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Thanksgiving...Where to spend it?

nov04LIbride Posted: Nov 22, 2004 02:22 PM+

nov04LIbride MEMBER SINCE: 3/04 TOTAL POSTS : 8140 WEDDING DATE: Nov 06, 2004

Posted: Nov 22, 2004 02:22 PM

Thanksgiving...Where to spend it?

This is our first married Thanksgiving. Initially we were going to spend Thanksgiving with one family, xmas day with the other, and xmas eve with the family that got Thanksgiving. But, my parents are divorced, and my brother is spending xmas day with my father so Thanksgiving is the only time I would get to see him, and my family will not be together on xmas eve (they are only meeting up xmas day). So, I told DH I wanted to do my family for Thanksgiving, and split 1/2 of xmas day for each. He got mad that I decided without consulting him, and now I think we are each just going to our own families (they are not close enough to do both). What is everyone else doing? This splitting the holidays is so hard, and I haven't even figured out when I will see my dad who lives 4 hours away upstate!

FriendoftheBride Posted: Nov 22, 2004 02:30 PM+

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Posted: Nov 22, 2004 02:30 PM

Re: Thanksgiving...Where to spend it?

Is your place big enough to have everyone come to you? Do a Thanksgiving potluck or something where people can bring different dishes that way you're not stuck doing everything.

nov04LIbride Posted: Nov 22, 2004 02:40 PM+

nov04LIbride MEMBER SINCE: 3/04 TOTAL POSTS : 8140 WEDDING DATE: Nov 06, 2004

Posted: Nov 22, 2004 02:40 PM

Re: Thanksgiving...Where to spend it?

Posted by FriendoftheBride

Is your place big enough to have everyone come to you? Do a Thanksgiving potluck or something where people can bring different dishes that way you're not stuck doing everything.

Not at all...A one bedroom condo...

nferrandi Posted: Nov 22, 2004 02:44 PM+

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Posted: Nov 22, 2004 02:44 PM

Re: Thanksgiving...Where to spend it?

I totally understand what you're saying, but if you and DH had agreed to do it a certain way, it's not really fair for you to change it around. I don't think you should do separate houses for the holidays, especially now that you're married. I really think you should try to come up with something that works for everyone. Could you go to your dad's for Thanksgiving and then invite your parents to your IL's for Christams Eve and then spend Christmas day with DH's family?

nov04LIbride Posted: Nov 22, 2004 02:55 PM+

nov04LIbride MEMBER SINCE: 3/04 TOTAL POSTS : 8140 WEDDING DATE: Nov 06, 2004

Posted: Nov 22, 2004 02:55 PM

Re: Thanksgiving...Where to spend it?

Posted by nferrandi

I totally understand what you're saying, but if you and DH had agreed to do it a certain way, it's not really fair for you to change it around. I don't think you should do separate houses for the holidays, especially now that you're married. I really think you should try to come up with something that works for everyone. Could you go to your dad's for Thanksgiving and then invite your parents to your IL's for Christams Eve and then spend Christmas day with DH's family?

Problem is that my mom and dad don't speak, and if I don't see my brother Thanksgiving day then I won't get to see him at all this year...