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Mizzdimple Posted: Mar 12, 2007 10:30 AM

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Has anyone felt that some people are not making a big deal out of your engagement.

My parents are happy but didnt even get FH and I a card to say congrats.

His mom bought us a bunch of things., a cake. His family gave me gifts. Not one thing from mine.

My aunt and uncle didnt even mention it or say congrats.

FutureMrs.T Posted: Mar 12, 2007 10:33 AM

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Some people just handle it differently. Maybe if you and DF were together a long time or living together before you got engaged, they wouldnt see it as a big deal. Either way though, a card or a congratulations would not be too hard to give someone.....

Mizzdimple Posted: Mar 12, 2007 10:34 AM

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Posted by kzecha

Some people just handle it differently. Maybe if you and DF were together a long time or living together before you got engaged, they wouldnt see it as a big deal. Either way though, a card or a congratulations would not be too hard to give someone.....

I KNOW! They are on my 'sh..it list'

Super2star Posted: Mar 12, 2007 10:42 AM

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I think my mom bought me a card...but never actually gave it....so I think the thought was there...ahaha...yeah I only got cards from the FH family too

jboota22 Posted: Mar 12, 2007 10:50 AM

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I realized during this engagement/ pre wedding process that you can have people who are into it and whatever, but when it comes down to it...it's only happening to you and your FH so you can't expect other people to be as into it as you are. Everyone has their stuff going on. And when people haven't gone through this already..then they really don't understand how exciting and thrilling it is. You can worry about who is making a big deal out of it. Enjoy it with your FH.
Sometimes people don't know to make a big deal out of things and it's sad b/c you really want them to. I totally understand

Mizzdimple Posted: Mar 12, 2007 10:54 AM

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Posted by jboota22

I realized during this engagement/ pre wedding process that you can have people who are into it and whatever, but when it comes down to it...it's only happening to you and your FH so you can't expect other people to be as into it as you are. Everyone has their stuff going on. And when people haven't gone through this already..then they really don't understand how exciting and thrilling it is. You can worry about who is making a big deal out of it. Enjoy it with your FH.
Sometimes people don't know to make a big deal out of things and it's sad b/c you really want them to. I totally understand

You are totally right, only thing is that my sister got married..and they threw her an engagement party, made a really big deal out of everything.
But its okay...we are enjoying it!
*Im in biatch mode this weeekk..WATCH OUT!

DnellD809 Posted: Mar 12, 2007 11:07 AM

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I DEFINITELY feel that way!!!
AND it just doesn't feel real because right after I got engaged my best friend got engaged and she is getting married in May of this year....so we have planning her wedding.

I feel like nobody really looks at us like WE are getting married.....

cherish83 Posted: Mar 12, 2007 11:17 AM

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I feel the same way.. my mom hasnt shown much enthusiasm as of yet.. She actually just got back from St. Martin yesterday and bought me pearl with diamond earing to wear on my wedding. She said that she knows I dont think she cares about the wedding.. and says thats not true so she bought me the earrings to show that she does

beachbum05 Posted: Mar 12, 2007 12:03 PM

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Yeah - same hereI also think its because its still 'far away.'

Spelldizzy Posted: Mar 12, 2007 01:17 PM

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Some people just dont make a big fuss over it. My parents will always see me as a baby. I don't think they will get excited until the day get closer. My mom kinda grunted out congratulations when I got my ring, and every now and then she mentions something wedding related. As far as a card ha. Yeh right. Me and FH's coworkers (we work together) Threw us a party at work, they took up a collection and bought us a cute cake.

nifheim Posted: Mar 12, 2007 01:21 PM

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My parents could of cared less when we got engaged..as well as my family and fh's family. We did receive a gift and card from them and a few of my family members but no one else said boo. Now since its a year till on friday my parents are getting a bit into it. I am the baby of the family and the only girl (i have a older brother) so honestly i think they are more sad to see me going then anything.

As time gets closer people will get more interested.

AS Posted: Mar 12, 2007 01:24 PM

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At first I kinda felt that no one cared. My engagement was a big shock and surprise to everyone and to me too, of course. My FH did it sooo out of the blue, no one was expecting it. I got flowers sent to me and alot of comments and phone calls but nothing tooo big celebrrated with my family. We had some shots of ouzo the night I got engaged,lolol thats it. But when my eparty comes around I know that will be a BIG BIG family celebration. MY family procrastinates alot and they love doing things the last second, so the more close my eparty, shower and wedding gets the more they will get excited and it will be exciting to everyone. They want me to get married but still in denial, I am their baby

Mizzdimple Posted: Mar 12, 2007 03:14 PM

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hahahahhaaa. Did ya get any jewlery?

AS Posted: Mar 12, 2007 04:07 PM

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No jewelry, I have to wait for the eparty to get showered in jews, lolol

madseason Posted: Mar 12, 2007 04:12 PM

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Posted by beachbum05

Yeah - same hereI also think its because its still 'far away.'

yup same here...although, my mom just wants to live vicariously thru me!

We wanted an engagement party, but FMIL said their family doesnt go to those and I got all bent out of shape....i just told my mom and she was like whaaaaaaaa...i would have done it for you myself!

Ever since then i was just like oh well...no big deal...

Mizzdimple Posted: Mar 12, 2007 04:19 PM

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Posted by madseason

Posted by beachbum05

Yeah - same hereI also think its because its still 'far away.'

yup same here...although, my mom just wants to live vicariously thru me!

We wanted an engagement party, but FMIL said their family doesnt go to those and I got all bent out of shape....i just told my mom and she was like whaaaaaaaa...i would have done it for you myself!

Ever since then i was just like oh well...no big deal...

WHAT I WOULDA SMACKED SOMEONE...LOL

soon2BMrsMcD Posted: Mar 12, 2007 05:09 PM

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It is weird! We got gifts from people I would never expect to get us gifts, and we didn't get gifts or even a CARD from people who I thought for sure would get us something!!! It's strange! FMIL keeps telling me people have a year to give you something tho. Is there truth to that rumor?

jenlen Posted: Mar 12, 2007 07:08 PM

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my parents have never liked FH (they only agreed to meet him ONCE during the 5.5 years we've been dating). When I called them to tell them (i like out of state), the proceeded to give me a long lecture about how my FH and I won't even make enough money to support our families (I'm going to be a pharmacist...him, a nurse...someone tell me how we won't have enough money).

They didn't say congrats until I broke down and cried on the phone and had to hang up on them.

They've gotten a little better, but whenever I go home, i can hear them talking about me behind my back from the other room. It *****.

Teamhurldon Posted: Mar 12, 2007 07:13 PM

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Posted by jenlen

my parents have never liked FH (they only agreed to meet him ONCE during the 5.5 years we've been dating). When I called them to tell them (i like out of state), the proceeded to give me a long lecture about how my FH and I won't even make enough money to support our families (I'm going to be a pharmacist...him, a nurse...someone tell me how we won't have enough money).

They didn't say congrats until I broke down and cried on the phone and had to hang up on them.

They've gotten a little better, but whenever I go home, i can hear them talking about me behind my back from the other room. It *****.

Wow, I'm sorry I know they are your parents, but that royally sux and is plain horrible of them! Maybe theyll come around once your married and they realize youre in it for the long haull, but that really makes me mad I don't understand how parents can be like that, and youre not alone, my mom's mother was the same way....

michellecarin Posted: Mar 12, 2007 07:47 PM

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OH my goodness same here. I sent a 'Will you be my bridesmaid' to FH's sisters and they didn't even call me to say they got it. My family is super excited FH's family is very laid back and quiet about all of it.