Spinoff.... Do yo care if your man goes to Strip clubs?

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Posted by june262004

Just open up your mind a little.

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I dont mean this to sound like a personal attack, but it seems a little closed minded to not accept that different people have different feelings on the topic. Thats fine- you think highly of stippers, thats your opinion, and i respect it. But did you ask the question to see how people felt about it.. or to challenge everyone that thinks differently of it than you do?

like i said before- To each his own. It's not my place to say what should work for people in their relationship- i'm just saying what i want/ don't want in mine.
If it were my friend/neighbor, yes, i still think that its skanky. Would i ostracize them? no... but i sure as he!! wouldn't want them rubbing their naked a$$ all over my FH

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Posted by neeniebean86

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Posted by june262004

Just open up your mind a little.

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I dont mean this to sound like a personal attack, but it seems a little closed minded to not accept that different people have different feelings on the topic. Thats fine- you think highly of stippers, thats your opinion, and i respect it. But did you ask the question to see how people felt about it.. or to challenge everyone that thinks differently of it than you do?

like i said before- To each his own. It's not my place to say what should work for people in their relationship- i'm just saying what i want/ don't want in mine.
If it were my friend/neighbor, yes, i still think that its skanky. Would i ostracize them? no... but i sure as he!! wouldn't want them rubbing their naked a$$ all over my FH

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I respect your opinon. But I have my opinion too... And in my opinon it is close minded to call out all strippers skanks and whores. To each their own. I am just trying to show how it could be someone you know..but you just said if it was a friend neighbor or sister they would be skanks too. Im sorry u think I am close minded cause I dont think strippers are whores and skanks. I did ask this question to see who wouldn't let their man go to a strip club but not for people to call other people skanks and whores.


Remember Prostitution is the oldest profession.

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Posted by Janice

man Don, you are making me late for a party hehe...You are a very well balanced debater..(boosh must have her hands full in an argumernt) lol

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Ha ha, yes our fights are interesting to say the least

I personally think it's sort of gross and I don't see the appeal, but I'm very secure with FH, etc. The only reason i say no is because hs'; SO not the type of person who would ever go, so if he DID go, I'd be pretty concerned and I'd feelike I didn't know him, Id get concenred, etc. I've have bf's in the past who I know would ahve been into that stuff, and at the time I was more insecure so I would have said n
'no way', but if I had gotten to a secure point in the relatiinship with them, I'd be like 'sure'. I'm sure that made no sense.

Also I'd be MUCH more comfortable with it if I could go with him, then I'd see it as a fun thing to do as a couple, and not some dirty secretive thing. For all my 'Classless'ness I'm really sort of a prude when it comes to stuff like porn and strip clubs. I think I'd be ok if FH wanted to go like once or twice but not if he made a habit of it..to me it's sort of gross

now rich and don..........dont hold back at all......your point are well said and very diffrent........very nice to see as men see things in a diffrent light and there is no argument here..........

jonn

btw........i cook for a living......people look at my job as a nothing job...............BUT YOU EAT .....DONT YOU

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Posted by Janice


so he never wants to be drunk, with a girl on his lap, he says he will wind up being rude and telling her to get up ruining everyone else's good time. He does not want to be put into a situation where he is drunk and trying to get a girl off of him. He does not want to be a downer for his friends. And he is a horny drunk, he does not know what T&A all over the place, mixed with shots, mixed with friends will lead to.

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um, yeah, in my opinion and from what you told me, if he was drunk at a strip club and a naked girl climbed on his lap, i doubt he'd be telling her to stop and that's the reason he stays away

and to me, that is a problem -- the message here is -- if i go out with my friends, and i drink and a hot girl comes on to me, i will cheat on you

like i said, no amount of drunkeness can make you forget your commitment -- if you are true to your marriage and your partner, it doesn't matter how drunk you are.

in my defense we have 2 daughters

and i wouldnt want one of my daughters to be a stripper and fh wouldnt either

no i dont sensor what fh watches and honestkly he could go if he wanted to
but I wouldnt want him to and it would bother me

I am not insecure at all!!!!!!I just dont get WHY he would have to...I am sure he looks at other women but he doesnt have to do it while they are naked

I care if he goes without telling me....

I go with him just for fun!

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Posted by oct.2004bride

if it was for a special occasions (b-parties, birthdays)...why not

just for entertainment...i wouldn't like that

No i wouldn't go with him...and i don't think he would go with me to a male review

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That's how I feel. Once in a while, especially for a special occasion, I have no problem with... But if it were on a regular basis, I don't think I would like that very much...

he has never gone to one, and really has no desire to go.

i don't think i would ever go, but if he went for bachloer party or whatever, i wouldn't care.

