Tell me if I'm wrong... I AM FUMING RIGHT NOW. VERY LOOOOOONNNNGGG

If you ladies can see me right now.. I have fire coming out of my ears...

My FSIL's bridal shower is late next month. I went to Fortunoff about 3 weeks ago to add stuff to my registry. While I was there, I decided to purchase her gift, which was all her bath ensambles with the coordinating accent towels that she registered for. I was going to put everything in a nice basket with a pretty bow.
I wasn't able to purchase the coodinating wastebasket because Fortunoff was out of stock, so I figured I will either order it online, or just pick it up next time I go there.

Nosey girl that she is looks on her registry the following week & notices that all the bath ensambles has been purchased MINUS the wastebasket. My brother tells me this & I end up telling him that I was the one to buy everything & had to explain to him the reason why the wastebasket wasn't bought. I also told him NOT TO TELL HER IT WAS ME THAT BOUGHT IT!!! He told me that she was bothered by the fact that someone purchased all the bathroom stuff but not the wastebasket and has been nagging him about this for two weeks. She just couldn't understand WHY the wastebasket wasn't bought, and was going to go to Fortunoff to buy the wastebasket herself to complete the set. She even told me about this when I saw her this weekend I couldn't believe how much she was complaing about this!!!

Anyway, I just found out that my brother ended up telling her that I bought everything for her, and the reason why the wastebasket wasn't purchased.. WHY??? To stop her nagging and spare my feelings. MY FEELINGS??? I found it HUMOUROUS that she was nagging about this meanwhile she would have felf dumb when she found out THAT I was the one that bought it for her. I wanted it to be a suprise and now my brother opened his BIG FAT MOUTH!
Whatever. My mom just told me about this & because Im pissed, I am going to return everything to Fortunoff on Saturday & purchase a different gift as it gets closer to the shower. Am I wrong for doing this?? I mean serious!!!


THIS IS A PRIME EXAMPLE OF THE FOLLOWING QUOTE...

'Curiosity KILLS the cat.'

I can't even tell you how bothered I am by this.. for my FSIL being so f'in nosey & such a damn nag, and for my brother opening his big FAT MOUTHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!

Janie, that's not right. Geez she has issues if she actually wanted to go out and buy the wastebasket herself!!! She couldn't wait until AFTER the shower to even think about that??!!

I would do the same thing, return everything and get something else that's NOT on the registry!!!

Your brother shouldn't have said anything, all he should have said to her was 'maybe it sold out at the time'.

And she needs to get a grip and stop peeking and then complaining about what is not bought yet!!

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Posted by SIBride06
I am going to return everything to Fortunoff on Saturday & purchase a different gift as it gets closer to the shower. Am I wrong for doing this?? I mean serious!!!

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Yeah, I'd do this, too. I don't think it's wrong - I think she deserves it.
What's this girl's problem anyway?

Here's a - you need it!

dude, that's nuts and yeah, i'd return it too...

this is why brides need to stay off their REGISTRY!

Janie...I understand completely how upset you are. Honestly, I would not return the gift and get her something else. I would leave things as they are, and not inconvenience yourself.

I think it's honestly psychotic of her to make such a big deal out of it! You were not wrong, and I'm sorry your brother ruined the surprise, but I'm sure it was just to shut her up and bring the 'obvious' to light.

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, that would really piss me off too, Janie!!! I can understand you being upset, she didn't have to be so nosy and nagging your brother like that!!!!!! It's a surprise shower, she shouldn't be checking her registry let alone questioning it!!!!!!!!! I don't blame you for wanting to return her gifts, tho that may be more trouble for you than it's worth.

I would be PISSED off big time! You have every right to be mad. She needs to get a grip. In the end, she is going to look like a fool (as she already does) to the people around her.

I would return everything as well. Or I would (this is my pettiness talking) make a point at the shower when she is opening my gift stating 'You already knew what I got you since you kept checking your registry but I wanted you to open it anyway.'

awww sweetie! I am sure you are pissed! cool off a little and then see what you want to do..

jeez, your brother better develop a thicker skin than THAT! LOL



ti's time for a drink sweetie!

Janie,

You have every right to be pissed off...but you know what, if I were you, I would NOT buy her a new gift...she doesnt deserve it. She spoiled her own surprise...so just get the waste basket and dont stress yourself out...

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Posted by M&S Sept12006

Janie,

You have every right to be pissed off...but you know what, if I were you, I would NOT buy her a new gift...she doesnt deserve it. She spoiled her own surprise...so just get the waste basket and dont stress yourself out...

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I cannt agree here more. She doesnt deserve anymore time of yours on this gift. She ruined her own surprise being a lunatic about presents. This is why I hate registries, it really brings the bad out in some people. All this over a wastebasket. UGHHH

Oh Janie!!! You are completely right to be fuming. It just goes to show...men do not understand the concept of keeping their mouths shut! I would not return the gifts because she already knows you bought them and it would probably look a little bit weird. Although you're angry now, perhaps by the time her show comes around, you'll be able to laugh about it? I'm sorry Janie!!!!

I wouldn't go through the effort of exchanging and rebuying her a new gift.

Your brother should have told her, to keep her from commenting on it, that maybe the wastebasket was sold out and not given her the details of who bought it.

Another way to calm her down would be to say, maybe they didn't take it off the registry when the person bought everything, sometimes that happens!

I'm sure she feels kind of silly now since she made such a big deal out of a garbage can.

That is seriously crazy. I agree you did enough for her, but I would return everything too, just to p*ss her off.

I would be so annoyed! First of all, who complains that someone didn't buy them something from a set? Maybe that is all the person could afford and had to leave one item behind.

Definitely do not go through the trouble it will cause YOU to take the stuff back and exchange it. It's not worth it!!!!

she is insane!!! Why the heck do you through a fit bc a wastebasket is not purchased!

Definately return it all & then when she looks at her registry again (we know she will), she will be pissed that it was all returned!!!!

I may be the odd one, but i think if you do return them it would cause more drama...then she would know that you knew and..you know the rest.

Let her feel stupid for having to know..I personally would not go out of my way for her...her behavior does not deserve a surprise...

Good luck with your decision...

edited for spelling.

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Posted by MissingTheBGene

That is seriously crazy. I agree you did enough for her, but I would return everything too, just to p*ss her off.

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Me too. Greedy, much?