Spinoff.... Do yo care if your man goes to Strip clubs?

Original post by june262004

Jan 28, 2005 03:20 PM

I don't care I have even gone with him several times with a whole bunch of my Girl friends and our friends.

Janice Posted: Jan 28, 2005 06:54 PM

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Posted by don424

i mean that's like a recovering alcoholic not going to a bar because of the temptation

whether you are drunk or sober, if you are married and true to the bond of marriage, there should be no temptation

when i say no to my friends to go to a strip club, it's because of the money or because we have something else planned -- not because i don't have enough trust in myself or marriage and may succumb to temptation if i get drunk

I totally understand what you are saying, way too much tmi at this point, anytime DH and I are out, we have to make an early exit, either car, or restroom,hehe, because we can't keep our hands off each other. Now DH has never gone to a strip club or Bach Party, he is scared that when the shots start coming and naked girls are begging to be on his lap, what is he going to do? He totally thinks lap dances are cheating, please don't write me about that, it is his thought not mine, so he never wants to be drunk, with a girl on his lap, he says he will wind up being rude and telling her to get up ruining everyone else's good time. Maybe clubs are nothing like that, I don't know. Am I pushing him out the door telling him to try it out, no way. Does he want to cheat on me? I would not know. I don't think he would. and if he would it would not be with a stripper is what I am thinking. He does not want to be put into a situation where he is drunk and trying to get a girl off of him. He does not want to be a downer for his friends. And he is a horny drunk, he does not know what T&A all over the place, mixed with shots, mixed with friends will lead to.

Janice Posted: Jan 28, 2005 06:56 PM

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Posted by MamanDaddyof2

I definately have a problem with my man going to a strip club....why would he NEED to look at another woman naked???

It is disgusting and there is no reason he would need to go!!!!!!

what we have together is special and sacred and some skanky girl dances all over him would make me sick

finally!!! thanks..take some heat off me

Janice Posted: Jan 28, 2005 07:02 PM

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man Don, you are making me late for a party hehe...You are a very well balanced debater..(boosh must have her hands full in an argumernt) lol

Butterflybride Posted: Jan 28, 2005 10:24 PM

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DH simply isn't interested. He's told me that if he ever was to go to one, I'd have to go with him.

Moehick Posted: Jan 28, 2005 10:24 PM

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Posted by don424

i mean that's like a recovering alcoholic not going to a bar because of the temptation

whether you are drunk or sober, if you are married and true to the bond of marriage, there should be no temptation

Great point....everyone should be able to trust their spouse...if you can't than whats the point?????

MamanDaddyof2 Posted: Jan 28, 2005 10:29 PM

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I would trust fh in a broken elevator with a naked model

I dont think that trust was the initial question on this thread....it was do you care if fh goes to strip clubs and some women dont care and some women feel that there is no need for it
like me

I feel there is no good reason to watch another woman dance naked and if someone can give me a reason i am all ears!!!!!!

june262004 Posted: Jan 28, 2005 11:10 PM

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I just got home from work So I wasn't here for all this. I just want to clear up that My DH hasn't gone to a strip club since we have been married (same goes for me ) But if if his best friend was getting married next week and he had an upcoming part Id be like Peace out... (night out with the girls ) Why does everyone think strippers are whores? I wonder if the people who think that about Strippers have ever been to a strip club had friends who were dancers?

MamanDaddyof2 Posted: Jan 28, 2005 11:13 PM

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I never said they were whores and I actually have had a few aquantances who were dancers

I am saying my man doesnt NEED TO LOOK AT OTHER WOMEN.

I dont see the need for it

june262004 Posted: Jan 28, 2005 11:18 PM

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Posted by MamanDaddyof2

I never said they were whores and I actually have had a few aquantances who were dancers

I am saying my man doesnt NEED TO LOOK AT OTHER WOMEN.

I dont see the need for it

I never said you did. You called them Skanky though.

MamanDaddyof2 Posted: Jan 28, 2005 11:25 PM

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Skanky is different than being a whore

I do think strippers are kinda skanky though
they get paid to dance naked for men
I dont think little girls dream of being strippers when they grow up
its not a glamorous job its degrading and nasty IMO

june262004 Posted: Jan 28, 2005 11:34 PM

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Posted by MamanDaddyof2

Skanky is different than being a whore

I do think strippers are kinda skanky though
they get paid to dance naked for men
I dont think little girls dream of being strippers when they grow up
its not a glamorous job its degrading and nasty IMO

And you are entitled to it.