Okay...I've never been to a strip club, and Brad hadn't until he started going to Bachelor parties. I was really upset when he went, just b/c I'm so against watching women exploiting their bodies for money. It's just sleezy to me, but like I said, I've never been to one, so I don't know what they are really like. I've gotten over it since, and now i'm okay if he goes for a bachelor party.

That said, I know and trust Brad well enough to know that I don't have to worry about anything if he goes. He isn't really comfortable there himself, which is obvious to the strippers, so they leave him alone. I wouldn't like if he started going regularly, but I know he wouldn't do that anyhow.

I could care less...FH is a little shy, so he doesnt normally go, but I would completly trust him if he did..Its just simple fun for the guys..you see the same stuff on TV, this is just in person and I wouldnt be marrying him if I didnt trust him, so I personally have no problem at all with it. I also dont think they are SKANKS...just cause they do in public what other people do in private doesnt make them a skank...I think thats an insecure point of view personally.

I do think the people who dont see it as a problem, are more secure.

I have a question

what/who do you consider skanky????

Personally i feel that just because I think a girl is trashy/skanky because she has to exploit herself for money doesnt make me INSECURE

why does it make you more secure if you dont have a problem with it???That doesnt make any sense to me

I am completely secure especially with my fh so that statement doesnt apply to me

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Posted by MamanDaddyof2

I have a question

what/who do you consider skanky????

Personally i feel that just because I think a girl is trashy/skanky because she has to exploit herself for money doesnt make me INSECURE

why does it make you more secure if you dont have a problem with it???That doesnt make any sense to me

I am completely secure especially with my fh so that statement doesnt apply to me

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I don't think that all strippers are skanky. Some mothers strip because they can't get a job elsewhere and they have to put food on the table for their children. Hey, at least they're not selling drugs, right? They dance and sure, they rub their ta-tas in a guys face if he pays for a lap dance, but the men aren't allowed to touch. There are some strippers that do more than strip. They'll take a guy into a VIP room and the guy will pay a lot of money for some action and I think THAT is skanky. When it becomes physical and you're selling your body for sex, you've become a whore.

I have no problem with it - DH teases me because he thinks it would bother me, when he goes with his friends once in a while....but I honestly don't care.

Would I ever strip? no! Because no one wants to see me naked or in my underwear....but I have no problem with other people doing it.....

i went to a friend's bachelorette party many years ago - and she wanted to go to a strip club.....i went because she was my best friend. it was awful...disgusting and i would never go again simply because of that one occurance...

and thank you to DJPill for bringing back the Palebride Thunderous Applause!!!!! It's so nice to be recognized!!

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Posted by neeniebean86

When they get completely naked, rub their a$$es up against every man in the room's crotch and then go down on each other in front of an audience... In my book, you're a skank.

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Whoa, if they do that in a strip club, they're not a stripper, they're a hooker. I guess that's the thing about strippers. If all they're doing is stripping, that's fine. But then you hear other stories about them ending up doing other stuff, but in that case, they're a hooker then. They've crossed a line.

Actually, I just remembered for my friend's bachelor party, we went to a male strip club. Afterwards, we went to a female strip club (Gossip), and it was fun. I honestly wouldn't want my husband going to the one I went to though. I would actually be upset. I saw guys sitting in a chair, and the girl would only be wearing a thong obviously, but she would lay on him upside down with her crotch right in his face and her boobs going into his crotch. Um, a lap dance is one thing, but I would not be comfortable if that's a norm in a strip club. Some allow different things. The one I've gone to, I never saw them do that.

A lot of women call strippers skanks. Believe me, I have. Some women are just like that. I don't think I or some people truly believe they are. If I say something like that, I'm most likely just intimidated, and you know, it can make a person say ugly things.

At least they're getting paid for it. Do you know how many times I see girls flashing their boobs or whatever in a bar? At least strippers make a salary doing that and aren't doing it to get a guy's attention.

After reading all of this....i am going to be in the minority here but
IMO...all the strippers i have seen..LOOK SKANKY. No i am not talking about places like Scores or top notch strip joints like it but rather the local ones...the ones that the average guy goes to...sorry but those girls LOOK NASTY...yes even skanky. WHY a guy would want one of those girls around them is beyond me....unless the entire time they are getting a lap dance they are closing their eyes..

If its like a bachelor party or something I wouldnt be happy about it, I wouldnt encourage it or anything... but I wouldnt say anything.

If it was a regular thing for entertainment! HELL NO! In my opinion that is GROSS!

BTW - how many of you thinkyour DH wouldnt care if you went regularly?