Spin Off to Girls who live with FH b/f the wedding ..
Original post by JRT5412
Ok .. This is to all the girls that live with FH b/f marriage. When you all went to talk to your priest or rabbi's about getting married, did they ask you if you and FH live together? did you lie and say No? or did you tell them truth? if you told them the truth what was their response?
I am asking this b/c on Monday I went to confession. In my confession i told the priest that FH and I live together. He asked we if we lived together like Brother and Sister and I was like NO we live like a couple. He asked if we thought about getting married anytime soon and I said we were in the process and we are getting married in the Catholic Church. Well he started going on talking about how the ceremony of marriage in the church is to unite the couple and how we weren't suppose to be living together b/f getting married b/c then that beats the whole purpose of having a catholic ceremony. Anyway he made me feel like I shouldn't be getting married in a church. And I've been feeling weird ever since. Like i'm such a sinner for living with FH
What do you girls think?? Thank God he is not a priest in my church or the priest who will be marrying me. But I was just curious if anyone had the same experience??
roblisa09
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Honestly, I grew up Pentecostal. Very strict and very religious and I eventually came out of that religious mindset years ago. I think that this is all about personal convictions. I never understood the whole confession thing. The only one that can truly forgive any sin is the one who shed HIS blood for you. While I do believe that we must obey or submit to some kind of faith authority I don't think you need to lie and the end the only one you truly need to answer to and can judge you is God. After all he knows the true intentions of your heart. Don't be so stressed about this, pray in your heart about it and I agree with what one of the brides said, obviously you're looking for God's blessing so that should count. Remember this is between you, FH and God!!!! Smile Sweetie!!!
That is soo true .. you are soo right that we are looking for God's blessing and that this marriage is me, FH and God!!! I like that. Thanks Doll that made me smile
Good I'm glad you're smiling!!! Sometimes we need a reminder that while God does *NOT* like the lifestyles we chose sometimes cause they are against what He teaches in the Bible he still loves us unconditionally and we should always seek to please Him and only Him not everyone else.
pixietina
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So glad I dont' have to worry about that. I hope things go well at your church and they don't ask personal questions.
linda_art
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WOW, I wouldn't have been able to help myself burst out laughing. I may have even had tears streaming down my face from laughing hard, and then I woulda had to run out as fast as possible! LOL. Or I would have proceeded with telling him that its not appropriate for me to have this conversation with him and that I'm starting to feel uncomfortable. If he proceeded and didn't get my point then I'd start lying. And I HATE lying. But it seems like a tight situation where you don't have much choice. Good Luck. Im more spiritual than religious and would def have a hard time with this!
wishingwell1230
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the priest didn't ask us either question at the initial meeting, so I don't think he will ask now. thank goodness. They did ask our addresses and technically FH's permanent address is still his father's house so that's what he said.
