and its been what about 2 weeks now since the last summer BBQ and i kno by NOW she woudl ahve gotten that long voice mail i left....
you kno the one about missing her at the BBQ and hoping to see her soon, and how i wanted to hear about her 2 month euro vacation....
well yeah... nothing...
like i told u girls 2 weeks ago... im upset but the ball is her court... we have talked 2 times about losing touch.... im talked out.
in about a month im sending out bridemades cards jsut reconfirming the wedding progress then i will send out the newsletters...
(i decided to hold on teh newsletters bc if she is backing out, i dont want to upset her by sending out her phone # and info to the other girls, if she is not involved....)
advice? words of wisdom?
encouragement.... woudl you do the same thing as me?
Mrs. V 2008
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Im sorry your going through this..but honestly i feel like a bm plays a pivotal role in wedding planning and if she is mia..what is she doing that would consider her a bm? i think i would nicely explain what you feel and I would probably knock them out! you want bms you can count on...not ones that are never around..good luck and i hope everything works out!
Princess Cut Bride
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I had to deal with a BM backing out too. It was my cousin. I had send her and asked her if she was free on the date we were going to look for BM dresses. She said yes...but she was asking a little shaddy. So when I sent a text message to my girls confirming the time and location she called me and said she would be able to come up with the deposit even if she worked out a payment plan with the bridal salon. (The dress is only $220 which includes alterations) So I was upset but I was glad she let me know in advance instead of a few months b4 the wedding.
I really don't know what to say. It seems as if she doesn't want to be involved. You have tried calling her and she hasn't responded to you. Honestly if she is the type to be distant I think it will be one less headache for you to deal with. I'm sure she is special to you or else you wouldn't have asked her to be part of your special day in the 1st place. I hope things work out and she calls you back and is honest with you. Good luck!
xXxNovember08xXx
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thank you both for your honesty...
i want to think im doign the right thing.. and it had to be tough for you sicne it was family...
i want to avoid as much as possible makign the Assumption she still wants to be involved by sending out a newsletter with pictures, names and phone numbers,... then potentially having to tell the other girls not to call her bc she dropped out (that would be more embrassing IMO)
i hope things will iron themselves out, and i dont want someone involved that is not excited anymore about me or my wedding.
