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Posted by Espo22
Posted by RKellner
Posted by Espo22
Posted by RKellner
Touchy subject..
While I wasnt a teen when I had my daughter, I am still looked at as too young.. I was pregnant at 20...
I dont see anything wrong with it.. And it makes MY blood boil when people have negative thing to say about it...
im very controversial on this subject.. i dont believe in abortion at all... My opinions but I dont want to get into it cos it only causes drama.
My mother had my older brother at 16.. Thank God she did.. He is my best friend and he turned out AMAZING!
She had me at 18... She was 19 years old with 2 kids...
I dont understand the comment of 'WE have to pay for them'... What does that mean?
I had my child young, NO one paid for her but ME and FH... NO ONE! All of my friends have children.. We are all young... We are all great parents, our children do NOT go without and we ALL pay for OUR children on our own..
I dont think it ruins lives to have children young.. I think its better to have children young, personally.
Like I said touchy subject for me...
my mom was 20 years old when she had so i dont think age makes you a good or bad parent...please don't feel offended by what people say. As i said in my other post, its not directed at EVERYBODY who had a child as a teenager and many of us do know of individual cases where the teenage mom does a great job raising her child and if you did the same then don't take offense, you know the mother you are and how you are raising your daughter so dont let it bring you downat the same time that doesn't mean that alot of other teenage moms should be getting pregnant.
No I completely understand... I didnt read all the posts.. Just a couple... So Im just giving my opinion on the subject... Im not saying every teenage girl should get pregnant.. I dont think they should... And Im not saying its easy.. Its VERY hard... I think alot of teenage girls have the wrong ideas in their head when they intentionally get pregnant...
I just hate the fact that ALL young mothers get grouped into the same sterotype...
I had a bad day LOL... Im a little biitchy right now.. So dont mind me...![]()
its ok, i completely understand and i think we would've all reacted the same...just don't want you to think we view you as a bad mother or anything like that.
Posted by RKellner
Touchy subject..
While I wasnt a teen when I had my daughter, I am still looked at as too young.. I was pregnant at 20...
I dont see anything wrong with it.. And it makes MY blood boil when people have negative thing to say about it...
im very controversial on this subject.. i dont believe in abortion at all... My opinions but I dont want to get into it cos it only causes drama.
My mother had my older brother at 16.. Thank God she did.. He is my best friend and he turned out AMAZING!
She had me at 18... She was 19 years old with 2 kids...
I dont understand the comment of 'WE have to pay for them'... What does that mean?
I had my child young, NO one paid for her but ME and FH... NO ONE! All of my friends have children.. We are all young... We are all great parents, our children do NOT go without and we ALL pay for OUR children on our own..
I dont think it ruins lives to have children young.. I think its better to have children young, personally.
Like I said touchy subject for me...
Posted by sassygirl9
Posted by RKellner
Touchy subject..
While I wasnt a teen when I had my daughter, I am still looked at as too young.. I was pregnant at 20...
I dont see anything wrong with it.. And it makes MY blood boil when people have negative thing to say about it...
im very controversial on this subject.. i dont believe in abortion at all... My opinions but I dont want to get into it cos it only causes drama.
My mother had my older brother at 16.. Thank God she did.. He is my best friend and he turned out AMAZING!
She had me at 18... She was 19 years old with 2 kids...
I dont understand the comment of 'WE have to pay for them'... What does that mean?
I had my child young, NO one paid for her but ME and FH... NO ONE! All of my friends have children.. We are all young... We are all great parents, our children do NOT go without and we ALL pay for OUR children on our own..
I dont think it ruins lives to have children young.. I think its better to have children young, personally.
Like I said touchy subject for me...
I think you're also another great example of a woman who took her responsiblities seriously. I think girls who say 'they don't want to pay for them' mean young moms who get assistance. I know it may sound harsh and unfair, but I can see their point.
I also think many who have posted on this thread who had kids young come from a different time. You know what I mean? Times are different now and teenage girls are different now. Yes there are exceptions and yes teen pregnancy has always been a problem, but not to the degree it is now.
And like someone said earlier it's not just pregnancy, but also STD's. I worked for Publc Defenders before and always had cases of these little girls, with kids and like 5 STD's. I mean it's sad. Not to say it happens to all, but D amn what are these girls thinking?
