Taking the brides last name???

i have to say, i am so curious as to what your last name is now.

I got picked on also for my last name, but that didnt sway my decision to take my FH last name at all. I want to take his last name, b/c it is his, and b/c its so special to do that.

HOWEVER - this is about YOU and your fiancee, do what makes you BOTH happy and make sure it is something that you can live with regardless of what it is!

Good Luck!!
-Jennifer

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Posted by cluelessbride

You ROCK! for even considering it. GO SCOTT!!!

I tried to get my FH to think about it but he immediately said no way. I said why is it ok for me to take your name, blah, blah, blah but he wasn't hearing it.

I have heard of it, but don't know anyone who has done it.

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i totally agree i wanted us both to use both hyphenated and fh nearly had a coronary-
you are way cool man - koodos!

the groom MAY take her name...and yes, I have one set of friends where he took her name and she took hers.....


she went from _____ Smith (not real)
he was ____ Jones

and they both became __& ____ Smith Jones, they don't use the Smith part though...it's more like a middle name for the both of them

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Posted by cluelessbride

You ROCK! for even considering it. GO SCOTT!!!

I have heard of it, but don't know anyone who has done it.

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Here! Here!
I couldn't have said it better myself, so I won't.
I completely agree with cluelessbride.

Now I don't know what I am going to do. I havent even thought about how it is going to make my dad feel. The last thing I want to do is hurt him. He is such a great guy with an amazing heritage. I think I may just keep things as they are for now, and have Danielle take my last name. I know it may be hard on my kids, but I know also that kids will think of anything to make fun of other than peoples names, and I cannot change everything in life....There will always be something.

Thanks,
Scott

P.S. My last name isnt as bad as everyone thinks...The big think that bothers me is that no one knows how to pronounce it and it always comes out sounding worse than it is.....
Scott

Hi everyone, it's Danielle. When I first told Scott to change his name I was kidding. I did tell him I was keeping my maiden name for work ( I'm a teacher) and that I was thinking about whether or not to change my name or hyphen it.

I don't expect Scott to change his name, but why do men automatically assume we have no problems changing ours? It is also part of who I am and my hertiage. Just a thought.

I'm adding my YOU ROCK! to the others. There's no reason for women to take men's names other than tradition, which means there's no reason for it not to go the other way, too. On the whole family-name thing, can't you just use your last name as a middle name for the kids? Then the name is still there, but they don't get made fun of.

I know a couple where the guy's last name was Stank. So she didn't change her name and the kids will have her last name. They just didn't want to put their kids through the torture for something that really doesn't matter much anyway. I also know a couple where they both changed to a new name.

i think its just tradition......

another thing ive heard that some people do are combine the bride and grooms name,.....


like smithers and radison could become Smithson

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Posted by Danielle&Scott

P.S. My last name isnt as bad as everyone thinks...The big think that bothers me is that no one knows how to pronounce it and it always comes out sounding worse than it is.....
Scott

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I had the same thing with no one pronouncing it right so it came out sounding worse than it actually was.. it definately was rough through school

I personally think the tradition of a bride taking her husband's last name just because people tell her to is ridiculous. Each couple should make up their own mind. I personally want to keep my last name. I'm an only child and the last one with this last name. Other brides really want to change their name and I think that is great if the tradition means something to them. It doesn't mean anything to me so I'm doing what makes me comfortable.

Scott - I think you need to decide for yourself. Asking people on here is probably the wrong way to go. Knowing what makes them happy isn't something that should influence your decision!

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Posted by MrsKinMay05

do you have any brothers, scott ? or does your family name die with you?

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I have a brother. He is 50, and he is married with a daughter.

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Posted by samsbride

I personally think the tradition of a bride taking her husband's last name just because people tell her to is ridiculous. Each couple should make up their own mind. I personally want to keep my last name. I'm an only child and the last one with this last name. Other brides really want to change their name and I think that is great if the tradition means something to them. It doesn't mean anything to me so I'm doing what makes me comfortable.

Scott - I think you need to decide for yourself. Asking people on here is probably the wrong way to go. Knowing what makes them happy isn't something that should influence your decision!

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I am just asking for advice. Because I needed to talk to someone about this and I find it easy to ask the brides and grooms of LIW. In the end the decision will be mine though.
Thanks Everyone.
Scott

I say, if you want to, go for it. My friend's didn't like their names, so they changed it to a totally different name that they chose together after their wedding. Do whatever feels right to you.