So who wants to hear new fmil drama????

Original post by stinenandy2010

Dec 17, 2009 09:09 AM

As we all know too well my fmil is just a psycho, no other way to put it.

Anyway, Fh's parents are divorced. His father remarried about 15 years ago. When they got divorced, his father got custoday of him, therefore his stepmother has played a very important role in raising him.

Here is the drama, FH wants to dance with both his mother and stepmother which I think is a great idea. Well he told his mom and she FLIPPED!!!! Like screaming, leaving nasty messages on all of our phones basically saying how he can't do this bc she is the mom and the stepmom means nothing. She went as far to call relatives and tell them all this. Good thing our relatives know how crazy she is. She has been badmouthing us 24/7 for the past few days. Now she isn't coming to the RD.

Fh really doesn't care since he has dealt with this his whole life. But she has a nack for always ruining stuff for us. O well, I'm over it, just thought I would vent a little.

Kiki1103 Posted: Dec 17, 2009 09:49 AM

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you need some

MrsC2010 Posted: Dec 17, 2009 09:52 AM

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wow shes crazy. im sorry

FallBride2010 Posted: Dec 17, 2009 10:06 AM

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Does she not realize that his step-mother raised him?!!!!

Clover23 Posted: Dec 17, 2009 10:07 AM

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possessive much, FMIL? jeez!!!

Iluvpoodles Posted: Dec 17, 2009 10:14 AM

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move far, far away from her.

Mrs Z To Be Posted: Dec 17, 2009 10:16 AM

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Ugh...So sorry...FMIL's can REALLY s u c k a big one!

Spring143 Posted: Dec 17, 2009 10:16 AM

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seriously shes making this day all about her !

stinenandy2010 Posted: Dec 17, 2009 10:27 AM

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Posted by AngnShaun

Posted by stinenandy2010

ya know i honestly don't care too much, i refuse to let her get to me and ruin my day! i just feel bad for fh b/c i think deep down he wants her there since its his mom but then she does crap like this

FH uninvited his mom to the wedding until she gets help... but know that he really wants her to get better so he can have his mom back... its pretty sad...

fmil has been in and out of mental instituions...even committed by the state a few times, nothing helps bc she goes off and on her meds so much.

stinenandy2010 Posted: Dec 17, 2009 10:28 AM

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Posted by RitasEngaged

wow psycho - i could only understand her pov if she had custody of fh but she didn't and shes crazzzzzzzzzzzzzzzyyyyyyyyyy

i know! his stepmother raised him....and whenever he was suppose to go to his mom's like a few weekends a year, she always blew him off. but she is totally convinced she is 'mother of the year'

bridezilla2b Posted: Dec 17, 2009 10:31 AM

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I feel your pain!!

Sounds like your FMIL and mine are 2 pea's in a pod!

AngnShaun Posted: Dec 17, 2009 10:31 AM

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Posted by stinenandy2010

Posted by AngnShaun

Posted by stinenandy2010

ya know i honestly don't care too much, i refuse to let her get to me and ruin my day! i just feel bad for fh b/c i think deep down he wants her there since its his mom but then she does crap like this

FH uninvited his mom to the wedding until she gets help... but know that he really wants her to get better so he can have his mom back... its pretty sad...

fmil has been in and out of mental instituions...even committed by the state a few times, nothing helps bc she goes off and on her meds so much.

what meds is she supposed to take... i really think my fmil has to go to an institution... FH caught her talking to herself yesterday... he over heard her talking to herself telling herself 'dont mind me im just talking to myself' ... im curious how many personalities are in there... its scary... no one wants to be around her anymore, not even her sister or brothers...

stinenandy2010 Posted: Dec 17, 2009 10:38 AM

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Posted by AngnShaun

Posted by stinenandy2010

Posted by AngnShaun

Posted by stinenandy2010

ya know i honestly don't care too much, i refuse to let her get to me and ruin my day! i just feel bad for fh b/c i think deep down he wants her there since its his mom but then she does crap like this

