The latest in my MOH dropout drama

Today my mom told me she thinks my sister set me up and tried to fight with me for a way to get out of my bp. Come on.... I dont even really like my sister, I just included her because I felt I had to. It would have been so easy for her to say she didnt feel comfortable being in the bp.


As much as I'm trying to cover up and act like it doesn't matter, it really hurts and it totally f ucks everything up for the rest of our lives. My mom suggested today that I dont invite her to the wedding.


I think I need more than hugs.

OMG that is horrible! I am so sorry but IMO I would still invite her to the wedding. Years from now you wouldnt want to regret that she wasnt there.
I am so sorry!

oh honey....im so sorry.

Aww hun, I'm sooo sorry! I don't have siblings but I'm sure I would be hurt and upset over this. I know it hurts but try not to let it upset you throughout the rest of your planning. This should be a happy time for you!!

I am so sorry that you even have to be put in a situation like this when this time is suppose to be about you, and family.

I know you've had a ton of probs with you sister in the past. I personally would invite her so that the ball is in her court. Looking back, you might regret it if you don't.

I wish I had some advice for you, just hold on...hopefully things will somehow work out!!

Wow, that's truly awful. As much as I don't get along with my younger sister sometimes, it's never come to this. I'm so sorry that you've been put in this awful situation. I would invite her still though, you're a better person than to not.

Good luck with whatever you decide

wow!!!! u def need more than hugs u need a drink..just remember u did the RIGHT thing asking her..if she wants to pick a fight n back out its her loss..she will regret it for the rest of her life..trust me..i think u should still invite her and leave it up 2 her to come or not..dont pressure her dont ask her..just send the invite n wait for the response card...im so sorry u r going through this..but sisiter or not u need to do whats best for u in ths tricky situation..hope u feel better and fm me anytime

U have FM.....

Awwwwww! Im so sorry! I think you should still invite her. Then it will be up to her if she wants to come or night. You might regret it one day if you dont invite her. She is your sister afterall.

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Posted by gina409

wow!!!! u def need more than hugs u need a drink..

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Oh, doing that. Trust me.


This is the ultimate s uck fest but I think by now I should have expected it. It s ucks even more because once her boyfriend of the moment threatens her/cancels the family plan she stupidly decided to enter into after two months of going out/ breaks her heart/whatever stupid s hit happens I'm always there. That phase has passed.

My mom always says she remembers me defending my sister on the playground crying my eyes out when I was five when my sister didnt even know she caused trouble. I've always been for her and never realized she never cared about what I do/thanked me/ cared about me at all.

My older sister understands but keeps saying the same... she ruined the future forever.

I have the ultimate lump in my throat that I'm afraid won't go away for a very long time. I miss my big sister so much. She's in NC. She got married two years ago and we did EVERYTHING for her wedding together. My younger sister hates everything about my wedding. She screamed at my mother a few weeks ago when my mother mentioned we were under 300 days while sitting at the table for Sunday dinner. I should have known better.

I feel bad for my mom because I know she's planning my shower alone. I did everything for my older sister's shower. I remember ordering shower invites that matched her wedding invites and assembling them while she was away for the weekend - knowing she would die when she saw them.

It probably sounds like my mom is a biatch in saying dont invite her but she totally isn't. Its probably giving my mom a heart attack in telling me this.

I'm so sad but I just need to stop. I should have seen this coming a long time ago.

i dont know what i can say to even make u smile..do u think she resents the fact that u n ur older sis were do close?..i know everyone says its family..and i do think u should invite her..but thats it..u put out the olive branch..i mean for ur mom to say dont invite her shows this is a serious situation and sister or not only people who r truly happy for u should be there on ur big day..i hope things work out and please please keep us posted

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Posted by gina409

i dont know what i can say to even make u smile..do u think she resents the fact that u n ur older sis were do close?..i know everyone says its family..and i do think u should invite her..but thats it..u put out the olive branch..i mean for ur mom to say dont invite her shows this is a serious situation and sister or not only people who r truly happy for u should be there on ur big day..i hope things work out and please please keep us posted

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Thanks Gina.... you totally get it.



And thanks everyone else. I'm trying to move past a really crappy sitaution and you all have helped a lot.

I can kinda understand what you are going through and although I envisioned something exactly like this to happen between my Sister and I it didn't, YET.

Wow, it must be bad if your Mom said don't invite her to the wedding. IMO if you do this, it will come later to bite you in the tushy whether you feel regret or later on, you and your Sister start getting along or whatever- you just don't know what could happen. Just do whatever you feel is right in your heart.

so sorry

ohhh sweety!


Let go out for dinks!!

Oh.... I wish nobody had to go through that.