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Starting up 'The Anti-Mother-in-Law' Club

Original post by Taken2005

Hello Ladies,

I have had it up to here with her. She is cold heartless and I just cant take it anymore. I am calling all brides to be to come and rant about their FMILs! I am not only the President of this club, I am also a member!

We went to brunch yesterday and proceeded to tell me she had a TERRIBLE time at my shower and that the food was horrible. Ok..yeah, I am not making this stuff up. She also kept looking at my plate at what I was eating. I have lost 15 lbs and I am really proud of that, I am working very hard, so I stuck to my diet yesterday. I had 1/2 of eggplant rollatine and she says 'Is that on your diet' and when I took a bite of my FH Brownie she commented on that too.

Not to even mention that my FH ended up in the ER on Friday b/c his blood pressure was through the roof! Did she call to see if he was feeling better at all this weekend? NO! did she stop by his apartment to see if he needed anything NO! he has to go for all these tests and I am a total mess and she is only concerned if we were going to see her on mother's day!

Anyways the list goes on..so come share stories!!!!

We all need some support here!!

And of course I have to give props to my FH, who sticks up for me ALL the time and puts her in her place (when she says things in front of him, ususally its when he isnt around!)

Love to all!
Steph
FeeBee24 Posted:

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My FMIL told me told my fiance and I that we should get married at 'the justice of the peace' (basically sign papers in front of a judge) right now because we just moved in together. She disagrees with us for moving in 10 months before the wedding and she would not stop her little comments until I told her no way will I do that because .....the wedding is already booked for 2/18 ! I came to the conclusion that I am doing what makes us happy...I am living with my fiance before the wedding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


LuckyMe Posted:

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justshir Posted:

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since first meeting the future MIL about many years ago she's always been a mean person. i was told by scott's brothers (all boys in the fam) that teh mother is always like that to any fem who walks through that door and that i should not take it personally. so fine.. i rarely see her anyway, but when i do bump into her on the streets i say hello but she just continues to walk past me w/o saying a word. i mean.. how rude! so... scott and i got serious .. she told me what to do, what to say, where to have my wedding, what colors the wedding should be, makes snide comments, etx. most of the time i went with what i wanted to do but never really doing it in spite of it.

just last weekend, i had to go over to my in-laws to help hub deliver a heavy baby crib for my BIL. I said hello to her and the correct chinese name for MIL. She blew up and me. saying that i married scott so therefore i should call her mom. So i blew up at her. i refuse to call her what she wants me to call her. Maybe if she was nicer to me then that would be a different story. She bumped into my fam friend and starts yelling at her.. demanding how the friend and i know one another. She also says i don't work but in fact i do. Then she says i jsut started my job. But in fact i've been working for this same company for 2yrs! Then she says i don't make enough money! Do ya kinda see a pattern here??? Nothing's good enough! She brought up the fact that my mom owns 3 houses!!! i asked her how is it any of her business??? Her dumb a5s answer was 'nothing! It has absolutely nothing to do w me.' I think MIIL was just trying to come up with crap to say abotu me! She says all i do is spend money and that we should already have a house of our own instead of renting. First of all, we have a huge debt and that debt belongs to my hub but i'm helping to pay it off! Everything to her is everyone else's fault but her own! It's jsut insane! we had a shouting match for which seemed like forever. although i felt invigorated and liberated letting all that out, i felt horrible! When my hub and i left the in-laws by car i just started gushing out w tears! ARGH! I cannot stand her! one of the last things she said was my relationship with her is over! she even did the edward scissor hand gesture! i'm like 'GREAT! that's wonderful! i couldn't be happier!.' I also included when scott and i have our kids that she is also out of their lives! that pissed her off some more! i LOVED it!

it's all jealousy! i'm not a wealthy gal! same with my mom! and what my fam has they worked hard for it and still working hard to maintain what they have! they don't even flaunt what they have! when she brought that up it just blew me away! it just has nothing to do with her! so.. i feel she's all jealous of everyone and she's always teh 'victim'... she needs to grow up! and last mother's day.. she had my BIL ask scott to join them for lunch! what friggin nerve!