FH uninvited his mom to the wedding until she gets help... but know that he really wants her to get better so he can have his mom back... its pretty sad...

fmil has been in and out of mental instituions...even committed by the state a few times, nothing helps bc she goes off and on her meds so much.

what meds is she supposed to take... i really think my fmil has to go to an institution... FH caught her talking to herself yesterday... he over heard her talking to herself telling herself 'dont mind me im just talking to myself' ... im curious how many personalities are in there... its scary... no one wants to be around her anymore, not even her sister or brothers...

i don't know specifically what she takes, but she has bottles and bottles....and honestly, when she is taking them she is 'ok', not great, but bearable....but you immediately know when she goes off of them b/c she gets crazy. and usually around the holidays is when its the worst.

AngnShaun Posted: Dec 17, 2009 10:40 AM

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thats hard... because you cant force them to do anything...

same way with mine with booze... when she hasnt drank in a few days shes semi normal... fh confiscated a bottle of vodka from her yesterday... their real estate agent saw her going into the liquor store and called FH... how sick is that that even your RE knows you have problems, and tells on you... there isnt one person shes met that she hasnt caused an issue with

NanandEric08 Posted: Dec 17, 2009 10:41 AM

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Wow, she is nuts! No matter how crazy or dramatic she becomes, don't let her ruin your day!

JAAMS Posted: Dec 17, 2009 10:41 AM

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oh man, sorry this is happening to you

KerriJohnS Posted: Dec 17, 2009 10:47 AM

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Hi - I'm going to crash. :)

Ahh!! people like this are ridiculous!!

you and your Fh seem like you are doing a great job of ignoring it and not letting it get you guys down. Which is EXACTLY what you should be doing. Things get hectic and more hectic as it gets closer and closer. Just let it roll off... even though it's hard. Don't give in to her. Do what you guys want to do and if she isn't happy... tough!! Like you said... it's not like she was an award winning mother in the first place (no matter what her delusional mind may think).

I understand her being upset about the dance and all... but she has to know she's not stellar (even if she deny's it to everyone else... she MUST know she hasn't done the best job)... and right now she should be selfless and just say.. OK, if that's what you want to do. It's also not like the stepmother was JUST introduced into the picture!!

I had grandmother issues. I think everyone gets something crappy to deal with as the wedding day aproaches. GOOD LUCK!!!! And just ignore this nut.

stinenandy2010 Posted: Dec 17, 2009 10:55 AM

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Posted by KerriJohnS

Hi - I'm going to crash. :)

Ahh!! people like this are ridiculous!!

you and your Fh seem like you are doing a great job of ignoring it and not letting it get you guys down. Which is EXACTLY what you should be doing. Things get hectic and more hectic as it gets closer and closer. Just let it roll off... even though it's hard. Don't give in to her. Do what you guys want to do and if she isn't happy... tough!! Like you said... it's not like she was an award winning mother in the first place (no matter what her delusional mind may think).

I understand her being upset about the dance and all... but she has to know she's not stellar (even if she deny's it to everyone else... she MUST know she hasn't done the best job)... and right now she should be selfless and just say.. OK, if that's what you want to do. It's also not like the stepmother was JUST introduced into the picture!!

I had grandmother issues. I think everyone gets something crappy to deal with as the wedding day aproaches. GOOD LUCK!!!! And just ignore this nut.

well said. and thats the thing, his stepmother has been in his life since he was 8! she has raised him and done a terrific job. i can understand his mom a little, but the bottom line is that she is still in love with his dad (the ex)...which is unreal since they have been divorced for almost 20 years! she even wanted to have a special dance with his father

but your right, i completely ingore it b/c she wants me to get angry and ruin my day but i won't let that happen. this is my one special day and no one will ruin it! i'm too excited anyway to have her bring me down!