So my MOH just informed me that she can not be my MOH

That is completely unreal! honestly i would never talk to this person again. This is one of the most important days of your life and she is bailing?!


im sorry this happened. we are here for you :):)

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Posted by JLWSJC How long has your date beenbooked, maybe she didn't know the weddings would be the same day til now? I'd talk to her about it before you freak on her. If she's someone close enough to you that you wanted her to be MOH, then you should be able to be like so hey, why'd you say yes if you had this other wedding? I'm sad you won't be int he BP! Try to get to the bottom of it. If it's clear she's BS'ing you after that, THEN write her off, but give her a chance. WEddings make people act weird.

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this, give her a chance to explain but l would have thought she would have done this already

wow that is terrible! You seem to have a great attitude about it though. I hope your other BM's step up to the plate for you!

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Posted by Im getting Married

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Posted by JLWSJC

How long has your date beenbooked, maybe she didn't know the weddings would be the same day til now?

I'd talk to her about it before you freak on her. If she's someone close enough to you that you wanted her to be MOH, then you should be able to be like so hey, why'd you say yes if you had this other wedding? I'm sad you won't be int he BP! Try to get to the bottom of it.

If it's clear she's BS'ing you after that, THEN write her off, but give her a chance. WEddings make people act weird.

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this, give her a chance to explain but l would have thought she would have done this already

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I wish i could be so rational lololol

sorry to hear :( TO some people it's just a wedding; but to you it's YOUR wedding and everything is important to you. She'll see when she gets married how it feels when people flake at the last minute.

That's one unfortunate thing i've learned...people are not gonna be as happy/excited as you are. Just try not to let these set backs create life long grudges-it's just part of the territory.

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Posted by summerbride2580

I feel very upset about the whole situation but there is nothing I could do. She did say that shge had another wedding to attend so I assume that that person is more important. She has done this in the past though. Many different occassions, I have asked her to different events and she stood me up more than once. I'm just frustrated at this point.

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If this is the case then I would probably write her off. She has a history. You have other people who want to help you. They are more deserving.

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsONeill

I would wait to ask someone else when the time gets closer... I know that it seems like it's around the corner but think about it for a month or two and then if you feel like one of your girls really stepped up and deserves it then ask

Sorry this happened btw,

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I totally agree! Wait a while and then pick a new one!

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Posted by lilgem250

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Posted by summerbride2580

I feel very upset about the whole situation but there is nothing I could do. She did say that shge had another wedding to attend so I assume that that person is more important. She has done this in the past though. Many different occassions, I have asked her to different events and she stood me up more than once. I'm just frustrated at this point.

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If this is the case then I would probably write her off. She has a history. You have other people who want to help you. They are more deserving.

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This! She doesn't deserve to be a part of your day... let alone even invited to the event.

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsFox

are you really close with her? i don't understand why she would choose the other wedding over yours?!

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thats the first thought that popped into my head... unless this other wedding is family... shes completely effed up

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word.

Just some thoughts....

Shes messed up and according to your previous posts it seems she has let you down before. I say dont even allow her to the reception. If she has another wedding why can she make it to your reception? Unless the other wedding is family its messed up, big time. Is she married? Maybe shes jealous.

I realized from being in other weddings and even from planning my wedding, there are people that can never be truly happy for you.

Once you commit to being a MOH I dont see how you back out. Even if its a family wedding , I would think she would rather go to your ceremony and stand by your side and maybe just go to the other reception and congratulate them.

Take note of who your real friends are and choose another MOH.

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Posted by summerbride2580

I feel very upset about the whole situation but there is nothing I could do. She did say that shge had another wedding to attend so I assume that that person is more important. She has done this in the past though. Many different occassions, I have asked her to different events and she stood me up more than once. I'm just frustrated at this point.

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I'm really sorry to hear this happened to you. As you said she's been flaky before , maybe she doesn't see the difference between just a get together and your wedding. However her past flakiness makes it evident that she is not there for you as a friend should be. Since you feel close to her I would talk to her about it but I think I would let her know this is the last straw with this type of behavior and you need people around you that you can count on. If she cannot see how wrong she has been ... let her go ... it will be better for you in the end. Trust me.

She seems shady! She is your best friend I am assuming? I kind of feel like when my best friend or even one of my BM's have weddings more important to go to than mine I know about them b/c when that other bride gets engaged my BM would tell me b/c the would be excited. How is she just missing your ceremony? She has a day wedding to go to? Maybe she didn't want to be MOH, or can't afford and didn't know how to tell you? Like you said things like this have happened in the past so I would just let it go. I would pick another MOH no matter what because even if she changes her mind you don't know if she will do this again. Then i would want to know *** is up! From her answer decide if you want her there. she seems flakey! You don't need this during your planning. Seems like you are about it have some pretty awesome SIL!