I am going to take it upon myself to try to make this as drama free as possible.
For those of you who are confused...
Some of the girls on the board felt the need to start a new board to post on because there was a lot of drama going on here a few months ago. According to them, they wanted a place to come to post about different wedding things, vent, and also talk about things that were personal and didn't want to talk about on here.
In the process, these girls became good friends and began hanging out and doing things together. People have accused them of being a clique. The board was by invite only and they started to post DFZ (for Drama Free Zone) to promote no drama on the original LIW that we all love.
As time progressed posts ranting about the content of the boards here started up bashing general ideas and threads as well as specific people. A lot of people participated in these boards, but just as many didn't or tried to difuse the situation.
Around noon or so someone posted a link to the website informing all of us. The initial thread and a couple of the response threads were taken down by Kim to try to keep the peace. As a lot of arguing ensued and many of the girls were hurt. The board where all the bashing took place was also taken down, so none of the links work and you cannot find it or any of the posts anymore. Some of the information was saved, but the girls who have saved the quotes have not yet posted anything.
The 09ers Shower was canceled as a response to so many people pulling out of the shower after feeling hurt or being hurt by the secret boards. Some of the people (both guilty and innocent) are also deleting their accounts on here as well.
This thread is just to inform people of this and I will not tolerate drama on here! Please do not post nasty things, post positive things only.
I agree that it is totally not fair. I think it is petty and horrible and I'm hurt by all of this even though I didn't see anything about me on there. I just think that we shouldn't let what happened THERE ruin what happens HERE.
If you have a problem with something someone said about you. Don't fight about it here, FM that person. Let's be adults from now on.
Soon2BMrsC09
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Where were these secret boards? Im confused and just trying to catch up.. sorry
as soon as we all found out about them, ya know, since they really werent that terrible , they disappeared, i mean someone just deleted them! on a different website that you need to be 'invited' by one of them to chat with them...
MrsInglima
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Where were these secret boards? Im confused and just trying to catch up.. sorry
I don't remember what the actual website was, but it wasn't on LIWeddings.com. It was a board they made up themselves.
tgrlily339
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ohhh ok... was just curious.. thanks
ItalianMcBride09
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Are we in highschool
this is a wedding foram thats it....
If you have other problems talk to a therapist or you friends not your 'computer friends' .....
Im over the drama
iYexie
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thanks for the explanation!!!
FutureMrsMacci
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this just really saddens me.. I guess coming on here to get ideas and plan a wedding is more stress than I can bargain for. Anyone else feel like deleting their account and not bothering anymore since you never know who is talking about you??
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I know I am a new member so I am not going to take sides or trash talk anyone because a) I wasn't involved and it''s not my place to do that and b)I am not the type to bad mouth people period but I am still REALLY CONFUSED!! I guess what gets me is people keep saying there was a lot of drama on these boards a few months back (hence the formation of the new boards) and that just makes no sense to me! I thought this site was supposed to help people who are getting MARRIED network and share ideas?? How could drama even result from such a thing in the first place?? This whole situation just really upsets me because I was referred to this site by one of my best friends and she did nothing but rant and rave about how wonderful everyone is. She made some good real life friends from this site and I was hoping that eventually I could do the same! I am not going to take sides either way but I really hope this gets resolved as I am too old and too busy to deal with this type of drama! I just don't understand why we can't all be friends!
CNC4eva3402
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That explains some of it..I just don't understand why?
I really love coming to this board, its sad when you have to have your guard up just to have casual convo on a open wedding board!
Dreemer107
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so that really explains why a lot of people who were posting on here on a regular basis....suddenly stopped..
Soon2BMrsC09
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so that really explains why a lot of people who were posting on here on a regular basis....suddenly stopped..
you were READING my mind - its like they all disappeared - probably lurking and reading EVERY word ...
IrishBrideASmiling
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wow what is LIW coming to?
How do you make up your own board? Do you create your own web site or something? I dont get it? I missed alot today, huh?
MaureenM618
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Or off on their new board starting it all over again...hmmm.
Soon2BMrsC09
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im sure it will just take some googling and websurfing to find it... im game - im at work til 9pm...
meli722
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Or off on their new board starting it all over again...hmmm.
probably..i hope theyre talking about me, i love being famous lol
Aristotelina
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I was apart of that board but I think I read it for maybe 4 days and then lost the link to it so I just never went back.
In all honesty, I have no idea what is going on or what was being said but no offense to anyone I dont have free time FOR MYSELF lately let alone enough free time to worry about other peoples business and talking negatively about others.
Hope this blows over and everything goes back to normal!
We all have weddings to plan people!!!!!!
IrishBrideASmiling
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I was apart of that board but I think I read it for maybe 4 days and then lost the link to it so I just never went back.
In all honesty, I have no idea what is going on or what was being said but no offense to anyone I dont have free time FOR MYSELF lately let alone enough free time to worry about other peoples business and talking negatively about others.
Hope this blows over and everything goes back to normal!
We all have weddings to plan people!!!!!!
Well put. There are far too many more important wedding related issues that we are all stressing over.
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Posted by Aristotelina
I was apart of that board but I think I read it for maybe 4 days and then lost the link to it so I just never went back.
In all honesty, I have no idea what is going on or what was being said but no offense to anyone I dont have free time FOR MYSELF lately let alone enough free time to worry about other peoples business and talking negatively about others.
Hope this blows over and everything goes back to normal!
We all have weddings to plan people!!!!!!
Well put. There are far too many more important wedding related issues that we are all stressing over.
however, i bet if you were one who wasnt part of the board ou would have a bit more time to waste in being upset about people being so terrible.
IrishBrideASmiling
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Posted by Aristotelina
I was apart of that board but I think I read it for maybe 4 days and then lost the link to it so I just never went back.
In all honesty, I have no idea what is going on or what was being said but no offense to anyone I dont have free time FOR MYSELF lately let alone enough free time to worry about other peoples business and talking negatively about others.
Hope this blows over and everything goes back to normal!
We all have weddings to plan people!!!!!!
Well put. There are far too many more important wedding related issues that we are all stressing over.
however, i bet if you were one who wasnt part of the board ou would have a bit more time to waste in being upset about people being so terrible.
Listen, I didnt read the board and I could care less what people say, think, etc about me. If they want to be immature and ignorant, go ahead. I am here to support fellow brides.
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Posted by IrishBrideASmiling
Posted by Aristotelina
I was apart of that board but I think I read it for maybe 4 days and then lost the link to it so I just never went back.
In all honesty, I have no idea what is going on or what was being said but no offense to anyone I dont have free time FOR MYSELF lately let alone enough free time to worry about other peoples business and talking negatively about others.
Hope this blows over and everything goes back to normal!
We all have weddings to plan people!!!!!!
Well put. There are far too many more important wedding related issues that we are all stressing over.
however, i bet if you were one who wasnt part of the board ou would have a bit more time to waste in being upset about people being so terrible.
Perhaps but in all honesty WHO CARES!! Its a message board. If people were wasting their time talking smack about me I would probably feel sorry for them and not really take it to heart!!!
Unfortunately, people (not all of them, but MOST) talk about other people. As long as its not the people closest to you or that MATTER to you--who cares?!!!!!!