i wish things were better but i'm happy that i don't have any obligations toward her anymore. this is a good thing... i also wish scott was a lil more supportive of me. i just wish he could defend me.. his wife.
Emma2-22 Posted:

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Me too me too!
I want to join the club I think I deserve a title too. I have the credentials to prove it! LOL

To begin with she could not be pushier or bossier or ruder if she wanted to be. And DH is one of those who just lets everything go and does not stand up to his family. They can do no wrong and I hate that soooo much. I am the type to let my family know if they did something wrong or stupid. I don't care if you're the pope what's wrong is wrong. Also, no matter what I say she always does the opposite. She seems to be determined to defy my every word.

Now where to start?

In no specific order...

1) DH is Greek and I am not but we will be raising our son in the Greek Orthodox religion and they have a tradition that the sunday before your 40th day after having given birth you are to go to the church to get the baby blessed. Well as soon as we walk into the church to meet her she comments on my sons outfit 'why you put that? You supposed to put another one. The one I buy.' She actually talks like that since she barely speaks english. So of course I proceed to tell her that she did buy that outfit! Moron what ever happened to hello.

2) 2 weeks ago I had professional pictures of my son taken and I gave her an 8x10 for her to put in her house and I gave her 4 wallets (DH has 2 sisters) and I told her '1 for you, 1 for dad, 1 sis, and 1 for other sis. So a few days later DH tells me that FIL wants a wallet size pic so I tell DH to call his mother and tell her to give FIL his picture. Afterwards I ask FH what happened and he says that she said there weren't enough. So, I don't get it! I sent 4 pics and there are 4 people. I come to find out afterwards that after I even specified that it was 1 for everyone she decided to give 2 wallets to one of the sisters and FIL got nothing. What the F$^k? Who does that? She has no common sense whatsoever.

3) For my bridal shower and the wedding no one from DH side of the family even offered to help pay for anything but the woman had the nerve to tell us how to do things and to give a ridiculously long invite list.

4) Not too long ago she called the house one day looking for DH. I had just recemntly tried call DH cell phone and did not get an answer so I had no clue where he was. So she ask if DH was here and I say 'no he's not here I don't know where he is' and she has the balls to say 'you don't know where he is? I don't think so you don't know where he is' So the woman is calling me a liar now too!

5) I stopped answering the phone when she calls (Caller ID is a beautiful thing) because she calls and speaks to me in Greek! Not just the hello how are that I understand but she tries to have a friggin conversation with me. How rude I don't call her and speak to her in spanish although sometimes I'll purposely answer her in spanish because she pi$$es me off.

6) My son does not take a pacifier anymore. For some reason he just doesn't seen to like it anymore. He spits it out and doesn't even suck on it. For at least a month and a half everytime she saw us she'd ask for the paci for the baby even though everytime she did I'd repeat 'HE DOES NOT LIKE IT!' One day we were sitting on the sofa (DH-ME-MIL) I'm in the middle and she asks for the paci so I say 'he doesn't like it' so she proceeds to lean over me and ask DH for the paci in greek. What a Beeyotch! And one day I had not realized that I had a paci thrown on the table because I had taken it out of the diaper bag since it didn't make sense for me to carry it around and she found it. She washed it and put it in my sons mouth, he spit it out once, she put it back in, he spit it out again, so she shoved it in his mouth and held it there for a good 20 minutes. She has no respect for what I say.

7) This was my first mothers day and she didn't even call me to wish me a happy one even though we were there the night before and I took her a card and a gift and got nothing in return either.

8) While I was pregnant I was put on bedrest half way through because I have fibroids that had gotten really large to due the hormones and I was in pain and the Dr. wanted to play it safe. One day she called and I told her that DH was on his way over to her house and she asked me why I didn't go with him so I said I was very tired and I didn't feel too good so she said 'Oh you lazy eh?'

