sooo annoyed dont know how to handle...

Sorry for the vent ladies but i need some advice...maybe i'm being emotional but this situation is driving me crazy!!

so everytime i ask FH for his opinions he says he doesnt care about the details...he trusts my opinions...i DONT need his approval to do anything...but eventhough he says these things i still try to involve him in some ways.

For example: i wanted his help with choosing STDs but once again he said pick whatever i want. After i order them i can show them to him...

now last night...color themes came up and he goes i really like ___ color...and it caught me off guard because i already had a color theme in mind! so i told him what i was thinking about..he had the nerve to say...he's going to choose what colors the GM will wear not me! ***???? Then he said he wont be a guest to his own wedding..he has to make some of the decisions

This sort of thing happens all the time with wedding planning, which is why you have us to vent to!

Take a deep breath and try not to react right away when stuff like this happens. Otherwise it could cause all-out brawls constantly during the planning process. Just so you know, a LOT of FHs are like this. They say 'just pick, I trust you' then suddenly have some opinions.

The best advice I've heard is to give your FH two (TOPS THREE) choices when it comes to some major things at the wedding. Like colors. That way he has input but you still are making a lot of the decisions.

In this particular case, there aren't a ton of colors GM can wear -- what color did he say he liked? Do you have a photo from a magazine of people wearing that color you can show him and ask him if that's what he's picturing? You can still go with whatever color you were originally planning (well, unless you wanted fuchsia and he's choosing burgundy I guess) or you can incorporate some elements in his color.

This is both of your wedding, and he does care, despite his protests. You'll get through it all, and hopefully it'll bring you both together more!

Welcome to wedding planning!

We all go through this!!

The things FH doesnt care abt I'll make the decisons on, the few things he actually cares abt I let him decide.

Maybe you can compromise on color. You can have some grls in your color & the other in his or just choose a color you both can be happy with. If hes up for it have him go to a bridal store & look @ dresses in the different colors.

HTH GL

he didnt even say what color he wants but his reaction is what really caught me off guard...i dont mind compromising or using whatever color he wants but dont tell me pick whatever then have an opinion!!

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Posted by 01ELLIE

he didnt even say what color he wants but his reaction is what really caught me off guard...i dont mind compromising or using whatever color he wants but dont tell me pick whatever then have an opinion!!

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Thats just how they are. Dont let these little thing get you upset or cause conflicts bet you & FH.
Remember the wedding is 1 day but marriage is for LIFE.

When your more relaxed ask him what color he likes, show him some photos, point out what you like. If you want a certain color stroke his ego. say smthin like Baby I love you in this BLUE (whatever color you like) it looks really good on you. You know how to get what you want from him. Let him feel like hes apart of the process, but dont give him too many option bcuz then he will get turned off & not take it seriously

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Posted by 01ELLIE

he didnt even say what color he wants but his reaction is what really caught me off guard...i dont mind compromising or using whatever color he wants but dont tell me pick whatever then have an opinion!!

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Sounds like my Fh. take a deep breathe and remember that he is a man...they are not as smart as we females are. Try to be calm when you speak to him and ask him what are the things that are important to him and must have at the wedding and then find a way to include them in what you already have planned.

thanks ladies....