The lunacy!!!! - UPDATE W/MORE CRAZY!

Original post by MikesBride2B

Oct 29, 2009 08:51 AM

Haha wow this got long...I'm sure you can all guess who its about. You're all probably sick to death of hearing it but here it goes...

FMIL has really lost it. To start, we are driving out to Ohio for xmas so that she can spend time with FSD. Apparently, that's not enough. FSD's birthday is December 4 (a Friday this year). FMIL decides she wants to fly out here on the 3rd and fly back to Ohio the 5th so she can be here for FSD's bday.

This is a REALLY inconvenient time for us. Thursdays we both work and on Thursday nights I have school so FH has to be home by 5:30 (which is a tight squeeze for us). It is the week before my finals week. My parents are busy Thursday nights as well. There is NOBODY to pick her up from the airport.

ON TOP OF THAT...what is she coming for, anyway?? I get that she wants to be with FSD on her birthday, but she'll be in school all day long!! And then she's leaving the next day!! So she really wants to inconvenience EVERYONE for a couple of hours!!

We tell her we want to discuss it. FH discusses it with her, about how its not really a good time and the logistics aren't great. He ends the conversation with her last night under the impression that there will be more discussions about it.

He gets a call this morning from her, letting him know that SHE JUST BOOKED A TICKET. She decided she was just going to IGNORE everything we said and book a freakin ticket!!!! She goes 'Oh well it gets in to MacArthur and I can get on the train and get to you that way'...this is a woman who can't even handle NY traffic, she's going to navigate a transit system she's never experienced before?? Also, does the train even come near the airport?? Its her passive aggressive ploy to get us to bend over backwards and rearrange our whole lives to pick her up....WELL IT AIN'T HAPPENING, CRAZY!!!! She can take the train and get here when she gets here and if she gets lost OH WELL....she made her bed, SHE CAN LIE IN IT!!

WTH is wrong with the women in FH's family?!?!

UPDATE - FH comes home...and he tells me that not only is she still DEFINITELY coming...but he INFORMS me of her plans for that Friday...she's going to bake FSD a cake! PRAY TELL, WHERE IS SHE GOING TO BAKE THIS CAKE?!?! She's just decided that not only is she going to be staying with us or my parents, but she's going to be using my or my parents kitchen to bake this child a cake!! But not only that, I'm guessing she expects US to get her all the materials she needs!!!

WHO ASSUMES CRAP LIKE THIS?!?!?! My goodness....its just so freakin ridiculous!!!!

UPDATE #2 - FH is on the phone w/her right now confronting her about her heinous behavior. WILL KEEP YOU UPDATED!!!

UPDATE TO THE UPDATE (lol!) - She hung up on him!!!! He was actually standing up for himself but being totally calm and rational about it, talking about how its really a terrible time of the year for us and all this stuff and she goes 'I'M SORRY MY COMING TO VISIT IS SUCH A BURDEN!' and hung up!!!!

LaDolceVita Posted: Oct 29, 2009 09:28 PM

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im really starting to love my fmil more and more when i read ur posts lol

MikesBride2B Posted: Oct 29, 2009 09:29 PM

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Posted by LaDolceVita

im really starting to love my fmil more and more when i read ur posts lol

LMAO...my FMIL...making FMILs everyone look good!!!

Yankees2323 Posted: Oct 29, 2009 09:31 PM

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sorry your going through this

FallBride2010 Posted: Oct 29, 2009 09:33 PM

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I dont know the history with her, but I thought it was sweet that she wanted to come spend her grandaughter's birthday with her. Some grandparents live around the block and dont make that effort. But iike I said, I dont know the history

MikesBride2B Posted: Oct 29, 2009 09:34 PM

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Posted by FallBride2010

I dont know the history with her, but I thought it was sweet that she wanted to come spend her grandaughter's birthday with her. Some grandparents live around the block and dont make that effort. But iike I said, I dont know the history

I totally understand that and I think the sentiment is sweet...but she was told that it was a really terrible time for us and she did it anyway...which is her M.O. (she doesn't think of anyone but herself).

