Okay so my FH was in Atlantic City this past weekend for his friends bachelor party. And the last stop they made was to a strip club. Now there's nothing i can do about it. It was his friends bachelor party and i certainly don't expect my FH to sit anything out. But i had a few thoughts on the topic...
-lots of people say that it's their last chance to see some boobs or naked bodies. Now correct me if i'm wrong, but didn't the guys think of this before they put the damn ring on your finger? I mean when you give the girl a ring... it sort of means that she's it, doesn't it? And that she's the last person you're ever going to sleep with? So if you want to see more boobs or a*ses... shouldn't you wait to give her the ring or at least visit the strip club before you propose to get it out of your system? I mean how romantic is it that your FH has to go to a strip club right before he marries you? Wow that says romance to me!!!
-Okay so say your FH is at a bar and him and a group of people leave. Then he realizes he has to pee and this girl in the group says oh i'm right around the corner, you can use my bathroom (i know its far fetched, but keep with me). When your FH comes out of the bathroom, she all of a sudden comes out of the room naked.... shouldn't your FH feel awkward and that he shouldn't be seeing this, much less be there? That's its very inappropriate? So why is it okay to see someone naked as long as you PAY for it?
I know i'm rambling and all, but it just aggravates me. I mean just because some people say it's acceptable to pay to see naked women, doesn't mean that it's okay. If you're single, that's one thing. But especially when you're engaged... how is it appropriate or acceptable to see other naked women!?!?!?! My FH definitely wouldn't like me showing my goods to other people, so why would it be okay for him to see someone else's goods?
danielle19755
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I dont like the whole strip club idea either.. BUT I wouldnt mind if I was there with him.. Does that sound weird..
MrsWmson2be
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Posted by danielle19755
I dont like the whole strip club idea either.. BUT I wouldnt mind if I was there with him.. Does that sound weird..
Not at all. I'd go with him too if he wanted me to.
Chelle
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Me too!
JNMWineBride
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This is such a personal thing - depends on you and your FH...
I guess it's easy for me to say....because, personally, I think they're disgusting...and thankfully, my FH does too! (one of the many reasons I love him) ....and I guess this is part of the reason I have no problem with him going to one when he's gone for other guys' bach. parties - he told his guys the one rule he had for his BP was no strippers!
The worst part to me is that these girls have no self respect. Sad really.
Anyway...I think most guys go because it's a right of passage for the BP - almost like they have to - silly I know, but true for a lot of guys.
Some guys get scared at the thought of being with one woman for the rest of their lives...for most, a last minute panic (cold feet) - means nothing...for others...they probably shouldn't be getting married.
Some girls are fine with him going, especially to someone elses' BP - like me - I know my FH loves me and isn't interested in anyone else - I don't kid myself that he doesn't look - hey - I look at Matthew McConaughey plenty. :)
Other girls are upset by it - totally natural too - who likes the thought of the man they love staring at another woman's body - a very intimate thing.
And then there are the girls that get as upset as their men make them - in other words they have good reason not to trust their men...but without trust, what kind of relationship is it?
On the flip side, I have friends whose husbands are so jealous they would freak out over us going to a transvestite musical review for a Bachelorette Party - no nudity, and all gay men! Give me a break! My FH told me to take pix! These girls are just as jealous when it comes to their guys...so they balance out I guess.
