Sorry idon't have more time to preface this but today is my day off and i have so many errands to run! and tonight we start pre-cana. Tomorrow's QOTD will be much later in the afternoon because we have to wake up mega early to be there and I won't have time to post until i'm back home (hopefully way before 5pm, the way they are saying)
So my question for today is:
What type of role do you and FH play in your relationship? Is it more traditional? You both go to work, but FH still expects you to keep your place clean and have dinner ready? Or are your roles more ambiguous? Does FH cook and clean and you take care of outside chores, like repairs and gardening?
I have to say, FH is very traditional. He still expects me to make dinner and keep the house clean but in return he takes care of all of our car problems (he's a tech) and will always keep the outside of the house clean and in working order and can make any repairs himself. I wish I could stay home and not work and just take care of the kids!
What type of role do you and FH play in your relationship? Is it more traditional? You both go to work, but FH still expects you to keep your place clean and have dinner ready? Or are your roles more ambiguous? Does FH cook and clean and you take care of outside chores, like repairs and gardening?
We dont live together yet... BUT We both go to work.. and Since on the weekends we do 'live' together since he comes over to sleep at my house (lol) I have to say we do things equally... He helps me with the chores in the house. He cooks Bfast with me... he helps me clean... So i think we BOTH do the jobs....
we def share the responsibilities. I do all the cooking because he can't cook lol, but he vacuums and does the laundry, but I always clean the bathroom and kitchen. I also make him take out the garbage and he usually washes the dishes, and he forces me to help him make the bed haha. He's like a tidy home more than I do apparently lol.
I like being traditional. I am the cook and will most likely do the bulk of the cleaning. He is neater than me - everything has a place. He'll take out the garbage, put things away clean dishes, do laundry. But i will do the down and dirty cleaning.
But FH will do anything for me. It's the least I can do in retuen. Plus, its not really an expectation from him, its just what I do.
We both work, and both do cooking and cleaning. Actually, he does 70% of the cooking, because I get home later from work. But cleaning is def. 50-50. We have areas we are responsible for in the home. His is dishes, cleaning kitchen, doing laundry and taking out garbage. Mine include the bathroom, living room and bedroom and dusting.
I definaly lucked out with FH... when i was working id still cook dinner and did the dishes when i got home but he would always be the one to clean the house.... Now that i am home.. i try to get the cleaning done so he doesnt have to do it since he is the only one working at the moment, but he still (since he does have OCD) winds up doing major cleaning in the house.... With 3 animals it seems like cleaning has to be done everyday....
But.. now that i am home i find myself enjoying to cook a lot more than i used to.... I actually try new dishes everyday which has been a great thing! im learning more and more everyday :)
i joke around with FH all the time b/c i want him to do the cleaning and the cooking and i eat and watch TV. so far, he's the better cook and is awesome at cleaning! but of course i expect for us to do both once we live together - i just joke around with him for now....
I think we do a little bit of both! I'm probably a bit neater than FH so I'm sure I'll lead the charge with cleaning, but he does WAY more cooking than I do. I think he'll end up doing mostly all the cooking for us, since he gets out of work earlier than me.
ETA: He also irons WAY better than me. So I let him do that, too!
he is actually more clean than I am!! we lived together for a while in a small apartment and I moved out because I was ready to knock him out bc the place was so small. When it was good we shared ALL the chores, he never once expected me to do anything, but I did because I wanted to. We agreed that whoever got home first from work would cook. We both work odd hours, and sometimes at night i am home alone for 24 hours. or I can be out late w work and not be home till 1am. I love being with a man that is completely independant and does not expect me to be a traditional house wife. He did mention however that when we have kids he would want me to stay home for the first couple years to raise them, but it was up to me if I wanted to give up my career to be a mom.
What type of role do you and FH play in your relationship? Is it more traditional? You both go to work, but FH still expects you to keep your place clean and have dinner ready? Or are your roles more ambiguous? Does FH cook and clean and you take care of outside chores, like repairs and gardening?
We dont live together yet... BUT We both go to work.. and Since on the weekends we do 'live' together since he comes over to sleep at my house (lol) I have to say we do things equally... He helps me with the chores in the house. He cooks Bfast with me... he helps me clean... So i think we BOTH do the jobs....
This is us too, only I stay over at his place all the time!
I will say that we do share everything and FH doesn't really expect me to do XY or Z...but I think once we are married, we'll fall into more of the traditional roles. The thing is...I enjoy doing those kind of things and doing them for him. I think the chores should be split, but growing up, FMIL didn't really do all those kinds of things for him (I mean, she did to a degree but she really wanted to foster independence...so he and his brothers have been doing their own laundry since they are like 11). My mom on the other hand is the typical Italian busy bee who can't rest until every bed in the house is made and you have a plate of food in front of you and oh yeah, do you need anything ironed? lol
I think since we got together, I try to do things like that for him, especially if he has a late night at work or a meeting or something...I cook sometimes, I clean his place when I can, I throw in his laundry every now and then, I sew buttons and rips for him, etc. And he so so appreciates it. I think my thing is that that's the way I take care of FH and one of the ways I show him I love him...If he needs a shirt ironed it's my pleasure to do so for him...because I choose to, not because he expects it...
But I absolutely HATE taking out the garbage. That's so gunna be FH's job
We are pretty 50/50 on most. I do the cooking (cause he can really only make grilled cheese) but he does all the dishes. We both clean the house together, so I'll be vacuuming and he'll clean the bathrooms. He also will do laundry if I need him to. We both lived on our own separately for a long time, so he was already use to taking care of himself when I came along.
it's sort of 50/50. We both cook; i'd say i cook probably more than him. But he's eager to cook (some nights) to try new things.
But he does expect me to be the one cooking more and will come home and HOUR before me and when i get home ask what's for dinner!!!!
I think i do most of the cleaning inside. Not to say that he doesn't clean; but i can't tell you the last time he cleaned hte bathrooms; swept/mopped the floor or got the dog hair off the couch! He'll come home and i've cleaned and he'll say oh it was on my mind to do that today but i got tied up w/other things!
He does the outside stuff; mowing lawn; gutter stuff; we both take out the garbage and both take turns walking the dog.
What type of role do you and FH play in your relationship? Is it more traditional? You both go to work, but FH still expects you to keep your place clean and have dinner ready? Or are your roles more ambiguous? Does FH cook and clean and you take care of outside chores, like repairs and gardening?
This is a loaded question!
If the cooking were left to FH, we would eat Chipotle all day, every day. I am much more aware of nutrition, etc, and I love to cook- so I do most of it! In no way does he expect it to be done, but I like to do it for both of us.
FH gets panic attacks from my clutter, but at the same time he is super lazy about cleaning. I am hoping that with the new apartment and new job, he will be more of a cleaner.
And since I work in residential architecture, I am much more knowledgeable about things that go wrong in a house!
Edited- we both work, although I need to find a job starting next August!