Posted by Snowflake08
i work in an area where there are MANY 13 and 14 year olds having kids, and they are ALL on public assistance
they dont work, dont even TRY to work
26 yeras old with 10 year olds and pick their kids up from school in pajamas and stinking like weed
and this is ALL over
Posted by Future Mulligan
find me a 12-17 year old who is independent, lives on their own, has a job, pays rent, pays bills, knows how to cook, keeps their home clean and sanitary, does laundry, etc. etc.
im sorry but in reality there is no way a teenager can properly take care of a child on their own without having some help. a 12-17 year old can't even get a job making enough money to support themself and a child b/c they dont even have a high school diploma!! anyone who is a good teenage mother is getting help from somewhere - which thankgod these girls are getting help from their families but IMO if you need help to take care of your mistake you shouldnt be having one!
Posted by RKellner
Posted by Future Mulligan
find me a 12-17 year old who is independent, lives on their own, has a job, pays rent, pays bills, knows how to cook, keeps their home clean and sanitary, does laundry, etc. etc.
im sorry but in reality there is no way a teenager can properly take care of a child on their own without having some help. a 12-17 year old can't even get a job making enough money to support themself and a child b/c they dont even have a high school diploma!! anyone who is a good teenage mother is getting help from somewhere - which thankgod these girls are getting help from their families but IMO if you need help to take care of your mistake you shouldnt be having one!
WOW!!!!
Mistake? Who said just because you are a young mother its a mistake?!
My daughter is ANYTHING but a mistake...
My mother as 16 when she gave birth to my brother and she was pregnant with me at 17.... She doesnt have a high school diploma but my parents owned their own house when my mother was 18... They rented an apt before that... hey took care of me and my brother, on their own... My father worked.... Yes they OWNED and paid all their bills....
We turned out great and we NEVER went without ANYTHING!
Posted by Mimacat
FYI, the ideal age to concieve for optimal health for the child is actually age 32! For optimal health for the mom its 34! Sometimes older is better!![]()
Posted by Mimacat
FYI, the ideal age to concieve for optimal health for the child is actually age 32! For optimal health for the mom its 34! Sometimes older is better!![]()
Unfortunately with a topic like this, most comments are going to be taken offensively. I dont think anything is being said as a personal attack. Sadly a lot of the time, teenage pregnancy is a mistake, ESPECIALLY, in this day and age. Back in the day, a lot of people were having children young. These days its not as acceptable and most people will not agree that teenage pregnancy is a 'good' thing. People who prove to be positive examples should be praised but unfortunately they are overshadowed by the many many young people who have kids and are not ready for them. Sorry to say.
Posted by Snowflake08
hmmm that is weird since you are most fertil around 23
im not sure if 'mistake' was the right word, however, most teen pregnancies arent planned - therefore they could be seen as an 'accident'
Posted by Snowflake08
hmmm that is weird since you are most fertil around 23
im not sure if 'mistake' was the right word, however, most teen pregnancies arent planned - therefore they could be seen as an 'accident'
hey, im not the one that said ' mistake' i dont like that word either - just trying to 'clarify'
Posted by RKellner
Posted by Snowflake08
hmmm that is weird since you are most fertil around 23
im not sure if 'mistake' was the right word, however, most teen pregnancies arent planned - therefore they could be seen as an 'accident'
Accident yes.. But either way I hate the word mistake... To each his own.. But mistake just sounds so cruel to me...
Oh and my parents did plan me![]()
so cute, i'd love to see it
Posted by Mimacat
Posted by Snowflake08
hmmm that is weird since you are most fertil around 23
im not sure if 'mistake' was the right word, however, most teen pregnancies arent planned - therefore they could be seen as an 'accident'
Theres an article in Marie Claire this month that talks about women concieving in their 30's! You gotta read it!
As a side note, I saw this little hanukah decoration in the mall and I thought of you! It was a light blue dredel (sp) and it had silver snowflakes on it and it said Mazel Tov! I thought about buying it, but then I realize that might be odd![]()
Posted by Songstress
Unfortunately with a topic like this, most comments are going to be taken offensively. I dont think anything is being said as a personal attack. Sadly a lot of the time, teenage pregnancy is a mistake, ESPECIALLY, in this day and age. Back in the day, a lot of people were having children young. These days its not as acceptable and most people will not agree that teenage pregnancy is a 'good' thing. People who prove to be positive examples should be praised but unfortunately they are overshadowed by the many many young people who have kids and are not ready for them. Sorry to say.
