Spinoff to going away without FH...
How would your FH feel? Would he 'let' you?
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Like where? The Hamptons? Vegas? I think it makes a difference. He would be ok with me going away with just girls, but I don't know if it was by myself!!
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ok so i just got off the ohone with my FH about this ....and he said that he was sooo happy that i Actually asked him what he thought before i made the decision...I have to say I thought he would give me a hard time! i guess someone is growing up!![]()
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he is ok with it. He used to be jealous, but he would never say no you cant go or anything like that, he would just get worried thinking of it and what might go wrong, but i am so proud of him bc he is completely ok with these things now, well proud of him for a couple of reasons bc he overcame alot of things and this was one of them, has to do with alot more but wont get into that.
Even when I brought up going somewhere with my friends but then i was like no nevermind i shouldnt spend the money, he is the one who convinced me to go he was like listen go with your friends why not, and besides you dont spend money lol which i dont spend alot since i dont drink and dont do alot of things.
I told him i would like to go to vegas or somewhere for bachelorette party and he trusts me...He says he knows where i stand and knows i wouldn't do anything to him or to disrespect our relationship
Even when I brought up going somewhere with my friends but then i was like no nevermind i shouldnt spend the money, he is the one who convinced me to go he was like listen go with your friends why not, and besides you dont spend money lol which i dont spend alot since i dont drink and dont do alot of things.
I told him i would like to go to vegas or somewhere for bachelorette party and he trusts me...He says he knows where i stand and knows i wouldn't do anything to him or to disrespect our relationship
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My FH would be like ' go and have fun.' I dont have to ask him to do anything
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I went away without him a few times before we got engaged. I had my cousins Bat Mitvah in NJ and I was staying at a hotel.. he called me every night I was away but he knew I missed him alot.
Would I let FH go away? Well it actually happened.. twice before we were engaged but I missed him terribly.
He went to AC for a week without me (got a free room stay deal) and I knew he was okay (he called me at least 3 times a day.. lol
He went on a week cruise to the Carribean (it was his parent's 40th anniversary) and I couldn't go with them (blah had to work). I missed him dreadfully (no phone calls because it was considered overseas and such). But it's true that the absence made the heart grow fonder. FH parents told me all the time they were on the boat all he was talking about was me. He did tell me a few women hit on him but he did say he had a girlfriend at the time. Good thing though his older brother was there to take the women off his hands.
I totally trust my FH as I know he totally trusts me.![]()
Would I let FH go away? Well it actually happened.. twice before we were engaged but I missed him terribly.
He went to AC for a week without me (got a free room stay deal) and I knew he was okay (he called me at least 3 times a day.. lol
He went on a week cruise to the Carribean (it was his parent's 40th anniversary) and I couldn't go with them (blah had to work). I missed him dreadfully (no phone calls because it was considered overseas and such). But it's true that the absence made the heart grow fonder. FH parents told me all the time they were on the boat all he was talking about was me. He did tell me a few women hit on him but he did say he had a girlfriend at the time. Good thing though his older brother was there to take the women off his hands.
I totally trust my FH as I know he totally trusts me.
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My FH is totally fine with me to travelling without him. Before we were dating and were still 'just friends', I had gone to Europe alone for a few weeks, so he knew how independent I was already. Plus I have friends who live all over the damn place that I always visit.
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My FH would be like ' go and have fun.' I dont have to ask him to do anything
yeah i feel the same way, i dont feel i have to ask him if i can go...Ill let him know of course lol but i wouldn't ask hey am i allowed to go, Ill bring up the topic to him when it comes up with friends but thats about it...Its funny bc he will always call me first to ask me before he says yes to his friends about anything, even just going out to dinner or whatever and i say why are you asking me i am not your mother, do what you want lol.
I was in a not so great relationship for a long time, he tried to control every little thing and it was so annoying, makes me want to purposely go somewhere even more. But the point is I wasn't happy in that type of relationship so I think i wanted the furthest thing from it...I found FH luckily who I love and have a great relationship with a relationship i had always wanted, no macho crap about being the man and what they say goes...We are equals and respect and trust eachother.
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He trusts me....he wouldnt care.
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It different with us because we have the same group of friends so we always do everything together! He would be fine with it tho...as long as I didn't blow the 'wedding fund'!!![]()
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He would be fine with it.......but we have the same group of friends, so it would be unlikely that I'd go without him.
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He'd be OK with it. We were talking last night about our relationship and how great (in our eyes) it is. We have complete and total trust in one another... this was all sparked because he is away with a bunch of co-workers for a training seminar thing for work and there is so much drama in these people's lives and in their relationships that even going away on a business trip is a problem.
