So Mad at my Mother right now

Original post by shoegal68

Mar 01, 2008 12:03 PM

i will try to keep this short. my florist said only parents & grandparents get bouts & corsages. No aunts, uncles etc because then how will guests distinguish between who is the mother or father.
So mother is insisting that my aunt get a corsage. I said no way. i told her what the florist said AND more importantly how will FH aunts feel. So she agreed at first. Then this morning she said she will do it on her own for my aunt. i went nutz ! I told her if you do that you will be causing problems with FH family AND you will be going against my wishes. i basically brushed her off the phone telling if she does that she will be ruining my wedding.

i can't understand her, for most of wedding planning she hasn't been involved at all. i have to drag her for fittings for her own dress. but she gets involved in the stupid trival things like this. She is so worried about offending my aunt. she said she got a corsage when my cousin got married.

Do you think i over-reacted?

Thanks

madseason Posted: Mar 02, 2008 07:28 PM

Re: So Mad at my Mother right now

It seems some girls think you overreacted...although I dont think you did. To clarify, its not the fact that your aunt is getting one, but its your one aunt, and not the rest of the aunts....I think you are stressing and foreshadowing bickering and talking that no one wants. Why cant something be done thats nice for all the aunts - FH aunts included. All aunts or no aunts?

If thats what youre feeling - no you arent...its completely normal to feel that way, and you are def not overreacting. But to benefit you in this situation and the way you react - when people do talk (if they do) Id say, yea...mom insisted...its silly...but whatever,...it shut her up! Have a drink and a laugh....

I also dont see that you ever posted this would ruin your wedding....I feel like ur just stressed...moms seem to do things that just make us cry out 'why why why must u do this...you make no sense...just stop.' I want to give my own mother a cease and desist order right now...

mnd1202 Posted: Mar 02, 2008 08:02 PM

Re: So Mad at my Mother right now

y does she want ur aunt to have one...its supposed to be her special day...her daughter is getting married...not ur aunts

PreshusSmurf Posted: Mar 02, 2008 08:14 PM

Re: So Mad at my Mother right now

My mom really wanted to do corsages and bouts for all my aunts and uncles. I have a big family, this would have been an extra 20 or so people walking around with flowers on. But we would have also done them for DH's family.

In the end I talked her out of it. Like you, I thought it was silly. It doesn't mean that you love your aunts & uncles any less, just because they weren't 'honored' with flowers at your wedding.

BUT if you cannot talk her out of it, then I would absolutely insist that your FH's aunts & uncles get corsages and bouts too!!!

shoegal68 Posted: Mar 02, 2008 09:07 PM

Re: So Mad at my Mother right now

my head hurts from thinking about this. she has put me in an awkward situation.

yes, i did over-react when i said she would ruin my wedding. but when i typed this post. i just off the phone with her. we all say/write things when we are upset.

also, i know my mother. she isn't just going to get them for my aunt. she will get get for my other 3 cousins coming along. so i 'm thinking of giving her this option. if she does get them for our side she will have to get them for FH's aunts, uncles, and cousins. It will her responsibility to make sure they get them. I am not going through my florist as i do not want them for my wedding. I don't know if she will do this. she says money is not the issue. she says doesn't want to offend anybody.

I will be upset if she chooses to go against my wishes. Its a small wedding & will look ridiculous with every other person having a corsage/bout. i guess will get over it.

thank you for all your responses. i do appreciate all your input & advice.