Starting up 'The Anti-Mother-in-Law' Club

Well this thread was a success.

Sue- knew you would love it.

We have to keep it going!!! It helps knowing that you arent the only one!! LOL....

count me in and I am a newlywed. My MIL is lying to everyone ! See post NWR ...
Glad I am not alone.
All Members unite as one!

I am an existing member of this club, but could use everyones support.....my FIL's are in town this week AGHH. .. Luckily they live across the country so we see them very little...but seeing them so little makes me even more nervous for tonight (they only have a short stay to cram in all the nasty comments!!!) Keep your fingers crossed for me everyone.

Oh I can go on and on about my mother in law this is gonna be long I will start out that she didn't want FH and I to move in together she thoguht it was too soon we were dating for like 5 months. Then she made a big deal about our age difference I am 7 years older then him I am 32 and he is 25 she didn't have a problem with this before now she has a problem with it. When we found out I was prego she was not as excited as we thoguht she would be butt hat could be cuz she ha s 27 grandkids but then I find out that she was telling my FH that this had to be my way of trapping him cuz of the age difference and my clock is ticking. Which is not true at all I was on birthcontrol for christ sakes it wasn't planned. When we bring our daughter to see her which is not that often being that she lives up by oneonta she is like oh she is so big and thats that. But her other granddaughter that she sees everyday s he makes big deals about. I would think it would be the opposite. When it was time ofr the chistening she made a big deal that we were having it in January cuz of snow and bad weather but I wasn't waiting till my daughter was 7 months to get her christened. Fh agreed with me. When she showed up she wasn't all that happy either she jsut kept to herself which was fine with me. Now we get engaged she is like are you sure this is what you want you don't have to rush into this is Jenn pressuring you to get married now cuz you have a child. He was like no she had no i dea I was gong to ask her. Hello he asked me to marry him in front of you did I look like I was expecting it. She kept telling him tot hink about it and take his time there is nothing wrong with living together and having a child. He was like mom do you like Jenn she said yeah I love her but I jsut want to make sure your ready for this. OS now we atart looking at halls she would call and ask about the hallssand all that and constantly say that is too much money why notget married where your sister got married I told her I didn't want ot get married there I dind't like the place. Plus I didn't want to have my wedding compared to hers. So we find a place a nd set a date for February well she threw afit cuz it was february it can still snow a nd its gonna be cold so I gave in and changed it to the day after thanksgiving but his stepmotherthen told us that it was anthony sisters 21 b-dya and they were going to Vegas so that was fine they have everyhting booked already and he wants his stepmom and father there. as well as his mother and stepfather. So I opt for September 15 and once again FMIL has a canary she says thats your fathers b-day we were like so its not a big b-day or anything they know about it and said it was fine. So if they don't have a problem then you shouldn't. Oh this is the best now we are planning on paying for the wedding ourselves and his mother says well if you find out how much jenn's parents a putting in towards the wedding then we will match that and help out as well. Hello we are paying for the wedding ourselves you want to help out thats great then help out but don't expect my parents to h elp out cuz we said we were paying for it ourselves. Besides if my parents decide to help out its no ones business what they are chipping in if you want to help out then help out and don't base it on what my parents are giving if they give anyhting. I told Fh this and he agreed I also told Anthony (FH) that his parents own a business my parents don't his parents can afford alot more then my parents can my parents work to pay bills and live day by day. Your parents don't they can afford to give a little if they dont' thats fine I won't hold it against them but they shouldn't base if they are gonna help us and the amount htey are gonna help us on what my parents are gonna give.
Then the issue of kis being invited came up and we said no kids under 16 she wanted her grandchildren there so anthony said then you pay for all the kids even the ones on Jenns side becuz we can't afford all these kids and it wouldn't be fair to include the kids on our side and not jenns side to this FMIL says well then I guess your daughter won't be there Hello thats my daughter and yes she will be there she is my flowergirl and if she wasn't she is my daughter. Then she said well her brother will be 15 so he aint coming right thats my brother and he is walking my mom down the isle we are talking baout kids thata re couisns and neices and nephews not immediate family.When she comes to my house she constantly asks if the sheets are clean and rewashes a dish or glass before she uses it how rude it that she is just like marie barone thats exactly how to explain it. SHe triedto tell me how to raise my daughter yeah she has raised 10 kids but the youngest one is 23 years old so alot has changed. She tried to control anthony (FH) life and is still trying but its not working and she is getting annoyed. Totally MArie Barone rom everybody loves raymond.
I can go on but I think I went on enough didn't realize how much I had written.
I think i deserve a title is vice president or treasurer taken yet

I would like my membership card....my FMIL HATES me....HATES me!!!! And I can't stand her....

