so...I think...

I'm booking 2012.

I just can't deal with the stress of worrying about $ anymore :(

It sorta sucks but if I'm committing to a wedding, I'd rather worry less.

Tonight, we're sitting down and talking about it. I'm taking away his debit card. I'm serious. He spent almost $350 in 2 days! Meanwhile he's so stressed about $ it's not funny but he doesn't have the ability to save.

I set up a separate bank account ( I already have 3 lol) for the wedding and I'm having it automatically taken out every paycheck.

FYI this is why I pay all the bills! geez.

I'm still staying w you girls cause I love you all!

Awww. Good luck either way. If pushing it back will save you a ton of stress than its definitely worth it. Either way you better not abandon us on here though

nah I'm staying.

The sad thing is that I already have all my vendors picked out really lol.

The stress is killing me and I'd like to sleep at night. I even asked him if we could elope and he got this sad puppy dog look and I shut up.

You really need to do what you think is best for both of you and if that means pushing the wedding back so you have more time to save than that's what you should do.

But if you do move to 2012, You better not be going anywhere missy! I want to see daily posts on here from you!

You do what you have to do. What if you did a say time wedding will it save you more money? The grounds there are gorgeous so it may be nice to get to see it during the day?


If its not cheaper than it makes sense to push it but will you get a cheaper price if you book now for 2012?

Aww Amy Im sorry your stressin.. Its ok.. We are all here to help but if pushing it back to 2012 will help then maybe its best. It will give you more time to get everything where you want/need it to be. and you BETTER NOT leave us... EVER! LoL

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Posted by soontobmrshammer

You do what you have to do. What if you did a say time wedding will it save you more money? The grounds there are gorgeous so it may be nice to get to see it during the day?


If its not cheaper than it makes sense to push it but will you get a cheaper price if you book now for 2012?

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I;m already having a daytime sunday wedding! lol.

The sad thing is that I'm not really sad about it though. I mean, I feel stalled and a bit frustrated and bc I;m older I have going on but really, I'm not sad.

I told Anthony that and he said, 'You don't want to marry me.' and again puppy dog sad face.

I do. I just don't have his need of the big bash like he does.

I told him we should just have a baby lol.

well you have to do what works the best for you. I stress bc i see everyone really enjoying this process and bc we are so financially strapped i feel like i worry so much about that aspect that im not FULLY enjoying it.

This planning can really get away from you if you let it. I say all the time to my FH that i want to do things as cheap as we can so im trying to find ways to still love it and be budget conscious.. I hate making decisions so far in advance bc im constantly changing my mind about things. It is too much money to not be happy with your decisions u know!

You do what you gotta do - but its great either way... you guys are still planning a wedding and have time to really get everything together.

And you will be part of the LIW community either way (altogether now 'awwwwwww') lol

As long things work out with u chica calabaza is GREAT!!

But dont leave us... =( I havent even meet u yet ... Dont switch to Boards LIW 2012!!!

I am glad u guys decided to do that... Because it will give u MORE time to plan things...

We had this same issue until we felt 'why wait?' We will be 31 by the time we get married and I didn't want to have kids at 36+... so we just had to cut down a lot. We cut our list from 110 to 75.. that meantsmaller room/hall, less favors, less decorations, less invites, etc...we also JUST starting saving for wedding expenses..had to cut back on birthday celebrations, fun things during summer, etc...there will christmas for the young ones only..

If you can cut back and have a smaller wedding, tough job but really what's important to you? you can have all the nice things that you too both want...without having all the hoopla

But make sure it is what you BOTH want.... compromising is key!

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Posted by marisagee

We had this same issue until we felt 'why wait?' We will be 31 by the time we get married and I didn't want to have kids at 36+... so we just had to cut down a lot. We cut our list from 110 to 75.. that might smaller room/hall, less favors, less decorations, less invites, etc...

If you can cut back and have a smaller wedding, tough job but really what's important to you? you can have all the nice things that you too both want...without having all the

But make sure it is what you BOTH want.... compromising is key!

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the sad thing is that the wedding isn't important to me at all. We already have a house. It's all about FH. He's Latin and has a huge family. He wants the wedding.

I wanted to go somewhere amazing for 2 weeks, get married, explore...

he said no.

Do whats best for you guys!!

We know you'll always be an '11er at heart!!

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Posted by allornil

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Posted by marisagee

We had this same issue until we felt 'why wait?' We will be 31 by the time we get married and I didn't want to have kids at 36+... so we just had to cut down a lot. We cut our list from 110 to 75.. that might smaller room/hall, less favors, less decorations, less invites, etc...

If you can cut back and have a smaller wedding, tough job but really what's important to you? you can have all the nice things that you too both want...without having all the

But make sure it is what you BOTH want.... compromising is key!

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the sad thing is that the wedding isn't important to me at all. We already have a house. It's all about FH. He's Latin and has a huge family. He wants the wedding.

I wanted to go somewhere amazing for 2 weeks, get married, explore...

he said no.

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my side of the family is mexican and i have a lot of family... a lot of cousins are not invited because if i invite one thats like 25+ ppl i have to invite...

he wants the wedding but he isn't budgeting for the both of you, well he needs to get his act together.. lol

well maybe you can compromise in some way- still have a wedding but not go overboard so its the best of both worlds. He can still have his wedding but then not have as many people so you are happy to..


Is he dead set on Lands end? bc there are other places less exp on the water that are just as nice.

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Posted by FutureJOC

You really need to do what you think is best for both of you and if that means pushing the wedding back so you have more time to save than that's what you should do.

But if you do move to 2012, You better not be going anywhere missy! I want to see daily posts on here from you!

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ITA! If 2012 works best, hello 2012!
this is really stressful

You deserve to enjoy this experience. If pushing it off will make it less stressful, than I say do it.

You know, as long as you arn't going to leave us!