Truthfully, I don't think I would want to go away without him... don't get me wrong, I love my alone time and time with my girls, but I'd miss him.
Truthfully, I don't think I would want to go away without him... don't get me wrong, I love my alone time and time with my girls, but I'd miss him.
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He'd definitely let me..but I wouldn't want to..I'm pathetic..I'd miss him too much![]()
and feel too guilty spending $$ on a vacation when he can't even share it with me
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hmm it depends. i think if it was like a spring break type of place he would wouldn't let me but if it was someplace local with my girls he would
for example - my friends went to Boston last year and he had no problem with that
but now, like i said in the other post, we decided we aren't going away until the HM ( we usually go away for 2+ weeks in January/February) so I couldnt tell him we had to save money by not going away and then turn around and go away by myself.
also, i went to sicily for two weeks in october ( we fly free and stay with family, so money isnt an issue there) and i cried every single day - and i was on the phone at least three times with the airline trying to come home bc i missed him SO i am in no rush to galavant off anywhere
wow i feel like i always have a different answer than everyone - i am a strange one LOL
for example - my friends went to Boston last year and he had no problem with that
but now, like i said in the other post, we decided we aren't going away until the HM ( we usually go away for 2+ weeks in January/February) so I couldnt tell him we had to save money by not going away and then turn around and go away by myself.
also, i went to sicily for two weeks in october ( we fly free and stay with family, so money isnt an issue there) and i cried every single day - and i was on the phone at least three times with the airline trying to come home bc i missed him SO i am in no rush to galavant off anywhere
wow i feel like i always have a different answer than everyone - i am a strange one LOL
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I have gone on 2 cruises without FH and hes gone to Vegas twice, Baltimore, etc. I come home to LI all the time without him. He has gone home to Hawaii before without me. We both miss eachother terribly when we are away from one another. Trust is important and b/c of that neither one of us worries
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My FH is going away next month for three days to Vegas..In the six years we have been together I have traveled all over the world...Trust is the most important thing. There should never be an issue on going away..Enjoy urself! ![]()
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I just came back from vacation with my girlfriend last week. I told FH about it before we booked it and he was okay with it. He trusts me and he knows my girlfriend is level-headed. He did mention that he wished he went with me instead ![]()
so we're going away on vacation together next month. ![]()
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He encourages it, actually.
One of the most important things to us is maintaining our own individual friendships. We've both talked about it a lot, and we both want to be able to hang out with other couples (his married friends or my married friends), but also able to have our own friends separate from our relationship.
I've seen so many people that become completely isolated once they get married. While that does have its plusses (intimacy, building really strong bonds, etc.) I think it's also equally as important to be able to have a network of people on the outside that you can take weekend trips with and have 'girl time.'
This is just me, but I feel like I will be with my FH forever, and we'll spend 90% of our time together (outside of work, etc). For me, I owe it to myself to designate some time to working on my childhood and college friendships and making sure that those people remain a strong part of my life.
I don't plan on going away with them every weekend, but I intend to schedule at least a few weekends, or 1 week a year to spend time with my friends. I hope that my FH will do the same.
I never want to become so dependent on my FH that I have no one else to turn to.... Don't get me wrong, I always turn to FH - he's my rock, but I think there's something special about spending bonding time with your girlfriends. I never want to lose that.
One of the most important things to us is maintaining our own individual friendships. We've both talked about it a lot, and we both want to be able to hang out with other couples (his married friends or my married friends), but also able to have our own friends separate from our relationship.
I've seen so many people that become completely isolated once they get married. While that does have its plusses (intimacy, building really strong bonds, etc.) I think it's also equally as important to be able to have a network of people on the outside that you can take weekend trips with and have 'girl time.'
This is just me, but I feel like I will be with my FH forever, and we'll spend 90% of our time together (outside of work, etc). For me, I owe it to myself to designate some time to working on my childhood and college friendships and making sure that those people remain a strong part of my life.
I don't plan on going away with them every weekend, but I intend to schedule at least a few weekends, or 1 week a year to spend time with my friends. I hope that my FH will do the same.
I never want to become so dependent on my FH that I have no one else to turn to.... Don't get me wrong, I always turn to FH - he's my rock, but I think there's something special about spending bonding time with your girlfriends. I never want to lose that.
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nah he trusts me and i trust him..so either way we would be ok with it
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ha! i spent a 5 weeks away for work a little while ago,,, he is good with me having me time
