sometimes people dont realize what they are saying
Original post by cbcf
I went to dinner with some of my friends tonight. And well my best friend whom I love to death kind of hurt my feelings today with what she said to me....but I dont think she realized....
We were chatting about engagement rings because her boyfriends brother just got a ring for his gf...and will be proposing soon. Now my best friend does not like hte gf at all...and I met her last night and she is NOT a nice girl at all...so I completely understand. And she is mean to my best friend. Anyway my best friend was saying how she is mad because they are getting engaged and they broke up in May and now are back together and he has a ring already. So she was telling us about the ring the brother got his gf and my best friend said it was ugly. I am not going to say hte type of ring just because I dont want to offend anyone. But she also said it's only 1.5 carats so what that means the center stones only 3/4 or something and then she continued to say OMG never I want bigger that is such a lame ring or something to that effect.
Now this is where she hurt my feelings. My ring is 1.5 carats and the center stone is 1 carat and the rest of the diamonds on it is the .5 carat....But I kind of took offense to this since my ring is smaller than what she wants- she wants 2 carats....And I felt like saying be happy with what oyu get you shouldnt expect anything you should be so happy that your FH picked it out or for those who wouldnt leave it up to their FH to pick out atleast be happy with what he is able to pay for. I mean engagements and marriage arent about the ring...and now I feel my friends when they say my ring is nice are just saying it to be nice about it and think it is small and stuff...I MEAN obviously we all dont like certain types of rings but I am alsonot going to put someones size of the ring down.....
sorry just had to vent i was a little taken back and offended but didnt say anything...
Mrs. V 2008
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dont feel bad or make that hurt your feelings.. she wasnt thinking... she also has no clue
just wait til its her time and if her bf can afford what she wants... she may have a realizty check.
I think most of us were at that place at some point. saying ohhh i really want at least 2 carats or etc... until you really realize what that will cost!
thank you!!!
thank you everyone else as well...i feel bad now I dont want to portray my best friend as a brat or anything. Like most of you said she doesnt realize becasue she is not in our position. Also I think she was just mad about her own bf's brother and him proposing and her whole situation with the gf. I shouldn't take things to heart. Especially when she is my best friend....
But thanks everyone!!!! I think I just became more emotional since FH left haha
feel better and please don't let people like this bother you..its not worth it..your marrying your fh and thats all that matters!
cbcf
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Posted by jgl
dont feel bad or make that hurt your feelings.. she wasnt thinking... she also has no clue
just wait til its her time and if her bf can afford what she wants... she may have a realizty check.
I think most of us were at that place at some point. saying ohhh i really want at least 2 carats or etc... until you really realize what that will cost!
thank you!!!
thank you everyone else as well...i feel bad now I dont want to portray my best friend as a brat or anything. Like most of you said she doesnt realize becasue she is not in our position. Also I think she was just mad about her own bf's brother and him proposing and her whole situation with the gf. I shouldn't take things to heart. Especially when she is my best friend....
But thanks everyone!!!! I think I just became more emotional since FH left haha
feel better and please don't let people like this bother you..its not worth it..your marrying your fh and thats all that matters!
thanks Kristin. I know for some reason I am letting alot of the wedding issues bother me. I think it is because I now know I am by myself with the planning- well I have my mom and my sisters but my FH was such a help when he was home for the month and now he isnt and I am getting alot more stressed...thats prob why I am letting everything get to me lol
Mrs. V 2008
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Posted by jgl
dont feel bad or make that hurt your feelings.. she wasnt thinking... she also has no clue
just wait til its her time and if her bf can afford what she wants... she may have a realizty check.
I think most of us were at that place at some point. saying ohhh i really want at least 2 carats or etc... until you really realize what that will cost!
thank you!!!
thank you everyone else as well...i feel bad now I dont want to portray my best friend as a brat or anything. Like most of you said she doesnt realize becasue she is not in our position. Also I think she was just mad about her own bf's brother and him proposing and her whole situation with the gf. I shouldn't take things to heart. Especially when she is my best friend....
But thanks everyone!!!! I think I just became more emotional since FH left haha
feel better and please don't let people like this bother you..its not worth it..your marrying your fh and thats all that matters!
thanks Kristin. I know for some reason I am letting alot of the wedding issues bother me. I think it is because I now know I am by myself with the planning- well I have my mom and my sisters but my FH was such a help when he was home for the month and now he isnt and I am getting alot more stressed...thats prob why I am letting everything get to me lol
aw im sorry he's not home..but just think next year you'll be married to the love of your life!!
cbcf
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Posted by jgl
dont feel bad or make that hurt your feelings.. she wasnt thinking... she also has no clue
just wait til its her time and if her bf can afford what she wants... she may have a realizty check.
I think most of us were at that place at some point. saying ohhh i really want at least 2 carats or etc... until you really realize what that will cost!
thank you!!!
thank you everyone else as well...i feel bad now I dont want to portray my best friend as a brat or anything. Like most of you said she doesnt realize becasue she is not in our position. Also I think she was just mad about her own bf's brother and him proposing and her whole situation with the gf. I shouldn't take things to heart. Especially when she is my best friend....
But thanks everyone!!!! I think I just became more emotional since FH left haha
feel better and please don't let people like this bother you..its not worth it..your marrying your fh and thats all that matters!
thanks Kristin. I know for some reason I am letting alot of the wedding issues bother me. I think it is because I now know I am by myself with the planning- well I have my mom and my sisters but my FH was such a help when he was home for the month and now he isnt and I am getting alot more stressed...thats prob why I am letting everything get to me lol
aw im sorry he's not home..but just think next year you'll be married to the love of your life!!
i know i cant wait....it's going to flyyyyy byyyy
MattandTricia07
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Barging in..
IMO people who place such importance on the SIZE of the ring and not what the ring MEANS are not ready to get married. That isn't what it is about- like all of us know. Yes a nice bling bling on the ring makes planning a lot nicer, but it's not the size, but the love that is behind it.
Butterfly123
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Yeah she probably just didnt realize. FH and I have been together 6 years and I would have killed him if he spent more than he did on a ring for me. Someone actually said in front of him how my ring was small. He felt bad and sometimes he tells me he wishes he got me a bigger ring and how hes going to get me a bigger one one day. But I wouldnt want anything different. I love the size of my ring and I love that FH splurged money he saved to get it for me. I felt bad that this woman made him feel bad about it. But she meant to say it and didnt care what she said. Im sure your friend would never want to hurt your feelings.
Fall Bride 2008
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Sounds like she is jealous because she dosent have a ring. Dont worry
Super2star
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Don't let what your friend says get you down...she probably has no idea how much rings cost these days!!! she is dreaming....reality will kick in when her and her bf get engaged...if she has one..
futuremrsfab
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i'm sure she didnt mean to offend you- but i can totally understand why you would feel that way... it has got to be so difficult for her to accept that she is now stuck with this witch- so i am sure that she was speaking out of anger. try and be patient with her :)
