Have you had any experiences that make it difficult or impossible for you to trust and/or get close to female friends? or friends in general?
Kimbalina
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I havent had anything like that. But I do not trust some women (and men) in general when I meet them. It is like this general 'feeling'
Butterfly123
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A lot of sh!t has happened throughout the years which is why I have less than 5 close friends.
Toucan311
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My students were talking about this yesterday, and they think men are easier to trust b/c they're up front about being jerks!!!
wifetobe
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My students were talking about this yesterday, and they think men are easier to trust b/c they're up front about being jerks!!!
you're sooo right!!
Espo22
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A lot of sh!t has happened throughout the years which is why I have less than 5 close friends.
Lea where is your avatar pic from?
to answer the question, i wouldn't say i dont trust females as far as becoming friends with them its whether i click with them i guess and can see a friendship. I would say more like dont trust females i am not friends with ahahaha.
Sunset Renee
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Absolutely!!! I had a few girls I knew since Elementary - Needless to say - Not Anymore!! They don't like FH and Left me in Seaside Heights - By Myself!!! If That doesn't do it....
Butterfly123
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Posted by Songstress
A lot of sh!t has happened throughout the years which is why I have less than 5 close friends.
Lea where is your avatar pic from?
to answer the question, i wouldn't say i dont trust females as far as becoming friends with them its whether i click with them i guess and can see a friendship. I would say more like dont trust females i am not friends with ahahaha.
Its one of my weddings pics. OMG youre back!! Did you post about your bachelorette weekend??!! im gonna look for it now!
Espo22
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A lot of sh!t has happened throughout the years which is why I have less than 5 close friends.
Lea where is your avatar pic from?
to answer the question, i wouldn't say i dont trust females as far as becoming friends with them its whether i click with them i guess and can see a friendship. I would say more like dont trust females i am not friends with ahahaha.
Its one of my weddings pics.
Oooohhhh hahaha i thought it was a boudoir picture lol. Yes i posted a thread before
Sunset Renee
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PS - That's One of the Many Reasons why I Love this Website!!
And - I do think that Men are a Whole lot Easier to befriend!
snwb08
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um yeah like my ex best friend going psycho on me, kicking me out of her wedding, turning my other friend against me, for no apparent reason than she was jealous. so she said years later when she profusely apologized in an email. I was like no thanks, crazy.
i do believe guys as friends are easier to trust and there is so much less b.s. with them.
ETA: except when they end up trying to get in your pants
Espo22
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friendships with guys yes ill say its easier to trust them. In general not so sure lol.
teenigrrl
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i have an overwhelming fear of rejection which makes it hard for me to make new friends in general. it's very hard for me to make contact with people that i'd like to hang out with. i feel like if i call people or contact people, they'll wonder why i'm calling them - that if they really wanted to hang out with me, they'd let me know, and that all i'm doing is bothering them. does that make sense? i went through this w/ DH at the beginning of our relationship - he'd always call me, and i would never call him. it took me over 3 months to just call him on my own. even now, there are people i'd like to call/contact, but i don't because of this fear.
i cannot believe i just admitted this on a public forum.
AMGBride2008
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Yes.
A very close friend of mine lied to me about being raped. She did it to 'test' (or so I was told by others) our friendship.
It really made me second guess myself as a person, a woman (in the sense that am I sensitive to other women's experiences, can I place myself in their shoes... make sense?), and a friend. It also kept me from putting myself out there to the people around me.
I'm over it now... I've learned to look at the source, KWIM - looking back at this person who lied, it was no surprise she did what she did, but I can't stand that she made me hold back in helping the people that might have needed me... if that makes sense.
MJDoc12
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i think i've always been kind of a no holds barred kind of chick----i was a tomboy growing up and i would much rather swig from a beer bottle in a sports bar than sip a cosmo at a NYC hot spot......so having a lot of female friends really never interested me. since i was always around the guys and buddies with them....i was always looked at by girls (especially the guys girlfriends) as someone to worry about or something.
Butterfly123
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Yes.
A very close friend of mine lied to me about being raped. She did it to 'test' (or so I was told by others) our friendship.
It really made me second guess myself as a person, a woman, and a friend. It also kept me from putting myself out there to the people around me.
I'm over it now... I've learned to look at the source, KWIM - looking back at this person who lied, it was no surprise she did what she did, but I can't stand that she made me hold back in helping the people that might have needed me... if that makes sense.
OH MY GOD!!! What a weirdo! Who would lie about something like that. Thats just scary!
AMGBride2008
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Posted by Songstress
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Yes.
A very close friend of mine lied to me about being raped. She did it to 'test' (or so I was told by others) our friendship.
It really made me second guess myself as a person, a woman, and a friend. It also kept me from putting myself out there to the people around me.
I'm over it now... I've learned to look at the source, KWIM - looking back at this person who lied, it was no surprise she did what she did, but I can't stand that she made me hold back in helping the people that might have needed me... if that makes sense.
OH MY GOD!!! What a weirdo! Who would lie about something like that. Thats just scary!
Someone who needs a LOT of attention and reassurance that her friends are, in her mind, true friends.... even though, ironiclly enough, she doens't know the definition of a true friend.
I stopped speaking with her for other reasons long before I found out about the faux-rape.
KK Holiday
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A lot of sh!t has happened throughout the years which is why I have less than 5 close friends.
same here. i had pretty much a hell of a sr yr at high school and i lost a lot of friends.... i dont think that it makes it harder for me to trust people now. i guess you could say i'm much more reserved now when I meet people.
wifetobe
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Posted by Sunset Renee
PS - That's One of the Many Reasons why I Love this Website!!
And - I do think that Men are a Whole lot Easier to befriend!
Are you kidding me.. that stinks!! Your FH looks so cute an innocent.. how can they not like him!!!!
KK Holiday
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Posted by AMGBride2008
Yes.
A very close friend of mine lied to me about being raped. She did it to 'test' (or so I was told by others) our friendship.
It really made me second guess myself as a person, a woman (in the sense that am I sensitive to other women's experiences, can I place myself in their shoes... make sense?), and a friend. It also kept me from putting myself out there to the people around me.
I'm over it now... I've learned to look at the source, KWIM - looking back at this person who lied, it was no surprise she did what she did, but I can't stand that she made me hold back in helping the people that might have needed me... if that makes sense.
