Sorry Ladies, but I need to VENT (long)!!

There's so much DRAMA with only 4 BMs.

Backstory - FSIL was continuously contacted by MOH (my cousin) and never responded in regards of the shower. So MOH called me to make sure the date was ok (as the BP was having trouble with a date), I asked FMIL if she and FSIL were avail. FSIL threw a fit that I asked her mom. Basically, I said that she never responded, and if she wanted to just be told when and where - that she should inform the girls.


My shower is a week from today....
1. my roommate has told me that my MOH has never given them a $$ of how much she would like toward the shower. She's concerned as $$ is tight.

2. FMIL responded to the shower for both her and FSIL.

3. FSIL has now decided to call MOH and ask what she can do.

4. MOH is not calling anyone back. None of the girls, my mom, no one. I understand if she's busy, but it's NEXT WEEKEND. In addition, I gave her a list of 57 (room holds 50 and the guar. was 40) last time my mom spoke to her, 12 said no. Don't you think she should have asked me for a B list, since I had to cut some of my friends down?!

IN ADDITION: My bachelorette is supposed to be JULY 16th (almost a month from today) and NOTHING has been planned, NOTHING. Perhaps, I should just plan it myself at this point.


Thanks for reading ladies...

im sorry your going throught this...i dont get why people cant just do what they are suppose to and make us brides lives easier...i think you should sit with your moh and speak to her

I wish - but she isn't even responding to me!!!

My mom offered to give $$ toward the shower, but my cousin won't even tell her that. It's just super annoying, and makes me really sad.

wow whats her deal that shes not even responding to you

id just show up at her house and let her have it especially that she has a big role and im sure she wouldnt want to be treated or short changed the way shes doing it to you....keep me posted...its sad that some people dont know how to be a moh or a bm...unreal..im really sorry your going through this..not like you need any other stress geez

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Posted by fdnybride163

this is part of the reason why i am planning my own shower....

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thats smart


i gotta say thank god for my mom i know she has been working real hard for mine besides making sure noone tells me im having one lol

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Posted by rosatemp

wow whats her deal that shes not even responding to you

id just show up at her house and let her have it especially that she has a big role and im sure she wouldnt want to be treated or short changed the way shes doing it to you....keep me posted...its sad that some people dont know how to be a moh or a bm...unreal..im really sorry your going through this..not like you need any other stress geez

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She's already married, I was her MOH and I did the best I could with everything - esp. since I was paying for most of the shower on my own.

She lives in CT so stopping by her house isn't an option.

FSIL is also the issue as she COMPLAINS about everything. She told me the BM dress I picked was too hot and she was going to pass out at my wedding and everyone would be too concerned about her to pay attention to me... lovely, right?

im sorry you have to deal with this. I dont understand why she isnt responding to anyone? Thats not right esp since you did all this for her! Do your aunt or uncle (her parents) know where she is and how to contact her?

Would any of your other BM be willing to take over the planning for the bachlorette party? I mean you shouldnt have to plan your own, unless you want to.

My Aunt and Uncle know how to reach her in the same manner as my mom. However, her other cousin is getting married tomorrow, so they'll see her and mention something to her as to call my mom back.

My roommate is such a giving person. She is willing to plan the bachelorette, however, she doesn't want to step on anyone's toes. It's all just very dramatic.

In the end, I know my cousin is looking bad, but his sister is looking like a schmuck too. Blahhhhh