So I sent him an email...UPDATED

Hang in there.... be patient with him and let him see what he's missing.
I'm sending you pets - that's positive energy thoughts. my friends and I always send them to each other when they're going through a hard time.
Hope it helps!

Dawn!

Just do what your heart says. No one on this board can tell you otherwise. You know him. Youve known him when he was most vunerable, angry, happy, sad...

Espo22 had a good point....there are times when we want ppl to respond, and there are times when we want to be left alone..

But to only image the cloud of emotions that is in your head right now...

Dont be hard on yourself for your actions. Believe in yourself and the decisions you make. Go with your gut and youll get thru it.

Just remember that whatever happens, itll eventually work out in your best interests...whether or not you realize it at the time.

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Posted by dream426

I don't think that i is depsperate. I am sure he knows that you still love him. I do agree with the girls though. Now you wait for him to get in contact with you. Let him make the move now.

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i agree!!

Well before he read it we were texting eachother...he said he's so sorry for everything and asked if everyone hated him...which he's been asking a LOT!!!
He thinks we need to be apart for now...
I asked him if he thinks he loved me enough to see us together in the future and he said yea...we were just fighting too much! (still don't really get that part)
Then I asked if it would be bad if we kept in touch...his response.....No not at all BABY...I want to keep in touch!..
The he sent me a message saying he liked my email..
I said...good...I definitely put my whole heart into it...glad ya liked it :)
He sent me a smiley face too

Dawn...first off i am sooo sorry for this situation that is happening to you. i truly hope you are doing ok and getting through a rough time like this....you are in my thoughts!!!!



well...i believe you were not desperate at all for sending an e-mail. i know after FH and I fight about something i usually leave him a voice mail or email to get my true feelings out- cause sometimes i cant say them over the phone to him.

but i believe you need to take care of yourself as well and watch out for your self. i understand that he liked the letter and he may want to keep in touch which is a great sign...and i hope you two can stay in touch and work it out... but also i would watch cause if he is calling you BABY still but wants to be on a break or broken off for now...and still hang out with that girl in Denver- it isnt fair to you to be calling you that. He shouldnt have the right to get the best of both worlds..he cant be going off spending all his time in Denver with this girl and then coming back to you and calling you and telling you he really does love you but wants to be broken off for now...

ITS NOT FAIR TO YOU!!!!!

i dont want to sound mean by saying this but i honestly dont think it is fair for you to hear i love you and i do want to be with you while he is staying at this girls house or spending all this time with her...

I HOPE IT ALL WORKS OUT FOR YOU!! and i hope he realizes what he can lose because you are a great person and dont deserve to be fooled or mislead at all.....

keep us updated and i hope it all works out hun!!!

many

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Posted by DnellD809

Well before he read it we were texting eachother...he said he's so sorry for everything and asked if everyone hated him...which he's been asking a LOT!!!
He thinks we need to be apart for now...
I asked him if he thinks he loved me enough to see us together in the future and he said yea...we were just fighting too much! (still don't really get that part)
Then I asked if it would be bad if we kept in touch...his response.....No not at all BABY...I want to keep in touch!..
The he sent me a message saying he liked my email..
I said...good...I definitely put my whole heart into it...glad ya liked it :)
He sent me a smiley face too

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wow....talk about mind games? i think he still cares about you but maybe hes just confused? arent you suposed to be movin there? i think he wants to get back with you cause if not why would he care if everyone hated him? i hope it all works out!

i hope this all works out in the best way possible for you!! good luck

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Posted by cbcf

Dawn...first off i am sooo sorry for this situation that is happening to you. i truly hope you are doing ok and getting through a rough time like this....you are in my thoughts!!!!



well...i believe you were not desperate at all for sending an e-mail. i know after FH and I fight about something i usually leave him a voice mail or email to get my true feelings out- cause sometimes i cant say them over the phone to him.

but i believe you need to take care of yourself as well and watch out for your self. i understand that he liked the letter and he may want to keep in touch which is a great sign...and i hope you two can stay in touch and work it out... but also i would watch cause if he is calling you BABY still but wants to be on a break or broken off for now...and still hang out with that girl in Denver- it isnt fair to you to be calling you that. He shouldnt have the right to get the best of both worlds..he cant be going off spending all his time in Denver with this girl and then coming back to you and calling you and telling you he really does love you but wants to be broken off for now...

ITS NOT FAIR TO YOU!!!!!

i dont want to sound mean by saying this but i honestly dont think it is fair for you to hear i love you and i do want to be with you while he is staying at this girls house or spending all this time with her...

I HOPE IT ALL WORKS OUT FOR YOU!! and i hope he realizes what he can lose because you are a great person and dont deserve to be fooled or mislead at all.....

keep us updated and i hope it all works out hun!!!

many

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o wow i def agree....i didnt realize he was hangin out with this girl all the time. he needs to chose! its not fair to string you along

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Posted by kimNanthony

I don't think its right of him to string you along like that. If he doesn't think you should be together he shouldn't be calling you baby and giving you mixed signals. I feel bad mentioning this but do you think he doesn't want to date you right now because he wants to hang out with the other girl without feeling guilty?

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this is what i was trying to get at...i feel bad mentioning it but i hope this isnt the point of his breaking things off or anything...maybe he just needs some time

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by kimNanthony

I don't think its right of him to string you along like that. If he doesn't think you should be together he shouldn't be calling you baby and giving you mixed signals. I feel bad mentioning this but do you think he doesn't want to date you right now because he wants to hang out with the other girl without feeling guilty?

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this is what i was trying to get at...i feel bad mentioning it but i hope this isnt the point of his breaking things off or anything...maybe he just needs some time

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Yeah I agree. It's either you want to be with a person or not. A break is okay when your dating but when your engaged there shouldn't be any doubt.

