So I find out this morning that my sister is engaged.
I hate to be selfish but this just ticks me off. It's like I can't even have my own engagement! Mind you, my sister just turned 21!! She has no clue about what it takes to make a relationship work let alone a marriage!!!!
And the worst part of all is that it really seems like my mother is over the moon excited for her. When my parents walked out of the room when I told them. Mind you, my FH and I have been together 6 years!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Urghhh...worst of all she is my maid of honor and now I really dont think I can speak to her for a very long time....
luvly73
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im sorry that su c ks...and i dont think u r being selfish at all
Michy2009
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Sorry to hear that...sounds like the story of my life!!
People ****!
joctorre
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OH!!!!!!!! I totally understand and feel your pain!!! FBIL got engaged after being with his girl 11 months and nobody even knew her last name (until I TOLD THEM last week)!!! They had a huge dinner for them, we had to celebrate 3 days worth!!! I cried for 3 weeks and FH moved out!!!
Finally FH proposed after being together for 5 and a half years and nobody did anything except tell us congratulations!!!!
c'mon!!!!!!!!
I'm sorry! Just remember, though, that YOU'RE STILL ENGAGED... she just better not try to plan her wedding before yours!!! (how long have they been togehter?)
(PS, try not to let her know you're pissed bc then the drama will really start.....)
elp6421
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(PS, try not to let her know you're pissed bc then the drama will really start.....)
Too late. I already told her I felt so hurt by her decision to do this. She replies with 'your just so selfish' and tells me they are going to wait until she is 23 to get married.
Well then why get engaged?????????? I am so fired up.
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Posted by elp6421
(PS, try not to let her know you're pissed bc then the drama will really start.....)
Too late. I already told her I felt so hurt by her decision to do this. She replies with 'your just so selfish' and tells me they are going to wait until she is 23 to get married.
Well then why get engaged?????????? I am so fired up.
I don't think it was her decision to get engaged.. was it? Usually the guy is the person to propose.. I think especially since she won't be getting married for another 2 yrs.. you have NOTHING to worry about.. Instead.. you should let her be the MOH and when it's her turn to get married, she'll know more about planning a wedding :)
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Posted by elp6421
(PS, try not to let her know you're pissed bc then the drama will really start.....)
Too late. I already told her I felt so hurt by her decision to do this. She replies with 'your just so selfish' and tells me they are going to wait until she is 23 to get married.
Well then why get engaged?????????? I am so fired up.
if shes 21 now and shes not getting married till shes 23... that would seem like a normal engagement length... plenty of people get married at 23 and can make it work... i dont think its about age or the length of relationship...
i see why your upset at the reaction she got vs the reaction you got tho...
joctorre
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aww, i'm so sorry!! Go watch a movie or do something to take your mind off of it!!!
My FBIL and his FW have done nothing in the way of planning yet, (been almost a year) and we started almost immediately (got engaged in dec)...
Nobody's asking them anything, everyone wants to help ME plan.....
It's just the excitement of it all. It will die down eventually and the focus will still be on you!!!!!!!!!!
Are you close with her normally??? and can I ask how old you are (you said she's only 21!!!)
JAAMS
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I can understand why you're upset about getting a different reaction.
But as far as her actually being engaged, I have to be honest...I don't really think that's a big deal ya know? Why should she have to wait to get engaged until after you're married? It's not like she said she's getting married the same day as you, ya know?
Also, I got engaged at 22 and am getting married at 24...so I think it's a normal length and not too young.
elp6421
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honestly, it's just the point of it. I don't see why he could not have waited the 10 months until after my wedding. Her fiance's brother is also getting married. It's like they have decided since everyone else is doing it they have to to...
21 might not be too young for some couples, but seriously..these are two people who have some growing up to do.
I guess I just feel like it's not her time. It's really a respect issue especially when I honestly feel like he purposed to her for the mere fact that his older brother is getting married and FH and I are.
