Something strange.....not quite sure what to do...

HearzBellz Posted: Jul 31, 2003 05:54 PM

Something strange.....not quite sure what to do...

I have been having strange dreams, sometimes nightmares about the 'one that got away.' It is really bothering me because I haven't though about him in YEARS & now 3 nights in a row.....

Did anyone else have this happen; am I just getting cold feet?

Janine24 Posted: Jul 31, 2003 06:01 PM

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I don't have these dreams but then again I am just recently engaged. But I do think its cold feet. I am sure you have a ton of things running through your mind at this time. I wouldn't let this bother you.

Nikki10-12-03 Posted: Jul 31, 2003 06:02 PM

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For some strange reason I have been having dreams zbout my ex also, i NEVER think about him and it has been freaking me out

HearzBellz Posted: Jul 31, 2003 06:03 PM

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I am actually starting to feel guilty I think

I guess you are right, though... It's just a lot at once

prncssrachel Posted: Jul 31, 2003 06:04 PM

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I had it happen when I first got engaged. And it was just my subconscience mourning the loss of my singlehood, and then I realized, JT IS THE LOVE OF MY LIFE, so there really is no 'one that got away'. Cheer up, it's normal

HearzBellz Posted: Jul 31, 2003 06:04 PM

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Nikki.... is it freaking you out during the dream or after you wake up..... OK, I know that sounds weird, but I don't freak during the dream, I think that is why it is bothering me.

but I can relate.

Pickle Posted: Jul 31, 2003 06:06 PM

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Have you read the Diary of a Mad Bride book? it was hysterical, but the main character went through a series of these dreams with all her ex-es. She was advised these are 'saying goodbye' dreams for old flames.

Don't be worried - you'll be fine!

HearzBellz Posted: Jul 31, 2003 06:08 PM

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whew..... I am extra afraid cuz I talkin my sleep . I am just soooo afraid that I am going to get cold feet & bail (it happened once before ) and I don't want to do that.

Thanks gals, I feel a bit better already

dino1109 Posted: Jul 31, 2003 06:16 PM

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Lately a song that reminds me of an old one that I just practically threw away has been playing frequently onthe radio again, for some reason. So this makes me often think of him and what it would have been had I not been so aweful. I do not htink this is cold feet, really b/c I am not thinking twice of marrying FI- just a glance back in time and maybe a few thoughts on how life might have been different....

mlp924 Posted: Jul 31, 2003 06:25 PM

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We all have 'one that got away'. Relax you are marrying the right one and he got away for a reason. It's just cold feet. Don't feel guilty

Kathy116 Posted: Jul 31, 2003 06:28 PM

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It's happened to me too, more than once, with different ex's!

I'm not alarmed and I don't think you should be, it's natural. You're committing to your FI for the rest of your life, he's the one that won your heart, and it's only natural to reflect (even if it's unconsious, in a dream) on the others who didn't earn this wonderful place in your life.

SOinlove Posted: Jul 31, 2003 06:46 PM

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I had the strangest dream last night that my fiance and I were getting married at a baseball game, in the stands...and I gave him a ring...but he never gave me mine, and in my head I'm like...oh its coming though!! Then I started crying cause my family wasn't there...and then I saw them sitting in the crowd and started bawling cause i was so happy they were there...talk about weird...

vickalina Posted: Jul 31, 2003 06:48 PM

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How about this?????? About a month ago my 1st love emails me through classmates.com after not talking to him in 12 years!!! Then I have nightmares about him for the following week!

dino1109 Posted: Jul 31, 2003 07:08 PM

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I guess all this weird stuff is happening to us all....

bisous247 Posted: Jul 31, 2003 07:32 PM

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It's funny how our psychie works, I think it is intimidating to think that of 'forsaking all others for as loooooooooong as we both shall live'. That's a long time with the same person and although we have the dreamy-eyed idea of the perfect wedding and happily-ever-after, it is normal to remind ourselves of when we were still a part of the dating game (for better or for worse!)

sophie78 Posted: Jul 31, 2003 09:36 PM

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I actually found out last night that my ex of 6 years also got engaged. Of course, I made the terrible decision to call him tonight out of curiosity. I completely regret doing it because it was clear that he hasn't grown up. He still seemed like an A$$HOLE.

I was the one who broke it off to be with my FI. I guess deep down I always wanted him to suffer in loneliness. But I feel for the woman who will have a life sentence of misery with him.

I am so happy with my FI that I was hoping he would be miserable so he would feel guilty about the way he treated me.

Sasha96 Posted: Aug 01, 2003 08:41 AM

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I thought the same thing..Diary of a Mad Bride!

Lunatrek Posted: Aug 01, 2003 08:48 AM

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I have dreams like this too. I agree with what others were saying... maybe you never really had closure, so it's a way of saying good-bye now that you're getting married.

I hate those dreams, though! They get stuck in my head for the rest of the day.

Chloegirl Posted: Aug 01, 2003 09:17 AM

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I have had similar experiences... I dont really dream about that individual but I think about him on occasion. I think its because the comittment we are about to make is for ever and because I DID share A LOT with this person. I have tons of memories with him and there is now way i can or even want to block them out of my mind.

IMO its natural and will happen to the best of us.

HearzBellz Posted: Aug 01, 2003 09:26 AM

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whew...... I thought I was going crazy...... I almost called him, too, to get that extra closure, but after reading this, I have decided against it; I guess i just have to kiss my single life good bye.

Thankx galz....yourock!