So my husband and I are getting separated

You are such a strong woman and those boys are going to admire you even more for that! All the best to you....

OMG alicia

Your boys will have a very strong, very intelligent, beautiful and determined mother.

ohmy gosh! I am soo sorry to hear this! I am shocked actually, If you need anyone to talk to/vent/rant/ etc...please feel free to FM---

Alicia, when I first saw your post subject, the first thing that popped into mind, was, ' oh no! that's sad, but she I hope she can still adopt her sons!'
I am happy that you are able to continue the adoption process.

These boys need a loving home & loving homes come in all different varieties. Having one parent who wants them so much it physically hurts, is better than having 2, when one isn't ready to be an parent.

Alicia:

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I am so in awe of your strength and courage and the determination to still adopt your sons. God bless you and I hope everything works out for everyone

I'm so sorry!!! I wish you and boys the best of luck. Everything will work out for you. You seem like a very devoted, caring, and strong person!!!

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Posted by tourist

Alicia, when I first saw your post subject, the first thing that popped into mind, was, ' oh no! that's sad, but she I hope she can still adopt her sons!'
I am happy that you are able to continue the adoption process.

These boys need a loving home & loving homes come in all different varieties. Having one parent who wants them so much it physically hurts, is better than having 2, when one isn't ready to be an parent.

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I really like the advice that Torist gave you and believe her 100%. You seem like such a great and selfless person and you will get through this. I think you will make a great mom. It's probably not going to be easy but it sounds that you are making the right choices for yourself and your future. DO what you have to do whether its move home etc. Try to take each day as it comes so you won't get overwhelmed. God bless-stay strong!

I'm so glad you are strong enough to make the decision that is best for you. I think too many people stay in bad situations because they are afraid of being alone, and I am proud of you for having the courage to do what is right for you. Know that even if you can't give the boys all you had hoped to, you are still getting them out of a horrible situation. Be strong.

Alicia, I am so sorry you're going through this, but I am perfectly confident that you will come oiut a better person in the end. My sister is a single mom and she manages just fine- and you will too. You said you didn't want to 'give up' and move back to Oklahoma, but that wouldn't be giving up at all. I think all new mothers like to have their own mothers close by. I'mnot saying you should move, but I think you should consider all of your options. Good luck with everything, and know that we're all here for you.

Alicia - I am so so sorry
You are a very strong woman and these boys were meant for you. They are two of the luckiest boys in the world to have a mother who is so strong and so committed to them!
I wish you all the best!

I don't know what to say that everyone else hasn't already - we are all here for you - you are doing the right thing. Time is a healer and I am sure you will find someone to treat you like a queen!

I am so sorry to hear about this. I wish you continued strength as you move forward through this difficult time. Many hugs to you

Good luck.

I am so sorry!

I am so sorry you are going through this hard time.

Sweetheart! I'm sorry you have to endure this. I really have nothing to add that hasn't been said before (since I'm on page 7 of this post!!!)

My Mom left my Father when I was 3 and I have to say, it was the best decision she ever made in her life (besides having me in the first place ) We moved to Maine and I lived w/ my Grandmother while my Mom came back here to NY to find a job an apartment etc... My Mom found a job as a typist for Exxon, that paid $7,000 a year, and we had a 2 bedroom apt. on the Upper West Side of Manhattan. How she ever managed to raise me on a $7,000 salary I'll never know. She now owns her own company and has a partner that loves her unconditionally.

I have no doubt in my mind that you will find much happiness and give so much love to your sons. Love is all you need. The rest, will fall into place. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help you out?

Michelle

I'm so sorry for you. On a positive note, best of luck with the boys you are adopting.