Spinoff.... Do yo care if your man goes to Strip clubs?

We had this conversation recently... I told my FI that I don;t want him to get strippers for his bachelor party...and he said that he actually didn't want them anyway.

I have a few problems with strippers and strip clubs...mainly because I am insecure and also I think its sleazy and I wouldn't want them dancing all on my FI!

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Posted by FeliciaDA

Joy... your DH and my DH are probably the only TWO men in the world who dislike strip clubs..

My husband truly does not like them, and I believe it. He says he gets nothing out of it, the women don't excite him, and honestly (in his words) he's just too cheap to justify throwing his money at a bunch of 1/2 nekkid women who could care less about him and are just doing a job

That said , if he did ever go or wanted to go, I truly would have no problem with it whatsoever. I think if it were something he frequented or enjoyed a little too much, that would cause me wonder 'why' but overall I think its relatively harmless...

What I DO think I'd have more of a problem with is a stripper being hired to perform in a hotel room , private home, etc. And NO, its not that I dont trust him - I do completely. I just think there is no limitations to what goes on , and that it would be a really bad, sleazy scene all the way around

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You just told my scenario exactly! My DH doesn't like them either..hates to go at Bachelor parties...but will for the Bachelor. He says 'why do I want to be in a room with a bunch of horny men?'
I also agree about the hotel room strippers.

DH doesn't really like going because he feels it's a waste of money. They charge you to get in, over charge you for drinks. All the girls want is for you to tip them. He says 2 beers and getting in can easily cost $50 at an average place. He'd rather spend the money on a nice steak dinner.

Personally I don't like him going but I can deal with it when he goes for bachelor parties and birthdays. I know he's not going to do anything that we would consider cheating.

I've been with him to one and I realized how nasty most places are. According to him unless you have a lot of money to burn and can go to a nice place, a lot of the girls are just nasty looking. He says he'd rather me do the stripping at home.

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Posted by StepherG

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Posted by FeliciaDA

Joy... your DH and my DH are probably the only TWO men in the world who dislike strip clubs..

My husband truly does not like them, and I believe it. He says he gets nothing out of it, the women don't excite him, and honestly (in his words) he's just too cheap to justify throwing his money at a bunch of 1/2 nekkid women who could care less about him and are just doing a job

That said , if he did ever go or wanted to go, I truly would have no problem with it whatsoever. I think if it were something he frequented or enjoyed a little too much, that would cause me wonder 'why' but overall I think its relatively harmless...

What I DO think I'd have more of a problem with is a stripper being hired to perform in a hotel room , private home, etc. And NO, its not that I dont trust him - I do completely. I just think there is no limitations to what goes on , and that it would be a really bad, sleazy scene all the way around

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You just told my scenario exactly! My DH doesn't like them either..hates to go at Bachelor parties...but will for the Bachelor. He says 'why do I want to be in a room with a bunch of horny men?'
I also agree about the hotel room strippers.

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DH is another one that doesn't like strip clubs. He's cheap too! But would he want to go if his friends were going? Of course. I WOULD have a problem with it though. I would never forbid him to go, but knowing him he wouldn't bother to go because he respects me. And me not liking him going to strip clubs has nothing to do with me being insecure. Like I really think that DH is going to have an affair with a stripper?? hahahahahaha!!! Puuulllleeeeease I just feel that it's extremely disrespectful to me - that's all!
And why would DH go to a strip club anyway when he has a hot momma of a wife at home that he can look at naked anytime.....AND gets a piece of a$$ too

neither of us go to strip clubs. It's something we talked about when we first started dating (I broke off a long term relationship with someone who had a little too much fun at a strip club) And, DH has a friend who ruined a long term relationship by getting too out of hand at a strip club. DH was there when it happened and got completely skeeved out by the whole scene.

So, by the time we started dating each other, we both had the same mentality that strip clubs are just not for us...

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Posted by StepherG

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Posted by FeliciaDA

Joy... your DH and my DH are probably the only TWO men in the world who dislike strip clubs..

My husband truly does not like them, and I believe it. He says he gets nothing out of it, the women don't excite him, and honestly (in his words) he's just too cheap to justify throwing his money at a bunch of 1/2 nekkid women who could care less about him and are just doing a job

That said , if he did ever go or wanted to go, I truly would have no problem with it whatsoever. I think if it were something he frequented or enjoyed a little too much, that would cause me wonder 'why' but overall I think its relatively harmless...

What I DO think I'd have more of a problem with is a stripper being hired to perform in a hotel room , private home, etc. And NO, its not that I dont trust him - I do completely. I just think there is no limitations to what goes on , and that it would be a really bad, sleazy scene all the way around

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You just told my scenario exactly! My DH doesn't like them either..hates to go at Bachelor parties...but will for the Bachelor. He says 'why do I want to be in a room with a bunch of horny men?'
I also agree about the hotel room strippers.

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I have to agree 100% with both of you.


I don't have to face it b/c Fh really ins;t interested at all. i think he'd be more embarassed than anything and wouldn't get much out of it. he's never been, but has no desire to. i'm sure once our frineds start getting married he'll go to a bachelor party or two. And I thinka srip club is ok, but any private sort of no limits thing is out of the question. Also, looking is fine, and there's touching and that's another thing

He is not into them..thank god! But, It depends on the situation..if he had to go to a Bach. party, I guess, I wouldn't mind..but, for a random night out with his friends..that would bother me..

