sometimes posts confuse me...

but i guess its so hard because we dont know the whole story..

for example..

post 1: something like 'its over'
then its updated like a day or 2 later : with soemthing like 'we are back together'

post 2: same day as update: something like 'we looked at halls today'

huh??? am i the only one who finds these posts strange?


ETA
What im trying to say here is that.. its wierd how one day someone is broken up - wedding OFF - posting and asking for words of spport, then the next day they are back together and looking at halls again... to me.. it's like. take a moment, make sure everything is okay.. then look at halls.. its almost like it never happened

Hope that makes more sense

Yes although i am slightly confused from this post..

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Posted by KiTTeN0819

Yes although i am slightly confused from this post..

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haha

i ll clarrify in my OP

I'm confused!!!!

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Posted by jgl

but i guess its so hard because we dont know the whole story..

for example..

post 1: something like 'its over'
then its updated like a day or 2 later : with soemthing like 'we are back together'

post 2: same day as update: something like 'we looked at halls today'

huh??? am i the only one who finds these posts strange?


ETA
What im trying to say here is that.. its wierd how one day someone is broken up - wedding OFF - posting and asking for words of spport, then the next day they are back together and looking at halls again... to me.. it's like. take a moment, make sure everything is okay.. then look at halls.. its almost like it never happened

Hope that makes more sense

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yes i agree. That it strange. Although i havent noticed it myself yet.

yeah did i miss something

Yeh I noticed a post like that tonight. I felf bad for the bride but now I know what's going on.

It's tough when they cant resolve their problems the first time.

I didnt see the post, but it seems strange that someone breaks up and gets back together and and is then looking for RH and getting married.

Its jmo, but if fh and I broke up a lot- I wold rethink the wedding for just now

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Posted by ChristineAaron08

I didnt see the post, but it seems strange that someone breaks up and gets back together and and is then looking for RH and getting married.

Its jmo, but if fh and I broke up a lot- I wold rethink the wedding for just now

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yeah thats what i'm saying.. like just give yourselves some time to MAKE sure that everything is going to be okay.. i def wouldnt continue booking stuff.

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Posted by jgl

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Posted by ChristineAaron08

I didnt see the post, but it seems strange that someone breaks up and gets back together and and is then looking for RH and getting married.

Its jmo, but if fh and I broke up a lot- I wold rethink the wedding for just now

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yeah thats what i'm saying.. like just give yourselves some time to MAKE sure that everything is going to be okay.. i def wouldnt continue booking stuff.

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sounds like a red flag that its all about the wedding. but then again, I have no clue what the situation is.

Sometimes I see people arguing about things or wanting to break it off for things that really aren't THAT bad. I sit there expecting to read OMG they cheated or something...then I read it and im like hmmm its not that bad, in relationships you deal with things like that and you cant end it everytime you fight and then get together again and then the cycle continues. Then when someone says something about their relationship they get defensive. There most likely will be ALOT tougher times down the road, gotta learn how to handle the smaller things first.

i don't know if this applies to the situation you are talking about but im talking about many other things ive seen

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Posted by Espo22

Sometimes I see people arguing about things or wanting to break it off for things that really aren't THAT bad. I sit there expecting to read OMG they cheated or something...then I read it and im like hmmm its not that bad, in relationships you deal with things like that and you cant end it everytime you fight and then get together again and then the cycle continues. Then when someone says something about their relationship they get defensive. There most likely will be ALOT tougher times down the road, gotta learn how to handle the smaller things first.

i don't know if this applies to the situation you are talking about but im talking about many other things ive seen

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i agree denise.. sometimes i think people are too quick to break it off instead of getting down to what the real problem is and working on it (although sometimes its not the right situation) but i think people are also quick to post it on here .. then to me they just seem like attention cravers when they post they are back together the next day

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Posted by Espo22

Sometimes I see people arguing about things or wanting to break it off for things that really aren't THAT bad. I sit there expecting to read OMG they cheated or something...then I read it and im like hmmm its not that bad, in relationships you deal with things like that and you cant end it everytime you fight and then get together again and then the cycle continues. Then when someone says something about their relationship they get defensive. There most likely will be ALOT tougher times down the road, gotta learn how to handle the smaller things first.

i don't know if this applies to the situation you are talking about but im talking about many other things ive seen

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Exactly- you need to pick your battles. IDK, I just see that saying 'its over' all the time is very high schoolish. Like 'its over' b/c of a dissagreement. If I broke it off w/ fh everytime I was po'd at him. Whooa- we would never be married...lol I agree- its definitely a learning process.

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Posted by jgl

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Posted by Espo22

Sometimes I see people arguing about things or wanting to break it off for things that really aren't THAT bad. I sit there expecting to read OMG they cheated or something...then I read it and im like hmmm its not that bad, in relationships you deal with things like that and you cant end it everytime you fight and then get together again and then the cycle continues. Then when someone says something about their relationship they get defensive. There most likely will be ALOT tougher times down the road, gotta learn how to handle the smaller things first.

i don't know if this applies to the situation you are talking about but im talking about many other things ive seen

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i agree denise.. sometimes i think people are too quick to break it off instead of getting down to what the real problem is and working on it (although sometimes its not the right situation) but i think people are also quick to post it on here .. then to me they just seem like attention cravers when they post they are back together the next day

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yeah- i definitely agree with the attention getting aspect

why not just post- I had an argument w/ FH

not- we broke up...lol

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Posted by angl2001

sometime what can be little things to some of us are BIG things to others so even tho we dont think its a big deal , we need to be supportive of those who think they are.

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I absolutely agree with you.. but I also feel like it diminishes all our words and time we spend trying to support the person for them to be here the next day and everything is peachy keen and things are back to normal when yesterday the wedding was off.. ... im being harsh.. but seriously.. its how i feel sometimes

im not sayin gthe person should pretend like things are still bad - IDK it just comes off strange