I wish she'd go back to Greece.

P.S. My SIL's are no picnic either. They have holier than thou attitudes because they have lots of money to spend on brand name clothes and stuff (very shi-shi). They run around with there noses in the air and look down on others. And they always have rude remarks to belittle others. Last thanksgiving while preggo and tired I told DH to plug in the x-mas lights on the that I had just hung up the night before so that I could get into the spirit. His sister turns around looks at the lights and says 'they look corny' Come on now even if that's what you think do you have to say that??? And the other one (although they think they're soooo classy) comes to my house and goes through the baby's drawers and read the inside of my cards that I have on a table and goes through the diaper bag to see what's in it. She does all of this on a regular basis. I'm at the point where I always close my bedroom door because I would not put it past her to go in and look through the rest of my stuff.

Someone shoot me please!!!
GsCM4EVA Posted:

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Shorty McBride Posted:

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hey, I'm not joining this club!!

I LIKE my FMIL!

(Hiya again Momma M!!!!! )
prindia Posted:

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You guys are funny. Thanks God mine lives in Florida we just contact her on special occasions
Mrs. dleeny Posted:

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JEEZ! I thought I had some complaints... they're voided now!

sounds to me like a lot of in laws have 'foot in mouth disease'!!!!!!
chmpgnrose Posted:

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My MIL uses foul language at me when she speaks to me! She actually says the whole 'F', 'S' words while I just refer to the letters 'F' or 'S.' She lacks patience, understanding and shows no respect towards me when speaking to me. At times she treats me like I know nothing when explaining me how to do things like I'm ignorant or I just got off the boat from China when I've been living in New York City for 31 years now. MIL says things like 'Do you know how to do that?' and her famous 'Are you F***ing listening to me???!!' in a yelling tone of voice. Is this how one speaks to another in a professional office environment?

I'm tired of being treated like a worthless wretch. The woman obviously favors her children as I'm not her children through blood ties but by through marriage.
regi Posted:

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My mil is a pain the ***. She has no friends. Even her own mother can't stand her!!!
Flylilgrl Posted:

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Some already know my story. But my FMIL just 2 days ago would not give 16 year old sister-in-law 100 bucks to get her bridemaid dress cuz she said she does not approve of this wedding and will not have anything to do with it. BIATCH!! She can get her tit implants and all kinds of surgeries and fancy vacations every month but she cannot spare 100 bucks?!?!? Common now!! And she has brainwashed his whole side of the family and swears that she and the rest of her zoo wont go to our wedding... (which is fine with me cuz now I can invite someone else that I truly care about)

Anyway... FH finally stood up for himself after years of her torment and told her to go screw herself if she would not go. He let her have it and told her never to come into our life again... and she happily agreed.. the witch that she is!

Future mother-in-law?!?!? More like F!#$*N Mother-n-Law!
Mrs. dleeny Posted:

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Posted by Flylilgrl

She can get her tit implants and all kinds of surgeries and fancy vacations every month but she cannot spare 100 bucks?!?!?

I'm sorry for laughing... but that is HILARIOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

PS: glad your FH stood up to her!
gNi1125 Posted:

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I'm in. Not in the mood to get into all the craziness for now. I'll save the stories for the next drama story
marymoon Posted:

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I really feel like mine takes the cake right now..just look at my post on the 06 board.

halfpintny Posted:

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I saw this post while I was at work and promised that I'd write when I got home...where to start. FMIL is not contributing anything towards the wedding. She is crass and curses. She actually called me the 'C' word (to FH not to my face). Said instead of a photographer and a dj I should just put disposable cameras on the table and have someone play CDs. She never asks about the wedding and when I bring it up her only comments are to say that its rediculous to spend all that money. Wants us to honeymoon in the hamptons for a weekend or go to the Poconos. Thinks I have a gambling problem because I play bingo once a month and go to AC twice a year. She hasn't looked for a dress for the wedding and though she might wear slacks and a top.....should I continue or do I win the prize?

me&james Posted:

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Oh please add me to that list!!! I need to vent sooo badly - thank you for this post!!

