Last week I sent out an email to all of my BM saying that they should start making fitting appointments, what shoes, some day of details, etc.
This morning I got a response from one of the girls saying that she couldn't be in my wedding.
THERE ARE LESS THAN TWO MONTHS LEFT AT THIS POINT!
She asked me to be in her wedding and at the time, I was out of work for several months with an injury and couldn't afford to be in her wedding and let her know it 7 months prior to her wedding and before dresses or anything been ordered. Bear in mind that her wedding was 2 weeks ago and I went and gave a gift. I also went to her shower and offered to help her with anything else she needed help with on several occassions leading to her wedding.
I am so mad that she did this and I told her so. There was no reason given and I am owed an explanation. I feel like she used me to come to her wedding and make her minimum and have me give a gift. She must have known 2 weeks ago that she planned on backing out of my wedding, but she let me believe all was fine.
I am more mad at this point since she should know better than anyone having just gone through this process that people lay out money for BP gifts, etc. and I have done that at this point.
I would have understood had she done this in a timely manner, but I now I just feel used. Maybe she made me come to her wedding and give her a gift so that her dress for my wedding would be paid for? I just don't get it.
Sorry this is so long, I just had to vent to people who would understand.
stephanief
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Posted by JCMsGirl05
I did nothing to her in this. She was the hurtful one here. The truth hurts and you are right, reading this probably does hurt her.
I agree that if the friendship is severed, why even discuss this? You are OBVIOUSLY upset at her and I can't understand why you don't admit that?
VS11
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If one of my BM'S did this to me, I would be more concerned with our friendship and the reasons why she backed out,,rather than losing money. I wouldnt worry about the money I am losing for the gift I bought the bridal party..I wouldnt worry about the bridal party line-up..I wouldnt worry about wanting the gift I gave at her wedding back or wishing I paid by check that way I can cancel it.... I would worry about where the hell our friendship went wrong......do you honestly believe that because you dropped out of her wedding that she is doing this out of spite??? You had to have seen your friendship in jeapardy prior to this incident...no? I am not taking sides,,i am just looking at it as if it happend to me...
ETA: just wanted to add that you have every reason to be upset and hurt,,who wouldnt be...but you should be less upset with her for dropping out of the bridal party and more upset that u are losing a friend..
MrsA814
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i'm so sorry that happened to you
Happybride2005
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Posted by bella11
If one of my BM'S did this to me, I would be more concerned with our friendship and the reasons why she backed out,,rather than losing money. I wouldnt worry about the money I am losing for the gift I bought the bridal party..I wouldnt worry about the bridal party line-up..I wouldnt worry about wanting the gift I gave at her wedding back or wishing I paid by check that way I can cancel it.... I would worry about where the hell our friendship went wrong......do you honestly believe that because you dropped out of her wedding that she is doing this out of spite??? You had to have seen your friendship in jeapardy prior to this incident...no? I am not taking sides,,i am just looking at it as if it happend to me...
ETA: just wanted to add that you have every reason to be upset and hurt,,who wouldnt be...but you should be less upset with her for dropping out of the bridal party and more upset that u are losing a friend..
i agree. the friendship would mean more than having her in the bridal party
