Spinoff: Would you adopt?

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Posted by oct.2004bride

WOW...well i am going to be the odd ball but NO i wouldn't adopt...it is just not our thing. We talked about it and both of us feel the same

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why not?

of those of you that would adopt, would you do it even if you could have children?

i can't explain why not...it just wouldn't feel right to me and i kow my DH feels the same.

We have having a child of our own naturally or not at all

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Posted by tourist

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Posted by oct.2004bride

WOW...well i am going to be the odd ball but NO i wouldn't adopt...it is just not our thing. We talked about it and both of us feel the same

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why not?

of those of you that would adopt, would you do it even if you could have children?

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Most definitely, If I had the means financially, why not give someone else a better life than what they have.

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Posted by oct.2004bride

i can't explain why not...it just wouldn't feel right to me and i kow my DH feels the same.

We have having a child of our own naturally or not at all

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i completely know how you feel

like i said, it would HAVE to be under the right pretense

but i tend to agree with you

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Posted by oct.2004bride

WOW...well i am going to be the odd ball but NO i wouldn't adopt...it is just not our thing. We talked about it and both of us feel the same

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My Dh and I feel the same way.

I do have such repsect for all the women that realize they want to be mothers so badly that they move on to adoption. I am just not there.

Right now its something that we do not feel comfortable with...Maybe it's b/c for us, it will feel like we are giving up our dream of becoming pg.

Who knows, maybe one day if my RE tells us to give it up we may change our minds on adoption.

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Posted by don424

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Posted by oct.2004bride

i can't explain why not...it just wouldn't feel right to me and i kow my DH feels the same.

We have having a child of our own naturally or not at all

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i completely know how you feel

like i said, it would HAVE to be under the right pretense

but i tend to agree with you

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My husband and I felt like that too in the beginning. It is a very difficult decision to make and to come to grips with that you will never have a bio child.

I could not imagine my life in the future without a child in it so we decided to adopt. We have fears and concerns but the joy of raising a child and to give a child who would be confined to an orphanage for its life a chance to grow up in a land to become anything she wishes far outways any negatives we could think of.

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Posted by KarenK122

My husband and I felt like that too in the beginning. It is a very difficult decision to make and to come to grips with that you will never have a bio child.

I could not imagine my life in the future without a child in it so we decided to adopt. We have fears and concerns but the joy of raising a child and to give a child who would be confined to an orphanage for its life a chance to grow up in a land to become anything she wishes far outways any negatives we could think of.

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Yes it is a difficult decision..
I don't think i could imagine my life without a child but if i couldn't have one on my own ....well i know in my heart adoption isn't for me...and to know that my DH agrees with me completely...reassures me that i am making the right decision for us

i am adopted and found my birth mom 3 weeks after my wedding! it was good at first but i do not feel the bond with her... i guess because she never did change her ways... but i did get 2 siblings one boy who is 2 and a girl who is 4. i love then dearly!

as for me i have no choise to adopt, seee 7 years ago i had to have a full hystorectomy and it is very hard for me when i see friends have babies, 2 girlfriends of mine both had babies at the same time and at one baby shower i cried like a baby cause somethings where said like too bad all 3 of you could not be having babies at the same time, then another said to the girls who shower it was thank god you did not get prego in high school... well i did and that hurt like crazy, and i am very greatful that i did cause then i would have never had a baby of my own. it hurts like crazy that i can not give my dear hubby a child of his own and even thought about asking for someone to do it for us , it's not the same but at least he would have one of his own.... but in ny it has to be a family memeber or a close friend due to past problems.... no one i know would do it for us, but i do understand but it is very hard for me! sorry so long i have been hurting alot latly about it and need to vent sorry again!

Absolutely. If Adam and I can't conceive a baby on our own, I'd be perfectly up for adoption. My cousins are adopted from Russia, and I love them as much as any blood relative. More than some of my blood relatives, actually.

My DH and I are the godparents to our friends' 2 adopted children.

DH and I would definitely adopt if we were unable to have children!

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Posted by tourist

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Posted by oct.2004bride

WOW...well i am going to be the odd ball but NO i wouldn't adopt...it is just not our thing. We talked about it and both of us feel the same

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why not?

of those of you that would adopt, would you do it even if you could have children?

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Honestly, if we ever are financially stable enough with our own naturally-conceived children, I would LOVE to adopt a child. There are so many children that have the unfortunate experience of being without parents and it would feel so great to make a difference, even if it's just in one child's life.

Yes I would!

I have 2 cousins who have adopted.

One-I don't think she ever could have children. She now has 2 girls.

The second -Has 2 boys of her own & adopted a daughter just last year.

All 3 were adopted from China. They are the sweetest little girls! They live in Ireland & they have cute Irish accents!! So adorable!!