So I sent him an email...UPDATED

just telling him how much I love him and that I really think it can work.

Do you think that's too desperate???

It depends on how you worded it...

I'm so sorry Dawn. I can only imagine how you must feel. I know how badly you want to talk to him face-to-face.

Guys are different. I would give him some space.

I am so very sorry Dawn.

Hmmmm i dont know your FH so hard to say exactly what the best way to handle this is.

Unfortunately, alot of people realize what they're losing when they feel that they have no chance with the person anymore. I know in past relationships if I wanted time and they called right away I felt as if i wasn't getting the time I needed and also thought that i had more time to think about things bc this person will still be there...wrong way to think i know.

BUt there have also been times I was upset or something and wanted the person to respond.

Its ok that you said you still love him and want to be with him and I dont think it would bother him that you did so, its very normal for the fact of what is going on...I would wait for his next move now

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Posted by Espo22

Hmmmm i dont know your FH so hard to say exactly what the best way to handle this is.

Unfortunately, alot of people realize what they're losing when they feel that they have no chance with the person anymore. I know in past relationships if I wanted time and they called right away I felt as if i wasn't getting the time I needed and also thought that i had more time to think about things bc this person will still be there...wrong way to think i know.

BUt there have also been times I was upset or something and wanted the person to respond.

Its ok that you said you still love him and want to be with him and I dont think it would bother him that you did so, its very normal for the fact of what is going on...I would wait for his next move now

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yeah i def agree...just give him some time to sort out whatever is going on in his head....

Yea, I don't know...hopefully he won't get annoyed. I emailed it to him so it's up to him to read it.
I just love him so much and I just know that this isn't right!

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Posted by DnellD809

just telling him how much I love him and that I really think it can work.

Do you think that's too desperate???

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don't email him for a little while. Try to keep busy. Let him wonder what you are doing. Is he coming back anytime soon??

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Posted by nmagel

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Posted by DnellD809

just telling him how much I love him and that I really think it can work.

Do you think that's too desperate???

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don't email him for a little while. Try to keep busy. Let him wonder what you are doing. Is he coming back anytime soon??

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No...he's there for good!

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Posted by nmagel

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Posted by DnellD809

just telling him how much I love him and that I really think it can work.

Do you think that's too desperate???

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don't email him for a little while. Try to keep busy. Let him wonder what you are doing. Is he coming back anytime soon??

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Yup its the best thing to do...see sometimes people only look at it from their side, oh i get to be on my own for a while and do my own thing, but forget oh wait that means the other person gets to do the same...While you're calling him or emailing himn he knows you are too hurt to focus on your own life now, so he wont worry...Stop calling, emailing, IM'ing or anything and let him wonder about where you are and what you're doing...Yes this is alot easier said than done, I think most of us can say that we've been through things like this in the past and when it was told to us it was extremely hard to do and yes even broke down and gave in at times. BUT when we have done it, it was the best thing and thats when things turned around.

i agree with the other ladies, you love him and want to make it work. it's not desperate....when you invest so much emotion and time into a relationship...you want to make sure that you exhaust all options before ending it


but like others said, i would NOT email him again....the ball is in his court now and you shouldn't email him anymore until he responds to you.

i hope things work out for the best!

I don't think it is desperate. It's good to let him know how you feel. I also think it is a little to late to be playing the 'let him sweat it out' mind games. Either he loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you or he doesn't. I don't think you can say something to make someone realize that they love you. I think you just need to give him some time. I'm sorry you are going through this

Dawn I don't think your email made you seem desperate. You were just expressing your feeling for him. I'm sure he know that you love him. I know it will be hard but do not send him another email or try to contact him. the ball is in his court now. See if he responds to your email.
I hope everything works out for you. we are here for you!!!!

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by nmagel

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Posted by DnellD809

just telling him how much I love him and that I really think it can work.

Do you think that's too desperate???

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don't email him for a little while. Try to keep busy. Let him wonder what you are doing. Is he coming back anytime soon??

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Yup its the best thing to do...see sometimes people only look at it from their side, oh i get to be on my own for a while and do my own thing, but forget oh wait that means the other person gets to do the same...While you're calling him or emailing himn he knows you are too hurt to focus on your own life now, so he wont worry...Stop calling, emailing, IM'ing or anything and let him wonder about where you are and what you're doing...Yes this is alot easier said than done, I think most of us can say that we've been through things like this in the past and when it was told to us it was extremely hard to do and yes even broke down and gave in at times. BUT when we have done it, it was the best thing and thats when things turned around.

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That's the worst part! I KNOW that I should just leave it be and I can't. I mean after this I will for sure but AHH I don't know what to do with myself