ok So here is the problem. I have a brother and fh has a brother as well...I am SUPER close to my brother and would actually like to walk down the aisle with him and my father...but my father doesnt want that. SOOOO fh picked his brother to be the best man which is fine...however I want my brother to be just as important. I told fh that I was going to make him my man of honor, and this way I would have a maid and a man of honor. Well fh said that that was ridiclous and didnt like that idea at all...He feels that this would take away from his brother being special. I really do want my brother to be a special part of the day... and if it was the other way around and we both had sisters, he would want his sister to be just as involved. What should I do to make my brother more involved??? Is anyone here having the same problem?
missexcited
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If your fh is against your brother being a man of honor what about your brother being a second best man. I have heard of 2 best men before. Your brother is not less important than fh's brother.
diva7531
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I see both sides of this. I am my sisters MatOH and my brother is the Man of Honor. But her finace has 2 best men and that is the whole BP.
At first I said, why can't your brother be a Man of Honor, but the further I read I wondered why when your dad said 'no' it was 'OK lets find another route' but when FH said 'no', you want him to change his mind.
That being said, I think you should look into other avenues, like a reader or something along those lines.
Good Luck, tough decision.
lillprincess54
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maybe you can make him be a groomsmen and then let him say one of the reading during the wedding or maybe let him say the grace at the dinner
jtgarsik
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ps: why can't you explain to your father that having your brother walk you down the aisle is something important to you???? If that's something you really want & would mean a lot to you, that's a BIG deal. not something u want to regret! was ur father hurt by it or something??
Christine N Ralph
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Thank you for your suggestions...FH and I are already have had this discussion...I wanted to see what you guys said. We arent 100% sure of what is going to happen exactly, because it is sooo far away. We are not fighting about it, but it is a subject that has the potential to becoming a bigger argument (Thank God it hasnt)
But my father believes that he should be the person to walk me down the aisle...and I agree with that. I dont want to take anything away from him, so I would not have a dance where my brother and father would both dance with me. I might have a special dance with my brother at some point in the wedding...(im nor sure about this) I asked FH if he would mind having my brother as the 2nd best man. And apparently this was an even worse suggestion then my man of honor idea!!! He was totally against it, so I forgot about that. Im not 100% sure what we are going to end up doing....But I do know that both of us are willing to compromise so in the end it might not be EVERYTHING that I wanted but at least hes willing to meet me halfway...
Im sure that we can come to an agreement where both of us will be happy...
janedoe2
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My brothers are walking me down the aisle, and one of them is my best man. I see no issue with this, but have no idea how i would convince my FH of that fact.
