the night. We usually wake up in the morning with me wrapped entirely in the blanket and on his side of the bed. He has the sheet draped over him and is almost off the bed! He wants to get seperate beds!!
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shoot.... I guess I'm lucky...... I hog the bed a little (with my 5 pillows ) but it seldom wakes DH up.
DH hogs the comforter in the winter, but that only wakes me up once a week or so... and only once.
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You have to talk to him - just mention (not accuse) jokingly that he has 'weird' positions he sleeps in (throw in giggle here)... and hopefully he'll become more aware of himself. My FH was a terrible bedmate... he would sleep diagonally, or roll everywhere. It's going to take sometime getting used to the addition - but I promise it'll get better. If it doesn't don't be opposed to throwing a couple of elbows or knees - that usually got my FHs attention!! Hang in there!
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I am having such a problem with this as well! We are using his bed and it is so uncomfortable! Plus he is a huge snuggler which is great but he latches on and throughout the night I literally wake up almost falling off the bed. i have hit the couch in the middle of the night to get some zzzz. I get so anxious!
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My FH snores, takes all the covers and always has to hold something weather it be me or the pillow. Works my nerve. He takes up the whole bed too.
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You have to talk to him - just mention (not accuse) jokingly that he has 'weird' positions he sleeps in (throw in giggle here)... and hopefully he'll become more aware of himself. My FH was a terrible bedmate... he would sleep diagonally, or roll everywhere. It's going to take sometime getting used to the addition - but I promise it'll get better. If it doesn't don't be opposed to throwing a couple of elbows or knees - that usually got my FHs attention!! Hang in there!
LOLOLOL...oh we talk about it! I say something every morning and last night before nookie time I asked him to promise he would stay on his side.lol... So this morning I told him he didn't do a very good job and his response? 'Maybe it's that you are coming onto my side!..lol ... oh well, I'm glad to hear other ppl are having this problem, too.
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HAHA I totally have the same problem plus one.. FH (6ft 4inches and 250 lbs of mass, shoulders are like a size 58) and the 110lb dog share a FULL SIZE BED!!!
To state that I am an insomniac is an understatement...
I have NO room and no peace sleeping so I can empathize...
I take seroquel now and have never slept better when I take enough....
I am sorry you are miserable.. KICK HIS ARSE off the bed!!!!!
Inkedupkitten
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OH yeah i cant tell you how many times my FH elbowed me in the head, chest, breasts or just kicked me lol
I value my nights when he is working hahaah
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yeah, i get woken up a lot by DH. He tends to knee me in the back and he's come very close to elbowing me in the head (luckily he miss by about an inch!). One night he even rolled over and took my pillow right out from under my head and rolled back over without even realized he did so! He falls asleep in the living room watching tv a lot and I used to go get him to come to bed. But it's gotten to the point that if I wake up and he's not in the bed, I just go back to sleep and let him stay sleeping on the couch. haha, is that bad? At least I can get some sleep that way!
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Nice to see we all relate to this somehow!!
We don't live together, but when FH sleeps over, he's a MAJOR CUDDLER, which I AM NOT!! When it is sleep time, I want to SLEEP!! Keep trying to explain this to him, but he always ends up on my side with his gigantic leg and arm thrown over me...
.....I'm thinking matching twin beds like on I LOVE LUCY!!
