Sobbing.

OMG - I can't believe you're going through this!

Your mother should NOT be your MOH (unless you want her to be - this is your choice!), and she should not be allowed the extra 20 guests she wants b/c well - she's not paying for the fu*cking wedding!

As for the baby and bridal shower - ask the girls who are in your wedding party, or a trusted confident - maybe you could combine both showers into one to save you time and energy to go through two? Or a Jack and Jill party with your husband?

Thank you everyone. It's good to hear that I'm not being a brat.

I feel better today. I have decided not to talk to her for a week until I calm down some. I'm just not going to take any of her calls. I need to readdress the issue of her friends. I am going to tell her she has to pay for them, end of story. FH said 'when they don't get an invitation, they'll figure it out.' He also said that he'll give me his credit card number & that he'll buy my wedding gown

I was SO upset last night. My FMIL called and said not to fret, that she can't wait to have a new daughter in law & a new baby . FH says that his family will throw me a shower if I want one. He also suggested we go to Babies R Us this weekend & she said he'd buy 'the whole registry' for me so that we won't have to ask anyone for anything.

I'm looking forward to starting my own new family & getting rid of the old, cr@ppy one.

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Posted by carolinebr

Thank you everyone. It's good to hear that I'm not being a brat.

I feel better today. I have decided not to talk to her for a week until I calm down some. I'm just not going to take any of her calls. I need to readdress the issue of her friends. I am going to tell her she has to pay for them, end of story. FH said 'when they don't get an invitation, they'll figure it out.' He also said that he'll give me his credit card number & that he'll buy my wedding gown

I was SO upset last night. My FMIL called and said not to fret, that she can't wait to have a new daughter in law & a new baby . FH says that his family will throw me a shower if I want one. He also suggested we go to Babies R Us this weekend & she said he'd buy 'the whole registry' for me so that we won't have to ask anyone for anything.

I'm looking forward to starting my own new family & getting rid of the old, cr@ppy one.

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Your FMIL sounds so sweet! Just surround yourself with people that make you feel good and keep you happy, those are the ones who will watch out and be there for you through thick and thin!

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Posted by carolinebr

Thank you everyone. It's good to hear that I'm not being a brat.

I feel better today. I have decided not to talk to her for a week until I calm down some. I'm just not going to take any of her calls. I need to re-address the issue of her friends. I am going to tell her she has to pay for them, end of story. FH said 'when they don't get an invitation, they'll figure it out.' He also said that he'll give me his credit card number & that he'll buy my wedding gown

I was SO upset last night. My FMIL called and said not to fret, that she can't wait to have a new daughter in law & a new baby . FH says that his family will throw me a shower if I want one. He also suggested we go to Babies R Us this weekend & she said he'd buy 'the whole registry' for me so that we won't have to ask anyone for anything.

I'm looking forward to starting my own new family & getting rid of the old, cr@ppy one.

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I am glad that you are in a better place today. Just remember that different people react differently to life. Thank God you have a loving in law family, not to mention FH who will provide you will all the love and support possible.

I hope that things ease up with your mom and sister. they seem to not be concerned with how they are affecting you and your baby.

Sending good thoughts, prayers and your way!

Aww, I'm so sorry. You should take some time for yourself to relax and try to calm down.

It seems to me that your mom needs to be the center of attention. But just think of all of the great things you have going on! You're getting married and having a baby! Enjoy this time and try not to let anyone spoil it!

I hope my simplified view of your situation makes you feel a bit better.....

Your mom is a miserable person, and she sees numerous major HAPPY events in your life. She is doing everything in her power to drag you into her abyss. Your responses are completely reaonsable.

To rectify your shower situations, maybe a sibling or friend could organize it?

Also, is your mother paying for any portion of the wedding? If not, she has no right to invite ANYONE to your party.

Just focus on your happy new life, and be greatful you don't live with mom....

awwww sweetie ~ I am sorry you are going through all this right now ~ wedding, baby... you don't need no extra added stress ~ you have to relax a litle bit ~ you are have to start thinking about yourself and be alittle selfish right now ~ this is not about your mother this is about you and your new family (hubby & new baby) here are some huggies for you i have some mother issues also ~ right now i have not spoken to my mom in over a year and it looks like she is not even going to be invited to the wedding... i have been doing this all by myself...if you ever want to FM me you are more than welcome! We can chat!

Gezzzz, Im really sorry that your going thru this , sounds like your mom is still not over your dad & there is alot of unresolvd issues there!!!!
I know what you are feeling !!!!!!

Hang in there , just look at it this way , in the end it is your day & you will have exactly what you want on your day !!!!!

HOLYS^#^#* I am sooo sorry .....Keep your head up...be strong.! And No u r not a brat!

ugh family troubles during baby and wedding planning time is terrible!!
i had alot of simliar situations, if you need to talk FM me ;)