Spinoff from my OWN post!! What wedding etiquette rules or so-called 'traditions' have you broken? (...and are DAMN PROUD OF IT!!!)

SIBride06 Posted: Mar 15, 2006 10:40 AM

Spinoff from my OWN post!! What wedding etiquette rules or so-called 'traditions' have you broken? (...and are DAMN PROUD OF IT!!!)

Lets break some rules today ladies!

kittythestray Posted: Mar 15, 2006 10:46 AM

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OMG, I have SO MANY that I broke, but I'm not sure if they're ETIQUETTE or just traditions....

We're paying for the wedding ourselves
I'm walking myself down the aisle
No DJ, just an MC playing OUR music that you can't really dance to.
No blusher veil thing
I'm wearing ivory
We're not being 'introduced'
No bo-k/garter toss
No parent's names on the invites
No flowergirl/ring bearer
No e-party
Having 2 wedding bands

I KNOW there's more....

BKtoLI Posted: Mar 15, 2006 10:46 AM

Re: Spinoff from my OWN post!! What wedding etiquette rule have you broken? (...and are DAMN PROUD OF IT!!!)

There are so many....let me get back to you on that!!

From the top of my head...we put my parents names first and his parents names on the invites even though we're paying for 98% of the wedding.

We're getting married at our hall.

My invites were RED.

Seeing each other before ceremony.

Not walking down to 'here comes the bride'

No corsages for mothers.

Not all the flowers will be the same.

cindyandkevin Posted: Mar 15, 2006 10:50 AM

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We didn't put any parent's names on the invitations, just our own. It wasn't so much a matter of breaking the rules, it's just what made the most sense for us!

ETA: I forgot a few others!
FH didn't ask my father for my hand, tho he did ask my grandfather
Not getting married in a church, using contemporary music for ceremony
No blusher
Living together before marriage, in SIN!
Marrying a divorced man 16.5 years my senior, who has a kid
Not doing the garter toss

leese Posted: Mar 15, 2006 10:53 AM

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No garter and No Tossing of Bo-K.

I am not a fan.

tracy2246 Posted: Mar 15, 2006 10:55 AM

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Posted by leese

No garter and No Tossing of Bo-K.

I am not a fan.

me neither

itslaurie. Posted: Mar 15, 2006 10:56 AM

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Probably all of them.

I don't even know them all, sometimes I think people make them up as they go along. I swear it.

no bridal party
no garter/bo-k toss
labels on my invites!! the horror!

nov06 Posted: Mar 15, 2006 10:58 AM

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No garter or bouquet toss
Not getting married in church
Will be seeing each other before ceremony

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Mar 15, 2006 11:00 AM

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seeing eachother before ceremony
NOT walkng down the aisle to 'here comes the bride' or any other traditional wedding song
not doing garter or bo-k toss
did not use inner envelopes on the invitaions

and i am sure many others I can't think of at the moment.

ChrissynRicky Posted: Mar 15, 2006 11:02 AM

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- no garter toss
- no bok throw
- no inner envelopes
- addressing the outter envelopes as 'family'
- being involved with my bachelorette party and bridal shower
- inviting people w/out a guest
- no engagement party

I'm sure there are a whole bunch more...

PrincessConsuela Posted: Mar 15, 2006 11:03 AM

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We got married at our reception hall.
We saw each other before the ceremony.
no bouquet toss.
no garter toss.
No blusher over my face.
no sign in book
I didnt wear white. i wore gold/ivory
our parents names were not on the invite it just said 'together with our parents'
We paid for most of the wedding ourselves
No rehersal dinner
Besides the mother/son daughter/father dance i also danced with my mother.
Got ready at the hotel and not my house
No limos-we were right next door

so many other things im sure!!!

itslaurie. Posted: Mar 15, 2006 11:04 AM

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Posted by LaurenluvsTJ

NOT walkng down the aisle to 'here comes the bride' or

good one! me too.

no church, no hall - but I don't think that is etiquette really. I mean if you aren't religous, you have no etiquette?

no engagement party either.

JessicaM. Posted: Mar 15, 2006 11:05 AM

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Posted by itslaurie.

labels on my invites!! the horror!

you're blocked from my fm...don't even bother. ugh...you sicken me!

itslaurie. Posted: Mar 15, 2006 11:08 AM

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Posted by JessicaM.

you're blocked from my fm...don't even bother. ugh...you sicken me!

but I love FM!

I must hang my head in bridal shame. Relinquish my veil, and call the whole thing off!

conigs25 Posted: Mar 15, 2006 11:09 AM

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I dont know how 'etiquette' this is but i think i am doing clear labels on my invites and I DONT CARE AT ALL WHAT PEOPLE SAY/THINK!!!!!!!! Who the f*ck cares about the effing envelope anyway.

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Mar 15, 2006 11:09 AM

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Posted by ChrissynRicky

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- addressing the outter envelopes as 'family'

I'm sure there are a whole bunch more...

Oh, is this bad ettiquitte? I guess I broke that rule too. I also put 'and guest' on the outer envelopes

JessicaM. Posted: Mar 15, 2006 11:12 AM

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Posted by itslaurie.

Posted by JessicaM.

you're blocked from my fm...don't even bother. ugh...you sicken me!

but I love FM!

I must hang my head in bridal shame. Relinquish my veil, and call the whole thing off!

for me, let's see
parents had LIMITED to NO SAY in the guest list
our names on the invites
ivory dress
no engagement party
invites were no shade of white/ecru/ivory
not a virgin

FallBride05 Posted: Mar 15, 2006 11:12 AM

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Posted by LaurenluvsTJ
NOT walkng down the aisle to 'here comes the bride' or any other traditional wedding song

I wouldn't say that's wedding etiquette.... You would never hear that song at a Jewish wedding!

We used alot of untraditional music in our ceremony.

kissy27 Posted: Mar 15, 2006 11:12 AM

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No engagement party
No Bok/Garter toss
Uneven Bridal party
Dancing with dad & mom
No 'formal' RD
Living in our house 'prior' ro marriage
had a say in my bachelorette party