My fiance and I have only been engaged for one week and people have already been saying mean things to us about our engagement. Is this normal?
Apparently my fiance's cousin said that I must be a superficial b*tch who is only marrying him for his money because my engagement ring is on the larger side.
My best friend who I thought would be so happy for me and who I was going to ask to be my MOH has been avoiding me since our engagement.
FH's older sister told us we're way too young to be getting married.
Lastly, we haven't set a date yet and we're already getting snide comments about it. We are hoping to get married on the first of a month (since we started dating on the first of a month and were engaged on the first of a month) and we were told this is 'stupid' by multiple people. We're also hoping to get married in 2008 since we got engaged on New Year's and feel like this is 'our year.' I overheard my brother's girlfriend saying that I'm probably pregnant and using this as an excuse to have a shotgun wedding.
This is supposed to be a joyful time for us and all of these comments are making it hard to be happy. Shouldn't these people be happy for us, especially since they are FAMILY and close friends?
Belongs2DanBuckley
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That's just RUDE!!! don't listen to anyone! People are going to have terrible, hurtful things to say out of spite or jealousy the whole time. PEOPLE SUUCK!!!
On a happy note I'm a Jessica who's marrying a Daniel too If he has a last name that starts with a B u can use my monogram
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My fiance and I have only been engaged for one week and people have already been saying mean things to us about our engagement. Is this normal?
Apparently my fiance's cousin said that I must be a superficial b*tch who is only marrying him for his money because my engagement ring is on the larger side.
My best friend who I thought would be so happy for me and who I was going to ask to be my MOH has been avoiding me since our engagement.
FH's older sister told us we're way too young to be getting married.
Lastly, we haven't set a date yet and we're already getting snide comments about it. We are hoping to get married on the first of a month (since we started dating on the first of a month and were engaged on the first of a month) and we were told this is 'stupid' by multiple people. We're also hoping to get married in 2008 since we got engaged on New Year's and feel like this is 'our year.' I overheard my brother's girlfriend saying that I'm probably pregnant and using this as an excuse to have a shotgun wedding.
This is supposed to be a joyful time for us and all of these comments are making it hard to be happy. Shouldn't these people be happy for us, especially since they are FAMILY and close friends?
Oh, for pete's sake!! Don't pay them no never mind, Jessica!!! Mary MOB
cmjd
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wow.. thats harsh. Why do you think everyone is being so mean? How long have you been dating? Have they said stuff like this before? Whatever the case is, ignore them! as long as your happy , who cares!
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awww sorry you have to deal with that. But honestly if people are so rude and nasty towards your engagment its just their own issues they're dealing with. Either they're jealous or unhappy about something going on in their life, otherwise i dont see why somebody would react that way.
Don't worry about what others say, and just do what makes you happy
JTsGal829
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wow i am soo sorry hun!! I swear people are just rude and jealous. DO NOT let it ruin you're time as an engaged couple. In the end all that matters is you and FH and that you love each other. People really suck and i really hope your friends and future in laws come around and realize that by saying terrible things they will be missing out on helping you and FH with the most important day of your lives together!!! keep your head up!
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im like the queen of people runing my weddnig planning time..people have said things that i didnt even thing was possible
i tried to stay in the best spirits i could..but in the end..some people were so against us having the wedding like this..that they are not even coming..and its costing me A LOT more money then it should have
i know its stupid..but the planning has been runied for me..dont let it happen to you
i just cant wait for it to be over and to be married and to realyl cut a lot of ties with people
sorry to be negative..im just saying that put it aside and do what you want to do..its your wedding and marriage and thats all taht matters..dont do things because of what others say..you will regret it one month before..I PROMISE!!
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My best fried avoided me and made inappropriate comments as well in the beginning. I don't know how close you are with her, but mine felt as though she was losing me because I was engaged. We haven't been very close since the engagement.
As far as other family members, I would just ignore them. As long as you know the truth and what is really going on that is all that matters.
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I am so sorry these people are being so rude. I can't believe that people could actually be like that about an engagement. Try to give them time and hopefully they will come around. I agree with the girls that they are probably just jealous. Hang in there and don't let them get to you. This should be a very happy time for you and FH. Don't let anyone ruin it for you.