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honestly, it's just the point of it. I don't see why he could not have waited the 10 months until after my wedding. Her fiance's brother is also getting married. It's like they have decided since everyone else is doing it they have to to...
I still dont see what the big deal is tho... why should she have to wait to get engaged... how would you feel if someone told you to wait 10 months...
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honestly, it's just the point of it. I don't see why he could not have waited the 10 months until after my wedding. Her fiance's brother is also getting married. It's like they have decided since everyone else is doing it they have to to...
Hmm 10 months is a long time... idk...I don't really understand the whole getting mad b/c other people are getting engaged/married. My MOH and one of FH's GM's got engaged exactly a week after us and are getting married two months before us...and none of us care. or are mad People have to do what's right for them at the right time.
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honestly, it's just the point of it. I don't see why he could not have waited the 10 months until after my wedding. Her fiance's brother is also getting married. It's like they have decided since everyone else is doing it they have to to...
Why should either of them have to wait ten months to get engaged, just because that's when you chose to get married? Don't mean to be harsh but you have been engaged for what, ten months already where it was all about you and your wedding, and they're not even planning to have the wedding for another two years. I'm sure she is VERY hurt that instead of being happy for her and congratulating her, you told her you're hurt and angry with her. I can't imagine even wanting to be a MOH for someone that reacted that way to my engagement.
I understand you're pissed, and I understand why... but you need to check your emotions because it's not all about you, today was supposed to be about her. The issues with your family's reaction is a different story, take that up with them.
elp6421
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I guess it's hard to understand unless your in someone's shoes.
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Please dont take offense, but I think it's a bit insensitive to think that someone else should wait almost a year to get engaged. If she was getting married before you...or RIGHT after you...I could see being upset. But since she is having 2 yr engagement, I dont understand why this would be upsetting. She likely wont even be REALLY focused on her wedding until yours is over.
FH's brother got engaged in Sept (and his gf is 19) and my brother will likely get engaged soon...and I didnt or wouldnt think twice about it. I actually said I would help them plan-- even if they chose to get married this year!
I would be very offended if someone thought I should stop my life for their wedding. Just my opinion. I honestly think you should be excited for your sister,,,especially since I am assuming you are close since she is your MOH
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I guess it's hard to understand unless your in someone's shoes.
I think that people are sympathetic to the fact that your family reacted in that way. But if your sister is planning on getting married in 2 years, why shouldn't she have 2 years to plan instead of just a lil over a year?
Plus, like I said, I was 22 when I got engaged, and if people judged me for being 'too young' I would've gotten really annoyed.
elp6421
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Plus, like I said, I was 22 when I got engaged, and if people judged me for being 'too young' I would've gotten really annoyed.
That might have come out wrong. I don't want to offend you or anyone else who might have been around that age when they got engaged.
I think some people are ready and some people are not. I just think he and her are not. It's a tough pill to swallow when her sister calls you to complain about her bf and then gets engaged to him.
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aww that stinks! my gf's sisters went through the same thing! one knew the other was getting engaged & the other one's bf proposed the night before! so the weddings ended up being months apart, the sneaks getting married first! & to this day there is still animosity between them all..it's like it's bad enough when it's friends but family, & your own sister?? stay strong & keep your head up this is your time & don't let anyone ruin it. I'm so sorry this has to be so hard
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honestly, i disagree with you completely. You should be happy for her! shes your sister!! who cares if shes 21, i got engaged at 22, married at 24. Just because you decide to wait 2 years to get married doesnt mean theres no point to getting engaged. the guy obviously loves her and he wanted to take their relationship to the next level, its notlike they decided to get married right before you on like 'stole your thunder.' i think this is perfectly harmless and is a really exciting thing to happen to her, there is no reason why she still cant be your MOH i think youre making this into a little more than it actually is. Sorry, this is just my honest opinion, i dont think you shoudl be angry, now youll have someone equally excited in your wedding plans!
elp6421
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sorry girls, I was just hoping to get some support here. I do appreciate your honest opinions but I just need to vent right now and blow off some serious steam.
