Spinoff QOTD - would you tell your FH if you cheated on him?
Original post by LuvMyAlfonse
Had me wondering about honesty and I actually told my DH this the other day - that if he cheated (one time thing) on ME - to never, ever tell me.
So, if you cheated (one time thing) would you tell him or just live with the guilt? And would you want him to tell you?
PeteysBride
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crashing- Yes I'd want to. Would I, no. Would i want him to tell me, No. I know he would forgive it but never be quite the same. I don't think I'd forgive it. I'd rather not know about it. But we're faithful so we'e good.
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I was in a relationship with a man who was buying me an engagement ring and sleeping with someone else at the time. I have to say (especially when you are living with someone) it's very hard NOT to know something is going on. Needless to say that was the end of that relationship.
For me, it's just not acceptable. FH absolutely DESPISES cheating..so for us, if either one did it, the other would probably find out whether we told or not, and the relationship would be over.
We would never do anything like that though, because it took us a LONG time to find each other. We know what we have is special, and we would never do anything to jeopardize that.
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Posted by Kimbalina
I would not want to know. Especially if it was a Opps one time thing etc... If I had suspcions and ASKED.. then tell me the truth.
I think I would keep it to myself and deal w the guilt if I ever made that mistake.
I feel the same way. It's a tough question but if it truely is a one time thing I don't want to know and FH has told me he would not want to know either.
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I've never cheated on a boyfriend and I will never cheat. It's not a part of who I am. I like to treat people the way I want to be treated in return. Besides, I could never hurt someone like that.
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I've only had one boyfriend before FH and my ex cheated on me.. I always had suspisions but one day he admitted it, but claims it only happened once... I was so unbelievably hurt. I tried to take him back but it completely changed how I looked at him and I could no longer trust him. Whether or not it was a one time thing, to me, is irrelevant.. I hate when I watch TV shows and they have the one who cheated saying how it meant nothing.. IF IT MEANT NOTHING, WHY DO IT? The way I see it, you have to be unhappy with some aspect of your relationship to cheat, so there is a reason behind the cheating, its not an accident.
So after all this, the answer to your question, is, well first I wouldn't cheat because I know how it feels to be on the other end, but at the same time, since I know how it feels to be told that your significant other has cheated, I dont think I would tell FH. It cause A LOT of pain. I would honestly seek counsling to figure out why I would have cheated and work on that so I can be happy in my relationship with FH.
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This is a juicy one!!!
Well if I cheated, it would definitely be over, b/c I've only cheated once and I knew I was going to b/c I knew it was over w/ my bf at the time, and I just sort of solidified that...
As for FH, if I cheated then it would be the same thing, I couldn't imagine ever wanting to cause him the hurt and pain of dealing w/ knowing that I was with another guy.
And if he cheated I would want to know and it would be over, the way I look at it a person cheats b/c they are not happy in the relationship, so why stay and suffer if it's not going anywhere.
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Mizzdimple
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well first off i wouldnt cheat on my husband.
But if i wasnt married- if i cheated but was truly in love and really wanted to be with my 'FH' forever without cheating ever again and realize it was a mistake then I may not tell him....not to hurt him.
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Posted by davenjess
i would never be able to live with myself if i so much as kissed another guy....so i'd tell him.
we do have a firm agreement, cheating is unforgivable.. i would never look at him the same way again and he would never see me the same way.
it's our only deal breaker.
ditto and amen.
Although, if put in the situation, I do not know if I'd feel the same about the 'deal breaker'.
Perfectly said! Deal breaker is the exact term we have used for it!!!
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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse
A one-time thing though? I would definitely NOT want to know. Ever, ever, ever.
He's gonna tell me so he can get it off his chest? No frigging way pal - those are YOUR demons.
And if he cheated and I found out, I'd probably want to work it out. It's not a deal breaker for me.
An emotional and physical ongoing affair? That's another story.
I'm totally with Jen on this one Not that its not a deal breaker - i cant say yes or no to that but if it was a one time thing, no way in hell I would tell and no way do I want to know
Like Jen said - his demons
Mici n KC
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I would and never have cheated. If for some god forsaken reason it happened, there is no way I would be able to keep it to myself. I couldn't imagine hurting FH so bad and cheat on him
