Well I picked out a dress and my maid of honor wants something esle, so i went with her to so many stores and nothing pleases her. My wedding is in three months, I told her I need to order the dresses NOW, shes pulling this ****. At this point, im about to say f you, find your own dress and order the dresses i want for my brides maids. Is it okay to have the maids order there dresses online??? Im just having them order dresses from macy's online that come in 3 weeks, none of the few months garbage bridal stores tell you.
I wish i didnt have a wedding party!
jtgarsik
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well the only thing is i'd make sure all the girls try the dress on before they order...we all know something may look nice on the rack or in a photo, but once u put it on it can look real bad - so i'd take them each there to try them on. And about the MOH - why are you leaving it up to her??? this is YOUR wedding...not hers. when it's her wedding, then SHE can be the one to choose the dress. If u like a dress then you say 'this is the one i love lets order it'...too bad on her. I purposely only brought my MOH & one other bm to try on BM dresses because i knew having 8different opinions in the room would be he**...when we tried on dresses i knew when i saw the one i loved and they never put up a fight...i can't see how someone in the bridal party can do that! i've been plenty of weddings where i wasnt absolutely crazy about the dress - but too bad - it's the BRIDE'S DECISION. i'm sorry ur dealing with the annoyance of this but honestly, if u like a dress just say thats the dress and let that be the end of it. it's one thing if something makes her feel uncomfortable, but it sounds to me like u've tried on a million & she's just being picky.
lisa50
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may I ask which place online are you odering from because I had a similar situation? I got 2 from Macy's the rest at house of brides for cheaper.
staceylacey
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You dont need any added stress. I had my sister MOH try the dress on and It was a dress that would fit everyone and I just said this is it. You cant possibly please everyone and you wilkl drive yourself absolutly crazy if you try to. Thats just MO. All the girls (9) wound up loving the dress and its also less stress for them. HTH
Cpt2007
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First off, I'm sorry that you're dealing with that. But you need to put your foot down and tell your MOH to deal, that it's your wedding and too bad.
That being said, if you are sure that there aren't any problems with the dress for the others (availability of sizes, etc), order them. We ordered our Impression dress for the girls through Netbride. We had a fabulous experience. Tracking down the measurements for everyone was not fun and took a while but it all worked out in the end. They are very good at helping with if there is some question about which size to order etc.
Good luck!
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I understand what you are going through. I can never get any of my bms together to shopping. I just picked out a color and told them to go to David's Bridal, and choose their own dress in that color. There were dresses I liked better, but with the girls scattered around and busy, I figured going with a big chain and giving them some freedom took the stress off me. My best friend did that for her wedding, and it looked really nice. I just said the color, and that they have to be floor length and satin. That idea might work for you.
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i think your MOH needs to suck it up and wear what you pick out. i'm all for trying to be considerate of my BMs, but after a certain point, you have to be able to turn you attention back to the wedding without stressing over a BM dress dilemma.
MayWeddingGrl
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Sorry you are dealing with this, but its happened to a couple of my friends. I think sometimes the people in the bridal party forget that this day is about you and your FH and not even about them.
I was in a BP where the MOH was totally uncooperative and the bride was really frustrated. The MOH was very focused on her looking amazing in the BM gown!! We had to tell her nicely, that although its important to the bride that you don't look bad in the dress, no one will really be paying all that much attention to you during the wedding, they'll mostly be focused on the bride!!
Seriously, don't let her stress you out... just pick the dress that you love and would want your BMs to wear and leave it at that.
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Posted by bride138
Well I picked out a dress and my maid of honor wants something esle, so i went with her to so many stores and nothing pleases her. My wedding is in three months, I told her I need to order the dresses NOW, shes pulling this ****. At this point, im about to say f you, find your own dress and order the dresses i want for my brides maids. Is it okay to have the maids order there dresses online??? Im just having them order dresses from macy's online that come in 3 weeks, none of the few months garbage bridal stores tell you.
I wish i didnt have a wedding party!
i'm sorry you are going through this....
mRm2008
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So sorry you feel this way. You should not have to deal w/ that at all. I do agree with the other ladies that someone should try the dress on. A style can really go either way once you see it on a body. I also had a situation where my MOH tried on a million dresses until we BOTH decided on a style we felt flattering to all girls in the BP. It was a simple strapless gown with a sash. All the girls loved it!
Wishing you lots of luck and hope this situation comes around for you
JennNicole
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That S@%#*! Sometimes peps can be difficult - u learn a lot during a wedding. I could never get my girls 2gether at the same time - it was like pulling teeth! They never came w/me either when I was picking out my gown and or my fittings until the last when they had to learn the bussle!
Try to not get sick and stressed over it .. Your going to need to show some aggression w/a decision bfr they walk all over you.
Even w/a smaller bridal party as I had (2 girls) still issues!
Good luck and try to enjoy this process as it is only once in a lifetime and you cannot get it back once it is over!