It started before she even knew me. She didn't want to meet me, and she didn't want me invited to family events (Holidays), even when they were at FH house.
She always made nasty comments about me, made snide remarks, teamed up with her daughter, and they could say anything they wanted to me, and the second I snapped back, they would get hysterical....
Well, low and behold, my FH and I had a spat....he did some nasty mean things, so I did some nasty mean things-and when it all came out, he went crying to his Mommy....well, 2months later we realized that the petty stuff didn't matter, and that we wanted to work it out....and she told him that if he dated me, she would no longer be his mother. Charming isn't she?????
This is a woman who has never been nurturing. When her daughter was in the hospital with a tumor in her femur, she never went to see her, she's self centered and nasty. And she's one of those mother's that wants every holiday, every birthday. I haven't seen her in months....

I'm so sorry to see your stories. I can't believe someone would say she hated the food at the shower!

Mine is pleasant enough, but I think she favors her daughter over her son. Also, she has offered no help, financial, time, or otherwise for this wedding. After reading some of these stories though, I really can't complain.

I wrote a book about my inlaws, literally I did. Four hundred pages. I don't have the guts to publish it but it's writtten.

There's a great site for you ladies to co-miserate about inlaws on...

www.motherinlawstories.com

It helped me work through alot and vent.

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Posted by marymoon

Trust me ladies i WIN this prize. In additiona to a million things, like criticizing everything, calling me a princess, calling me fat, sayng FH spent too much $$ on my ring, in HS not letting FH come to my nana's wake b/c we were 'spending too much time together', grabbing my promise ring and trying ti on herself and then buying herself a similar one, saying my butt is a fat as piglet's, buying FH a membership to hillel in college so he could meet some jewish girls (we had already been dating for a year), etc etc,,

In addition to ALL of that and more, my mom and I are going through the pain of my dad having walked out and she most recently told FH (loud enough for me and my mom to hear thorught the phone) that my mom and I are both (insert 30 minute diatribe here and many many curses and insults) and because we are all of those nasty tings and demanding and this and that, THAT is why my dad left She doens't even know my mom and my mom is SO nice and sweet and none of those things..then when FH approached her on it, she said she didn't mean to hurt my mom, she really meant it was MY fault

She would throw a party if FH and I broke up, and she just totally disrespects us both. everything FH does that she doens't like it MY fault. And she just doens't care who does what to us, she'll let them, or she'll even do it herself.

My FMIL wins the 'worst FMIL of the year ' award hands down...just for what she said about me and my mom...all of the hundreds of other incidents are just gravy.

I can't even tell you how much I hate her and ow much she's interfered, after her comments about me and my mom (which she will NOT back down from), we relaized she'll never respect our relationship, and I really considered calling off the wedding. Fh and I have been together ofr almost 6 years and we've been very very happy, and just because of HER it could have all fallen apart.

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Yes, Jenn. Even before I saw your thread, I couldn't help but think about your evil witch FMIL. I hope the lady rots!

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Posted by Shorty McBride


My FMIL isn't horrible, but I wouldn't put it past her to be lurking on this site, reading my posts!!!

(Hiya Momma M!!!! )

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HAHAHAHAHA

Yesterday I told my FMIL that I had this GREAT picture of FH - he looks ADORABLE in it... it is from the Bahamas so there are palm trees in the background, but basically it is just his face (the picture is in my profile)...
anyway, i told her i loved it so much, that i was gonna get it blown up and framed...
she's like 'that's a weird picture, it looks like it belongs in national geographic or something.'

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