Tell me what you think...PLEASE

jill13bean Posted: Jan 22, 2005 03:02 PM

Tell me what you think...PLEASE

Let's say.... my FH
his sister and brother have a significant other..so they are bringing them as a guest

do you send them their own invitation or do they come with them????
THEY WOULD NOT be invited to the wedding if it was not their boyfriend or girlfriend

cjb88 Posted: Jan 22, 2005 03:04 PM

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put the Significant other's name on their invitation!!

gNi1125 Posted: Jan 22, 2005 03:10 PM

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I would say you include them on the same invite.

arewethereyet Posted: Jan 22, 2005 03:10 PM

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you should put their name on the invitation for the family member (don't just write guest though, write out their name)- and obviously you send it to the family member's address.

BCTM33 Posted: Jan 22, 2005 03:11 PM

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Posted by cjb88

put the Significant other's name on their invitation!!

This is what I did for al people that lived together or where dating for longer than 2 years....

jill13bean Posted: Jan 22, 2005 04:29 PM

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Thanks ladies.... you could umagine the look on my face when she said she has to give me their addresses... but what do i do...???
1 of my friends said...just don't send them hahaha but my mom said we can't do that
ok so we get gifts from them too

i send an invite to the sister and brother??

nov.bride Posted: Jan 22, 2005 04:30 PM

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Posted by gNi1125

I would say you include them on the same invite.

me too
sent the invite to fsil & name of so and same for fbil & his so

JacnRob729 Posted: Jan 22, 2005 04:56 PM

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Posted by cjb88

put the Significant other's name on their invitation!!

agreed....if they have been together for a while...i would list the name....if they have not been together long, I would be 'and guest'---beucase you never know

traceyd Posted: Jan 22, 2005 04:58 PM

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Posted by JacnRob729

Posted by cjb88

put the Significant other's name on their invitation!!

agreed....if they have been together for a while...i would list the name....if they have not been together long, I would be 'and guest'---beucase you never know

I second that!!

jill13bean Posted: Jan 22, 2005 06:18 PM

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they are only 20 and 21 years old
they have been together for like a year

they live with his parents...
do i send an invite to both of them to their house

FMIL wants an invite to be sent to the significant others

sarahbelle Posted: Jan 22, 2005 06:31 PM

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I wouldn't bother. I would put their names on their SO's invite. You don't want them to RSVP separately.

suven Posted: Jan 22, 2005 06:34 PM

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She is absolutely wrong. These 2 are guests.

what I did (because in MY MIND, it's not logical that a guest at my wedding can bring their own guest):

I wrote on the outter envelope:

Mr. Anthony Jones
Miss Jane Smith
123 Your Stupid Street
Nowhere, NJ 12345

on the inner envelope (I did the inner informally)

Anthony and Jane

akaMrsT Posted: Jan 22, 2005 06:36 PM

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FI and I were invited to a wedding prior to getting engaged and his name was on my invite. It was addressed to both of us (my house) and his name was on the inner and outer envelope (my name & his name on the inside).

newnybride2be Posted: Jan 22, 2005 06:37 PM

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If they have been with their significant others for a year or more then def put their so's name on the invite. If anything did happen btwn them before your wedding you could always tell them that they are welcomed to bring another date if they wished. Send your fmil, fsil, and fbil each their own invite. This way it specifically states taht they are each allowed to bring a guest. There is no reason that you should send their so a separate invite. They are to be your guests just because they would be accompanying the siblings, not because they are friends of yours.

SomethingBlu Posted: Jan 22, 2005 06:58 PM

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Do they live together? If they do, then you put both of their names on the envelope (ladies first)...if not, ettiquette states that each party gets their own separate invite (this is if they don't live together and is probably what your FMIL was referring to)...but who cares about ettiquette? I'm sending mine to the girls and writing their boyfriend's name on it...freak ettiquette on this one, invites are precious and costly!

jill13bean Posted: Jan 22, 2005 07:02 PM

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yes they still live with their parents
they are 20 and 21
the dates will NOT be invited if something did happen between them before the wedding

they do not live together

amy&anthony Posted: Jan 22, 2005 07:03 PM

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suven
'your stupid street'

junebride! Posted: Jan 22, 2005 07:07 PM

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If FH wants them to get a separate invite, why not do it? Surely if something happens in their relationship they won't come! Just then I wouldn't write and guest on any of the four invites...toehrwise you could have extra people....