Now, that we are married, I would hope to think he knows better not to go..

Ewwwwwwwwwhhh..I just think strip clubs are sooo sceevy and dirty..

My DH is 'supposedly' also with Felicia's DH... he claims he doesn't care for strip clubs and the truth is, he's never wanted to go to one or been to one since I've known him.

Anyway, if he was going to go to a strip club as a rare thing such as for a BP or friend's birthday, etc. Once in a blue moon would not bother me too much... as long as there are no lap dances going on. Hired strippers in a house, private party or hotel rooms are a HUGE problem for me.

See, I feel better if he goes to a strip club for a bachelor party. But if the guys rent a hall or a room and order a stripper or strippers, that's what upsets me. Because most of the times, the stripper turns out to be a hooker, and I think that's really disgusting. Even don had said previously in this thread that at his bachelor party, he could have gone into another room and got more from a stripper, but he didn't. But that's not a stripper then, that's a hooker!

So I don't mind my husband being around a stripper, but I don't want him around a hooker! And that's the thing, you just never know what the stripper will end up doing. I trust my husband, but I don't want him to be or any of his friends to end up ordering a hooker for a bachelor party. That really gets on me.

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Posted by violet

See, I feel better if he goes to a strip club for a bachelor party. But if the guys rent a hall or a room and order a stripper or strippers, that's what upsets me. Because most of the times, the stripper turns out to be a hooker, and I think that's really disgusting. Even don had said previously in this thread that at his bachelor party, he could have gone into another room and got more from a stripper, but he didn't. But that's not a stripper then, that's a hooker!

So I don't mind my husband being around a stripper, but I don't want him around a hooker! And that's the thing, you just never know what the stripper will end up doing. I trust my husband, but I don't want him to be or any of his friends to end up ordering a hooker for a bachelor party. That really gets on me.

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but see it really doesn't matter if it's a stripper or a hooker, it's how far your DH takes it. Like I said, we had a private party in my friend's house. These girls would have done anything I wanted to -- for cash of course. I chose not to, because i was getting married

Did I get lap dances? yep. Was there touching? You bet. But this was done after Boosh and I had discussed and I was confident she was comfortable with it and we agreed on what type of touching was allowed and what wasn't

So, since your husband is true to you, it really shouldn't matter if it's a stripper or a hooker

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Posted by don424

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Posted by violet

See, I feel better if he goes to a strip club for a bachelor party. But if the guys rent a hall or a room and order a stripper or strippers, that's what upsets me. Because most of the times, the stripper turns out to be a hooker, and I think that's really disgusting. Even don had said previously in this thread that at his bachelor party, he could have gone into another room and got more from a stripper, but he didn't. But that's not a stripper then, that's a hooker!

So I don't mind my husband being around a stripper, but I don't want him around a hooker! And that's the thing, you just never know what the stripper will end up doing. I trust my husband, but I don't want him to be or any of his friends to end up ordering a hooker for a bachelor party. That really gets on me.

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but see it really doesn't matter if it's a stripper or a hooker, it's how far your DH takes it. Like I said, we had a private party in my friend's house. These girls would have done anything I wanted to -- for cash of course. I chose not to, because i was getting married

Did I get lap dances? yep. Was there touching? You bet. But this was done after Boosh and I had discussed and I was confident she was comfortable with it and we agreed on what type of touching was allowed and what wasn't

So, since your husband is true to you, it really shouldn't matter if it's a stripper or a hooker

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It matters to me if he's getting some NC-17 live action. Not to him, but if he's witnessing it where his friends are doing stuff. It just really grosses me out.

If strippers always turned out to be strippers, then that's fine with me. That's why strip clubs don't upset me really for bachelor parties. But will I be upset if my husband is around a hooker? Sure I will. Even if he's not doing anything, something about that just disgusts me.

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Posted by violet

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Posted by don424

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Posted by violet

See, I feel better if he goes to a strip club for a bachelor party. But if the guys rent a hall or a room and order a stripper or strippers, that's what upsets me. Because most of the times, the stripper turns out to be a hooker, and I think that's really disgusting. Even don had said previously in this thread that at his bachelor party, he could have gone into another room and got more from a stripper, but he didn't. But that's not a stripper then, that's a hooker!

So I don't mind my husband being around a stripper, but I don't want him around a hooker! And that's the thing, you just never know what the stripper will end up doing. I trust my husband, but I don't want him to be or any of his friends to end up ordering a hooker for a bachelor party. That really gets on me.

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but see it really doesn't matter if it's a stripper or a hooker, it's how far your DH takes it. Like I said, we had a private party in my friend's house. These girls would have done anything I wanted to -- for cash of course. I chose not to, because i was getting married

Did I get lap dances? yep. Was there touching? You bet. But this was done after Boosh and I had discussed and I was confident she was comfortable with it and we agreed on what type of touching was allowed and what wasn't

So, since your husband is true to you, it really shouldn't matter if it's a stripper or a hooker

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It matters to me if he's getting some NC-17 live action. Not to him, but if he's witnessing it where his friends are doing stuff. It just really grosses me out.

If strippers always turned out to be strippers, then that's fine with me. That's why strip clubs don't upset me really for bachelor parties. But will I be upset if my husband is around a hooker? Sure I will. Even if he's not doing anything, something about that just disgusts me.

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that's fair - -i'm still not sure why, but that's fair just the same