Am I incorrect in saying 'If you aren't paying for it, your opinion and input are not warranted!'
I'm sitting here at work, and I get a call from my mother. Now, yes, she's splitting the reception site with FI's parents, but nothing else.
She's going on and on about my dress, and how's she's really not comfortable with the gold sash, and thinks the sash should be white.
UM...it's a sash, it's not like it's the whole f'ing thing.
I said 'Mom, honestly, this is the only think that I'm dead-set on. I'm sorry, but I want the sash, b/c it's simply elegant and really sums up my personality and everything I stand for.' She then asked me to go into more detail about how it's a reflection of my personality.
I responded again with 'I'm not about that stark white on everything. I wanted some color, and at least it's not black or red! I'm wearing the dress how it is, you're not wearing it. If you were paying for it, then I'd be a little more flexible with you. You're not paying, so get off my back, and trust my judgement.'
AM I WRONG?????
Noiva06
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You are definetely not wrong, you should wear that you like and feel comfortable in! Don't back down, stand your ground and if she keeps insisting on bringing this up again, just say 'I thought we discussed this already, you know my decision, so don't even bother trying to change it.'
I think some moms are still very traditional (including my own) and have something with staying STRICTLY traditional when it comes to weddings.... Tell her these days, weddings have a traditional element but it's more about incorporating the couple's personality into the wedding.... one of which, is your dress! good luck with this!
stephanief
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you are not wrong at all...the only thing I would say is try not to be so short with her. She is probably just giving her opinion. You know how mom's can be. Say 'thanks for your opinion mom but that is the dress I am wearing'
