So Mad at my Mother right now

shoegal68 Posted: Mar 01, 2008 12:03 PM

So Mad at my Mother right now

i will try to keep this short. my florist said only parents & grandparents get bouts & corsages. No aunts, uncles etc because then how will guests distinguish between who is the mother or father.
So mother is insisting that my aunt get a corsage. I said no way. i told her what the florist said AND more importantly how will FH aunts feel. So she agreed at first. Then this morning she said she will do it on her own for my aunt. i went nutz ! I told her if you do that you will be causing problems with FH family AND you will be going against my wishes. i basically brushed her off the phone telling if she does that she will be ruining my wedding.

i can't understand her, for most of wedding planning she hasn't been involved at all. i have to drag her for fittings for her own dress. but she gets involved in the stupid trival things like this. She is so worried about offending my aunt. she said she got a corsage when my cousin got married.

Do you think i over-reacted?

Thanks

MikeandJess Posted: Mar 01, 2008 12:04 PM

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It actually sounds like a very silly thing for her to be so concerned over. I'm sure you're aunt will live without the corsage, I've never heard of aunts receiving corsages anyway.

shoegal68 Posted: Mar 01, 2008 12:06 PM

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Posted by MikeandJess

It actually sounds like a very silly thing for her to be so concerned over. I'm sure you're aunt will live without the corsage, I've never heard of aunts receiving corsages anyway.

Thank you very much... my whole point exactly. she is so concerned about offending anybody.

mRm2008 Posted: Mar 01, 2008 12:10 PM

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I dont think you over reacted at all. I think she missed the point that outside parents and grandparents other people don't 'need' one.

shoegal68 Posted: Mar 01, 2008 12:12 PM

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i am just so mad that after i told her NO this is the way it is. she is insisting on doing it anyway on her own. right now i am sooooo mad, i don't even want to see her right now

madseason Posted: Mar 01, 2008 12:34 PM

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Then you know what...when your aunt looks silly being out of place with a corsage...you know who to blame.

While were at it, lets get her a white dress too...and you can be twins...

shoegal68 Posted: Mar 01, 2008 12:38 PM

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Posted by madseason

Then you know what...when your aunt looks silly being out of place with a corsage...you know who to blame.

While were at it, lets get her a white dress too...and you can be twins...

LOL.
she will be eating it up. PLUS i am sure my mother will be getting my cousin's wife a corsage. mu aunt luvs attention. you had to see the dress she wore to my sister's wedding. you would think she was the MOB.

my mother is really getting on my nerves lately. this is just the latest. i could really go on about what i get calls about every day.

MikeandJess Posted: Mar 01, 2008 12:38 PM

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Posted by shoegal68

i am just so mad that after i told her NO this is the way it is. she is insisting on doing it anyway on her own. right now i am sooooo mad, i don't even want to see her right now

Tell her that you've spoken to security and they will not let her enter with a corsage

BNBride60 Posted: Mar 01, 2008 12:40 PM

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I TOTALLY understand. There are more people to think about than just the one aunt, and if you do it for her then EVERYONE else will say, 'why not me too?' My Mom actually did a similar thing, and a bunch of the girls on the boards were nasty to me when I complained about it. She went behind my back and paid for the BM dresses for 2 of the girls in my BP. The 2 girls were 2 of my cousins. Why would she do that for them if she wasn't going to do it for anyone else? It's not even like they are the only 2 family members in the BP - I have 2 other cousins in the BP AND ON THE SAME SIDE OF THE FAMILY that she didn't do it for. How are they going to react?

Sheesh - wedding stuff is so complicated!

JoesFutureWife Posted: Mar 01, 2008 12:41 PM

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In my FH's family, it's tradition for all aunts to get corsages and all uncles to get bouts. This is not the tradition in my family but i am going along with it. Now all of our aunts and uncles are getting coursages. So they don't blend in, we are doing corsages for the aunts and uncles in white carnations. MOB/MOG are wearing lilies to be distinguished and FH's grandmother is wearing roses. It's not ideal to have all of these corsages but it is fair to everyone and that was my biggest issues. I refused to do them for just his aunts/uncles.

shoegal68 Posted: Mar 01, 2008 12:41 PM

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Posted by MikeandJess

Posted by shoegal68

i am just so mad that after i told her NO this is the way it is. she is insisting on doing it anyway on her own. right now i am sooooo mad, i don't even want to see her right now

Tell her that you've spoken to security and they will not let her enter with a corsage

very funny. thanks i needed that laugh !

kimandvin Posted: Mar 01, 2008 12:41 PM

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hmmm Im not sure.. shes just being a mother for my wedding we are giving bout and cros to my great aunt who is like agrandma.. FH s grandparents and god parents thats it

madseason Posted: Mar 01, 2008 12:41 PM

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Can i come to your wedding with a corsage? Maybe if you tell her everyones wearing them, she wont want them...

but maybe then shed want a bok

shoegal68 Posted: Mar 01, 2008 12:45 PM

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i don't even see her very often. she lives in Canada. last time i saw her was about 4 yrs ago.

i'm ready to elope

madseason Posted: Mar 01, 2008 12:46 PM

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me too sweetie....you are not alone. I regret not listening to everyone who told me to take off and do it up.....

Im sitting watching the girls next door on E! and they went to sandals jamaica to see hollys sister get married and i amso jealous..

BNBride60 Posted: Mar 01, 2008 12:47 PM

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Posted by shoegal68

i don't even see her very often. she lives in Canada. last time i saw her was about 4 yrs ago.

i'm ready to elope

Don't worry - this is going to seem SO small after it's all over. You're still marrying the man of your dreams! And I agree with what someone else said - your aunt is going to be the one looking like a weirdo with a corsage on for no reason!

madseason Posted: Mar 01, 2008 12:53 PM

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Posted by JB1122

Posted by shoegal68

i don't even see her very often. she lives in Canada. last time i saw her was about 4 yrs ago.

i'm ready to elope

Don't worry - this is going to seem SO small after it's all over. You're still marrying the man of your dreams! And I agree with what someone else said - your aunt is going to be the one looking like a weirdo with a corsage on for no reason!

thanks for agreeing...

and remember...when people say...just go ...I know.....my MOM bought it....shes nuts. and have a laugh...

angl2001 Posted: Mar 01, 2008 01:00 PM

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Posted by MikeandJess

It actually sounds like a very silly thing for her to be so concerned over. I'm sure you're aunt will live without the corsage, I've never heard of aunts receiving corsages anyway.

i agree! its only parents and grandparents if that was my mom i would have acted the same way!!! ugh thats so annoying you are right to be annoyed!!

shoegal68 Posted: Mar 01, 2008 01:02 PM

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thanks for your responses.

I agree its so trival. more upset that she is thinking of going against my wishes to please my aunt. What about FH aunts?? how are they going to feel? i want my mother and FH mother to stand out & feel special. they both deserve it.

thanks again for listening to me.. i'm starting to cool off by just chatting with you girls. I hope my mother comes around & sees where i am coming from.