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Posted by kimNanthony

I don't think its right of him to string you along like that. If he doesn't think you should be together he shouldn't be calling you baby and giving you mixed signals. I feel bad mentioning this but do you think he doesn't want to date you right now because he wants to hang out with the other girl without feeling guilty?

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this is what i was trying to get at...i feel bad mentioning it but i hope this isnt the point of his breaking things off or anything...maybe he just needs some time

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I really have no clue...I don't know how much they have hung out! Maybe that's how it is...I think i'm just really going to have to get over him and I don't know HOW.....Everything reminds me of him...I can't stop thinking about him...I can't eat...can't sleep!
This is soooo hard
AND if he ended up with that FUGLY ***** I would laugh!!! She is YUCK!!! hm

I think everyone has done a great job of giving you advice on here. Something I've learned with the 'lets take a break' is that I learned to step back a little and assess things. I know it hurts, I know you've planned your life out with him.
Also know that you have a lot to offer, don't lose yourself in this, have pride, reach for your inner strength (not that you aren't doing this, but it's good to be reminded) and know that he needs to work to get you back not you work to get him back. Show him with your actions, he has to fight for you and prove to you that he wants to figure things out.

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by kimNanthony

I don't think its right of him to string you along like that. If he doesn't think you should be together he shouldn't be calling you baby and giving you mixed signals. I feel bad mentioning this but do you think he doesn't want to date you right now because he wants to hang out with the other girl without feeling guilty?

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this is what i was trying to get at...i feel bad mentioning it but i hope this isnt the point of his breaking things off or anything...maybe he just needs some time

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I really have no clue...I don't know how much they have hung out! Maybe that's how it is...I think i'm just really going to have to get over him and I don't know HOW.....Everything reminds me of him...I can't stop thinking about him...I can't eat...can't sleep!
This is soooo hard
AND if he ended up with that FUGLY ***** I would laugh!!! She is YUCK!!! hm

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post her pic who is this girl? did he just meet her therE?

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Posted by DnellD809

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by kimNanthony

I don't think its right of him to string you along like that. If he doesn't think you should be together he shouldn't be calling you baby and giving you mixed signals. I feel bad mentioning this but do you think he doesn't want to date you right now because he wants to hang out with the other girl without feeling guilty?

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this is what i was trying to get at...i feel bad mentioning it but i hope this isnt the point of his breaking things off or anything...maybe he just needs some time

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I really have no clue...I don't know how much they have hung out! Maybe that's how it is...I think i'm just really going to have to get over him and I don't know HOW.....Everything reminds me of him...I can't stop thinking about him...I can't eat...can't sleep!
This is soooo hard
AND if he ended up with that FUGLY ***** I would laugh!!! She is YUCK!!! hm

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I know its hard but you need to occupy your time. Go out with your girlfriends, make funny faces on his pics, take on an activity, do something b/c you can't just sit at home and be depressed.

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Posted by DnellD809

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by kimNanthony

I don't think its right of him to string you along like that. If he doesn't think you should be together he shouldn't be calling you baby and giving you mixed signals. I feel bad mentioning this but do you think he doesn't want to date you right now because he wants to hang out with the other girl without feeling guilty?

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this is what i was trying to get at...i feel bad mentioning it but i hope this isnt the point of his breaking things off or anything...maybe he just needs some time

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I really have no clue...I don't know how much they have hung out! Maybe that's how it is...I think i'm just really going to have to get over him and I don't know HOW.....Everything reminds me of him...I can't stop thinking about him...I can't eat...can't sleep!
This is soooo hard
AND if he ended up with that FUGLY ***** I would laugh!!! She is YUCK!!! hm

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Maybe you should ask him whats going on with this girl and tell him to be honest with you. If he really is hanging out with her that says something about him that he can just break up with you and start hanging out with this girl right after.

they are ACTUALLY friends from high school.
I don't think anything happened with her...when we were breaking up we talked about it!
I don't think they have hung out since...
I was just reallllly jealous the night before and we got in a huge fight....
I really don't think he could ever have cheated onn me

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Posted by kimNanthony

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Posted by DnellD809

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by kimNanthony

I don't think its right of him to string you along like that. If he doesn't think you should be together he shouldn't be calling you baby and giving you mixed signals. I feel bad mentioning this but do you think he doesn't want to date you right now because he wants to hang out with the other girl without feeling guilty?

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this is what i was trying to get at...i feel bad mentioning it but i hope this isnt the point of his breaking things off or anything...maybe he just needs some time

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I really have no clue...I don't know how much they have hung out! Maybe that's how it is...I think i'm just really going to have to get over him and I don't know HOW.....Everything reminds me of him...I can't stop thinking about him...I can't eat...can't sleep!
This is soooo hard
AND if he ended up with that FUGLY ***** I would laugh!!! She is YUCK!!! hm

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Maybe you should ask him whats going on with this girl and tell him to be honest with you. If he really is hanging out with her that says something about him that he can just break up with you and start hanging out with this girl right after.

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i agree...IMO I think before making any assumptions about this girl and your FH you should ask him honestly....as he told you he didnt cheat on you but is he hanging out with this girl alot then you have the right to know!! And that should help you decide as to how you want to handle the situation. if he isnt hanging out with her all the time and it was just that one time, then maybe he just really does need a break to think about what he needs and wants in his life and to reevaluate how he feels and he better know what he has the chance to lose!! And I dont think you should sit around waiting for him as he does this...you need to get yourself out there hanging out with your friends enjoying your own time....i completely understand you will think about him, love him and have a hard time getting over him- but maybe you dont need to0- hopefully he will realize what he has the chance of loosing and he will win your love back sooner than later!!!