Browneyesncute
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sometimes when u get engaged people get jelous! and say stupid things! don't let them get to u!! it about u and FH!!!
Future Mulligan
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one word
jealous!
the day after we got engaged my family was being so obnoxious that my FH and I and my sister actually left (we got engaged July 3 and went to my familys July 4th party).....it was comments from miserable aunts and uncles who are unhappy in their marriage - making comments like - i better get my ring appraised it might be a fake (obviously jealous of the size) - that comment i ignored and later on made sure to talk about how excited i was to go to macys the next day to get it appraised and put insurance on it......oh and how about - oh yeah you look so happy now but send me a picture of the two of you in 15 years and you'll see what happens........then i had to hear all their negative remarks about marriage - i couldnt take it - so i just left........later on i think my Mom told them where to go
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i'm so sorry people around you are acting like that. people suk! it's your time to be happy, and you should be. don't let them get you down. it's your wedding and your life. i personally like the idea of getting married on the 1st of the month since it has special meaning to you. don't listen to them. i know it's hard, but know that you're happy and doing what makes you happy!
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Sorry to hear that people are acting in such manner. I agree that your engagement with you FH should be a joyous time and you know what, TREAT IT AS SUCH. Although at times it is hard to ignore people when they are knocking you down, but don't give them the victory. No matter what you do in life, there will always be someone to twist their nose at it. JUST DO YOU and forget the haters!
MrsHtobe
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That is really horrible that people just can't be happy for you.
I'm sorry you are going through this!
Emily08
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Ignore all of the 'haters'.. they're obviously jealous. Do what you want regarding the wedding date and don't listen to anyone. Maybe they just want a ring on thier finger and can't handle the fact that they aren't where you are. As long as thw two of you know it's right and know you are meant for each other then that's all that matters!! Congrats again!
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I am sorry that people are being rude to you--don't listen to them. This is your time, be happy and enjoy it, and if you want to get married on the first of the month and it has meaning to you, then do it---you don't need their approval. This is your wedding, do what makes you happy.
AMGBride2008
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People are jealous. However, most of these comments... no, ALL of these comments are unacceptable and I wouldn't think twice about telling people off... esp your brother's GF... who the F is she?!!?
Enjoy it and do it YOUR way... fukc everyone else!
GtBride
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People are probably jealous, just ignore them.
btw, you guys make a cute couple and i LOVE your ring.
If you feel this is your year and want to get married on the first then go ahead. Its your wedding do what makes you happy.
Soon2beAlberti
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you know what...I always said if you wanna know who your true friends are (especially female ones) ...get engaged. Some of the people whom I thought would never be jealous of me during the happiest time of my life...were the first ones to show their true colors. I had my best friend get married (she planned the wedding in less than 2 months and did JOP wedding)and not tell me til 1 week before the wedding...i wasn't invited but WAS invited to bridal shower with only one week notice via phone call.
another friend started snatching magazines from me and ripping out pages for her wedding when she wasn't even engaged...she bugged her man to get her the ring and now they are getting married in a few months (before me). its like all of a sudden girls were on a mad dash to get married and pregnant before I 'beat them to the punch' and it was really sad to see because all I wanted to do was marry my soul mate...WHO I'VE BEEN WITH FOR 7 PLUS YEARS!!! these girls had been with there men for less than 1 yr and 3 yrs.
people get stupid, but don't let it get to you. focus on the love you have for your fiance because thats what the marriage will be about. no matter what happens in this world, you and your future husband will be there for each other and that is deff something to celebrate. so forget about what these people are saying and doing and just enjoy this time with your partner...and enjoy every second because it goes quick. don't let them put a damper on it.
MJDoc12
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sorry to hear ....but let me take this time to say that while being engaged IS a time to be happy---its also a time when you MUST develope a THICK SKIN!!
trust me--you will discover your TRUE friends in this time, realize how people really feel about you, and see the ugly side of people you never expected.
don't let them bother you---i planned my wedding for 2 years and i realized who was important and who wasn't....how jealous and bitter people can be...and how much i do NOT need their negative energy in my life!
