So angry!!!!!!!!!!!

totally understand that, everyone needs to vent and one time or the other, everyone offers opinions/advice thats the nature of a blog. i think some girls are just trying to show you that theres no need to really be angry and trying to help your situation out .

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Posted by Jna2010

honestly, i disagree with you completely. You should be happy for her! shes your sister!! who cares if shes 21, i got engaged at 22, married at 24. Just because you decide to wait 2 years to get married doesnt mean theres no point to getting engaged. the guy obviously loves her and he wanted to take their relationship to the next level, its notlike they decided to get married right before you on like 'stole your thunder.' i think this is perfectly harmless and is a really exciting thing to happen to her, there is no reason why she still cant be your MOH i think youre making this into a little more than it actually is. Sorry, this is just my honest opinion, i dont think you shoudl be angry, now youll have someone equally excited in your wedding plans!

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ITA! I couldn't have said it better myself.

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Posted by elp6421

sorry girls, I was just hoping to get some support here. I do appreciate your honest opinions but I just need to vent right now and blow off some serious steam.

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i totally understand it's a whole MIX of emotions....

Feel better!

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Posted by elp6421

sorry girls, I was just hoping to get some support here. I do appreciate your honest opinions but I just need to vent right now and blow off some serious steam.

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thats totally understandable... everyone has irrational reactions to things sometimes... it ***** that you told your sister how you feel already because now that tension is there... if it were me i would apologize to her and let it go...

I understand how u feel!

fsil got engaged 5 months after us, and they're both younger than fh and i..but fh and i were 22 and 23 when we got engaged-ill be 23 when we get married

honestly i know it can be hard to deal with at first-i was upset because fbil planned this whole engagement dinner and everyone knew but me, and i was away and wasn't even invited-so that upset me A LOT..and at first i was upset that they chose not to wait, but it's their life-not mine

and my wedding is still first, and more important for now..

i think you just need time to get used to the idea

I can understand you being upset over your parents reaction to her engagement as opposed to yours. But, I really don't understand why you can't be happy for your sister. If my sister got engaged I would be over the moon! I think you're feelings are a little selfish and I'm sure you would never want anyone to ask you to push your engagement off.

I think maybe you should be happy for your sister and think how exciting it is to be engaged at the the same time.

I'm sorry that you feel this way and I think everyone is being supportive of you feeling bad but you really should imagine how your sister must be feeling. She's probably excited and happy and can't even share those feelings with you. I hope everything works out for you.

Hey girlie. I don't really see anything wrong with it. I mean, if anything, hopefully they are just as in love as you and FH. And thats whats important. I can understand why you could be upset, but try and understand in no way is your sister trying to steal your thunder. Stealing you thunder would be getting engaged and than getting married a month after you.

Now its time to be an awesome older sister and coach her on this wedding. She is your MOH, and she probably is really exicted about planning her special day, so let her MOH obligations be a crash course in wedding planning.

I hope you don't get mad about the above, but your special day will be considered your special day still. And just think, now you can do all the wedding planning with her. You'll be her hero lol.. esp when it comes to the guest list, dresses, florist etc...

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Why should either of them have to wait ten months to get engaged, just because that's when you chose to get married? Don't mean to be harsh but you have been engaged for what, ten months already where it was all about you and your wedding, and they're not even planning to have the wedding for another two years. I'm sure she is VERY hurt that instead of being happy for her and congratulating her, you told her you're hurt and angry with her. I can't imagine even wanting to be a MOH for someone that reacted that way to my engagement.

I understand you're pissed, ... but you need to check your emotions because it's not all about you, today was supposed to be about her. The issues with your family's reaction is a different story, take that up with them.

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Sorry but I have to totally agree with this post. I really don't think that it is at all selfish for your sister to get engaged, and I doubt that they intended to rain in your parade. But you can't asked someone to revolve their lives around you for 2 years and not do anything 'wedding related' until your wedding is done with . I mean they just got engaged, I could understand if she told you that she's planning her wedding for a month before yours!

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Posted by JAAMS

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Posted by elp6421

I guess it's hard to understand unless your in someone's shoes.

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I think that people are sympathetic to the fact that your family reacted in that way. But if your sister is planning on getting married in 2 years, why shouldn't she have 2 years to plan instead of just a lil over a year?

Plus, like I said, I was 22 when I got engaged, and if people judged me for being 'too young' I would've gotten really annoyed.

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ITA. I was 22 {turning 23) when I got engaged, and I feel it was only a matter of time considering we were together for 2.5 years, and living together for a year before that. When you know, you know. Ultimately, age is just a number. You can be 19, 28, 35, 49 and still having some emotional growing up to do.

But I do agree with you about your family's reaction. That's absurd!! They should have showed you both equal amounts of excitement and happiness

I kinda had the very same thing happen to me... FH and i have been together for over 7 years by the time we got engaged and within 3 weeks of us getting engaged my FH cousins Both get engaged too!!! But i had to just share the light and we all enjoyed the moment as a family.

P.S. both of the couples they gt engaged when we did(Dec 12 08) BROKE UP SINCE THEN!!!

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Posted by IrinaBNY

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Posted by elp6421



(PS, try not to let her know you're pissed bc then the drama will really start.....)

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Too late. I already told her I felt so hurt by her decision to do this. She replies with 'your just so selfish' and tells me they are going to wait until she is 23 to get married.

Well then why get engaged?????????? I am so fired up.

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I don't think it was her decision to get engaged.. was it? Usually the guy is the person to propose.. I think especially since she won't be getting married for another 2 yrs.. you have NOTHING to worry about.. Instead.. you should let her be the MOH and when it's her turn to get married, she'll know more about planning a wedding :)

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ITA!!!!!!!!!!





PS: I got engaged at 21

ETA: I had to psotpone my wedding and we were going back and forth on dates to reschedule and had at the time decided on a date...my FSIL booked her wedding for that date

we're all brides here.... being mad cuz there's another bride in the world... not really the right venue to be pissed about that


Don't worry your wedding is first and foremost.....

I understand that you may have had an initial negative reaction, but I think you really need to take a step back and realize that this is your sister you are talking about. This is a BIG DEAL for her (just like your engagement was a BIG DEAL for you). How you react to this situation could irreparably damage your relationship with her.

You don't get a wedding year or month, you get a day. She's not scooping your wedding and getting married before you or even right after you. My sister got pregnant and married since I have been engaged and before I will be married. I am thrilled for her and her husband, it has made this year even more special.

Take a deep breath and think about the big picture. Do you really want to hurt your sister like this?