FallBride2010 Posted: Oct 29, 2009 09:36 PM

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Posted by MikesBride2B

Posted by FallBride2010

I dont know the history with her, but I thought it was sweet that she wanted to come spend her grandaughter's birthday with her. Some grandparents live around the block and dont make that effort. But iike I said, I dont know the history

I totally understand that and I think the sentiment is sweet...but she was told that it was a really terrible time for us and she did it anyway...which is her M.O. (she doesn't think of anyone but herself).

The I totally see where you are coming from. If she does this all the time...I'd scream. : )

kimmaymb20 Posted: Oct 29, 2009 09:38 PM

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ur fmil is making me crazy I dunno how you deal

MikesBride2B Posted: Oct 29, 2009 09:40 PM

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Posted by kimmaymb20

ur fmil is making me crazy I dunno how you deal

Haha I don't...I nearly gave myself a migrane today, thank god I had advil or I would have been puking in the middle of class.

Jna2010 Posted: Oct 29, 2009 09:41 PM

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ohemgeeeeeee 100% wowowwwwwww

scatteredx12 Posted: Oct 29, 2009 09:55 PM

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oh boy... i've been following the stories with this woman and i can honestly say that i feel bad for you!! sounds like a nut... and very inconsiderate. ugh, i hope she gets better over time so you don't have to deal with this the rest of your life...

MikesBride2B Posted: Oct 29, 2009 10:37 PM

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Posted by scatteredx12

oh boy... i've been following the stories with this woman and i can honestly say that i feel bad for you!! sounds like a nut... and very inconsiderate. ugh, i hope she gets better over time so you don't have to deal with this the rest of your life...

I won't have to deal with it the rest of my life because at some point I'm just gonna tell her off...once I hit my boiling point I can't keep it in anymore and once we are married I feel freer to say what I want

Nina1010 Posted: Oct 29, 2009 10:50 PM

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Oh My....

Stories like this make me thank GOD my FMIL lives in South Florida. So sorry iLana.

MrsCM Posted: Oct 29, 2009 11:19 PM

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Posted by MikesBride2B

Posted by FallBride2010

I dont know the history with her, but I thought it was sweet that she wanted to come spend her grandaughter's birthday with her. Some grandparents live around the block and dont make that effort. But iike I said, I dont know the history

I totally understand that and I think the sentiment is sweet...but she was told that it was a really terrible time for us and she did it anyway...which is her M.O. (she doesn't think of anyone but herself).

There is nothing sweet about these people. Mike fell far from THAT tree. Ilana you tell her she can come stay with us and use our haunted azz kitchen.

JAAMS Posted: Oct 30, 2009 12:45 AM

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my goodness!

netsirk10 Posted: Oct 30, 2009 02:41 AM

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sheesh!

SummerBride10 Posted: Oct 30, 2009 06:13 AM

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ohhhhh geez / thats wayyy more nuttiness than anyone should have to handle!

marinai7 Posted: Oct 30, 2009 06:57 AM

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Woah, she hung up on him??? That's really mature.

scatteredx12 Posted: Oct 30, 2009 08:09 AM

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hanging up on someone is sooo mature, let me tell you.

Lucky2010 Posted: Oct 30, 2009 08:12 AM

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Wow I'm really sorry you have to deal with this. As if you're not going through enough!

Thankfully we only have one overbearing mother here - mine. I'm an only child so of course she's totally involved in my life. She's so not bad although she does get my blood pressure to rise on occasion...

FH's mother called him recently to tell him that she decided to sell her house in Florida and move to Mallorca! I had to look up where that was on a map! It's an island off the coast of Spain. She was born in Germany and came here when she was 19 so all of her family is in Europe still and her sister lives in Mallorca.

Needless to say my mom is thrilled that she'll have us all to herself!

Maybe you can buy your FMIL a ticket to Mallorca instead!!

dfw343 Posted: Oct 30, 2009 10:51 AM

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Is your FFIL around? Sounds like he is not. If he isn't, try to be a little understanding to her lonliness and wanting to see her grandchild. I am sure she will want to see yours someday.

What does your FSD feel about this? (I don't know her age).

HOWEVER, I do see your point of view, it's totally a bad time. If I was her, I'd say OK, so when's a better time. I am sure your FSD won't be scarred for life cuz GM didn't spend her BD on the EXACT day.