MamanDaddyof2 Posted: Jan 28, 2005 11:38 PM

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I am not one of those judgemental b*tches really
I just feel that way about this

I dont give fh rules and all that crap just wanted you guys to know that and now that I have been thinking about it not all strippers are skanky some HAVE TO do it to support themselves and their family so I guess I take that back

june262004 Posted: Jan 28, 2005 11:44 PM

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Just open up your mind a little. They aren't skanks they aren't whores its a job.

DjPiLL Posted: Jan 29, 2005 12:22 AM

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Posted by Janice

I don't take issue with bartenders at strip clubs, I don't care if my DH orders a drink from a half naked girl.

Don't you realize that a lot of the bartenders that work in the strip clubs are FORMER STRIPPERS that just moved their way up the ladder?

So i guess in your eyes they are 'former whores' ???

finally...I do think his place is home with his wife, sorry...but that is how I feel. he is a full time student and works full time. Any spare time he has, it would hurt my feelings if he decided to go to a strip club.

So he can't hang out at all with his friends? Or only to a strip club? Your logic and views are rather flawed.

DjPiLL Posted: Jan 29, 2005 12:27 AM

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Posted by MamanDaddyof2

what we have together is special and sacred and some skanky girl dances all over him would make me sick

Your logic is even more flawed than Janice's. I'm gonna have fun with this.

What makes you think that when you go to a strip club its a REQUIREMENT to have somebody dance on top of you? You obviously have never been to a strip club.

Let me explain it real clearly to you. They look for tips. If you make yourself out to be the type that isn't willing to tip them... they don't give you the TIME OF DAY. Problem solved for you.

Posted by MamanDaddyof2

I feel there is no good reason to watch another woman dance naked and if someone can give me a reason i am all ears!!!!!!

I'll give you plenty of reasons. Are you the type of person that won't let your man watch a rated R or NC-17 movie? Do you make him close his eyes every time a woman on TV takes her top off? If thats the case... I feel pretty bad for him.

Posted by MamanDaddyof2

I am saying my man doesnt NEED TO LOOK AT OTHER WOMEN.

I dont see the need for it

Well honey... guess what. Your man looks at other women ALL THE TIME when you aren't around. Open your eyes and smell the coffee. Its a natural male instinct to admire the female body (regardless of who it belongs to).

Believe me when I say... the more you want to lay down the 'iron fist' treatment... the more likely his eyes will start to wander.

DjPiLL Posted: Jan 29, 2005 12:32 AM

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Posted by MamanDaddyof2

I am not one of those judgemental b*tches really
I just feel that way about this

Judgemental???.... i dunno... possibly.

Insecure???.... definitely

I dont give fh rules and all that crap

just wanted you guys to know that and now that I have been thinking about it not all strippers are skanky some HAVE TO do it to support themselves and their family so I guess I take that back

Don't kid yourself. I am sure if your DH/FW came up to you tonight and told you he was heading off to Gallaghers tomorrow... you would blow your lid.

February05 Posted: Jan 29, 2005 12:33 AM

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i never had a problem with strippers... when i thought that they did just that.. stripped. yes, some of them do it just to get money to go to school... but ya know what, some people rob banks for money too.. does that make it right? No.

i will say straight out that i think theyre skanky. And i'm the last person you could ever call closed minded. When they get completely naked, rub their a$$es up against every man in the room's crotch and then go down on each other in front of an audience... In my book, you're a skank.

would i ever make my FH stay home from a BP b/c of them? no... he had strippers at his- i wouldnt take that away from him or tell him NOT to have them.. it was his night, and i fully trust him... but i'm not gonna do back flips at the thought of it, nor am i going to say 'hey honey, i think we should go have naked girls dance all up on us tonight'. Thats perfectly fine for anyone that wants that, and that enjoys that as an aspect to their relationship- To each his own, but thats just not for me.

lolita4life Posted: Jan 29, 2005 12:40 AM

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if i go with him!

june262004 Posted: Jan 29, 2005 12:43 AM

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Lord have mercy... Im not closed minded but strippers are skanks... ??? It could be your neighbors 2nd job It could be your best friends secret job as well as your sisters. I guess they are skanks and whores too.