we have a meeting with the priest tomorrow night to take our Foccus test!
Ahhhh! I'm freaking out!!!
what if he tells us we aren't ready to get married or something??? lol
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J79
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i don't even know what that is! i'm jewish! haha
but good luck and i'm sure everything will be fine!
Jennielee15
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What the heck is a foccus test???
JTG4EVER
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Oh dont worry! I did it! It's not that bad. It's not for them to see that you arent good together....they help you find areas where conflict may happen so you are prepared for it. It also makes you and FH talk about stuff you never really thought about it. It's actually really good. We learned a lot. It was almost like a pre-marriage counseling. It was really helpful.
CantWaitMrsH
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do not fret! the facilitator of the test would never tell you that because that is not what the test is about. its rather painless, about 200 questions, based on main categories that couples tend to disagree about - money, child rearing, inlaws, responsibilities etc. its a psychological test, but its really to get the two of you talking and communicating!
dont fret! its NOT a compatability test. just a way to show you the areas you may not agree on and to start the dialogue now! we survived and you will too!
now pre-cana i am not so sure about :o)
ImgonnabeMrsC
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Haha when we met with the priest, he didn't tell us we were going to have the test right then and there, so we were SO nervous and confused haha. He put us in seperate rooms and it was 150 questions - some of them so RIDICULOUS!!!, I'm sure you did fine! How did it go?!
ImgonnabeMrsC
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haha I'm afraid for pre cana too!
SoonToBeMrsFox
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don't worry.. i'm sure you guys will do great!
Colcas2011
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wow- i have to get going with the church stuff!!!
LaBellaVita622
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aww no worries you'll be fine
Mommy2BeBride
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So we spent about 2 1/2 hours with the priest.. FH went first to answer his questions.. then I answered mine.. and we both came back to discuss everything.
It all went well, we just have a few minor things to work on like where we want to live after the wedding because we both have different views (I want a co-op because financially I feel thats what we can afford, but FH wants a house) and also how soon after the wedding we want kids. (I want a honeymoon baby, and he wants to wait a year or two. So we have to decide what we both want together.)
Now we have to figure out when is good for us to do pre-cana and we are done with the church thing!