My MIL isn't that bad all the time - I mean, sometimes she's pretty cool. But catch her when she's in a bad mood and she'll rip my head off. The other day we went to a golf course we are using for a function - and she screaming at the lady working there - asking her many questions, very rudely. I knew I had to calm her down, so I said for one particular answer to a question 'oh, they don't have it, but that's ok, we don't need it anyway.' Ya, good one - she started ripping into me bad. So I told her quietly to calm down - big mistake - she was soooo mad. Anyways, my mom was there and was sooo upset by the way she treated me. She knew it wasn't my fault but didn't want to get in between. I was trying to calm her down and she said I disrespected her and was rude. OK - you should see the way she was speaking to the lady there. It was disgusting. She made me cry for 2 hours. My FH is Greek, and no offense to anyone, but they don't speak, they yell - it's hard for me to take - it feels like I need to defend myself all the time. Anyway, yesterday we got into another fight. I felt sick all day today and actually started to contemplate if I should call off my wedding. I know it's wrong, and I love my dear FH, but it's going to be so hard to live my life like this. She changed my china pattern, the colour of my appliances, and many of the things I registered for. I do sooooo much for her - I include her in everything, pick her up, drop her off, call her everyday, let her pick out things for the wedding and I think she's stepping all over me now. I just don't know what to do. I feel soo bad. I feel like I'm a bad person, but I know that I do so much more for her than most daughters/brides. I'm tired of feeling bad. Tired of having to defend myself. I just don't know what to do anymore. I just don't know what to do....
By the way, I wouldn't call off the wedding for her - I love my FH, but she gets me so upset that I can't even think properly. Why can't she be nice??
knotted Posted:

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marymoon Posted:

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Trust me ladies i WIN this prize. In additiona to a million things, like criticizing everything, calling me a princess, calling me fat, sayng FH spent too much $$ on my ring, in HS not letting FH come to my nana's wake b/c we were 'spending too much time together', grabbing my promise ring and trying ti on herself and then buying herself a similar one, saying my butt is a fat as piglet's, buying FH a membership to hillel in college so he could meet some jewish girls (we had already been dating for a year), etc etc,,

In addition to ALL of that and more, my mom and I are going through the pain of my dad having walked out and she most recently told FH (loud enough for me and my mom to hear thorught the phone) that my mom and I are both (insert 30 minute diatribe here and many many curses and insults) and because we are all of those nasty tings and demanding and this and that, THAT is why my dad left She doens't even know my mom and my mom is SO nice and sweet and none of those things..then when FH approached her on it, she said she didn't mean to hurt my mom, she really meant it was MY fault

She would throw a party if FH and I broke up, and she just totally disrespects us both. everything FH does that she doens't like it MY fault. And she just doens't care who does what to us, she'll let them, or she'll even do it herself.

My FMIL wins the 'worst FMIL of the year ' award hands down...just for what she said about me and my mom...all of the hundreds of other incidents are just gravy.

I can't even tell you how much I hate her and ow much she's interfered, after her comments about me and my mom (which she will NOT back down from), we relaized she'll never respect our relationship, and I really considered calling off the wedding. Fh and I have been together ofr almost 6 years and we've been very very happy, and just because of HER it could have all fallen apart.
MayBride06 Posted:

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I feel so bad for you girls who do not have a relationship with your MIL. Mine is terrific and very excited for us!
julie75 Posted:

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OHHHH, i have one !!! I live the life of Debra in Everyone Loves Raymond. My MIL has told me that if I use a little clorox on the bathtub it will make it white again !!!! I wanted to kick her in her face but I restrained myself. She has also gone on the record saying that a bed that is made in the morning shows class !! I wake up at 6am while my FH is still in bed, I told her I would gladly make the bed as long as he gets up and doesn't go back to sleep. My MIL obviously thought I was crazy to think of waking her dear son up, cause he works SOOO hard.

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