The nerve of some people!

well ive been getting back my R.S.V.P's and so far almost everyone hast said yes. now on my FH side we have been having tons of problems, his family and friends are inviting who they want. its like me inviting you and its addressed to Ms. Smith. and you invite 5 other people WHICH someone did and we dont even know these people and this person reason was(which was his Aunt) that so she had friends to hangout with and party with! WHAT?! thats why ur familys there!! then we had another family which we addressed all the names on the inside so they knew only them, thought they would invite there 16 yr girlfriend and the 20 yrs old girlfriend when we spoke to them in person and say that we are sorry but we dont have enough room for everyone so its just the family and no g/f. i mean they are only 16 and 20 and have been going out with them for like 2 months. THEN we have a no childern rule. well someone people thought they would do what they wanted and rsvp back with kids. his other aunt rsvp back and wrote my husband cant make it but im going to bring julia who is 3yrs old as my date! i was like what the hell!? it was addressed to her and her husband only and on the bottom it said no childeren under the age of 16 please. she Fh had to call her and tell her and she said he was rude and she was bringing her anyway! what do i do? i dont not want any childern at my wedding im sorry. cant she understand that. the husband i then found out didnt want to come so its not like there is no one to watch the 3 yr old. THEN my FMIL wants to disinvite my FFIL girlfriend when she already told him it was ok for her to come. then she said shes not coming if the GF comes and i said to her( because i dislike her a lot) dont come then, miss out on ur sons wedding i dont care. so shes like whatever find she can come. shes a crazy b*tch lol and fmil wants to do my seating for my side of my family because she wants them to sit where she wants them to. she doesnt even know half of my family and she didnt even give us anything for this wedding so she has no say. grr she gets me so mad god i can write and write more of all the crap ive been going threw but i wont bore you lol just wanted to vent and see if i was wrong for the way i feel. thanks girls

oh boy!!!!

i have learned weddings bring out the worst in people!!!!

how RUDE of people!!!!!!

I would call each and everyone of them up and let them know that you are sorry BUT the additions to the invitations arent ok. PERIOD! ANd really I know it sounds harsh but if people are going to NOT come just b/c you say no to them then they obviously feel that the day isnt about your marriage but who t hey are going to be with. I under stand the whole 'ill be more comfortable if' thing but really! ENOUGH!

You are right!!! The nerve of people!! I would definitely say to the one that wants to bring her kid...NO!! You did not invite kids...I hope everything works out for you!!

OMG...My FH's father's side is the same way..I feel your pain...His parents are divorced and his father was having an issue with his mother bringing his step father, even though FH's father is remarried himself 3 times..FH's aunt and grandmother (who he doesn't get along with that well but we invited out of respect) are also mad at us because when we sent the invites out his grandmother said she didn't get one even though we know we sent it to her...So his aunt is mad at us because she thinks we didn't send one to the grandmother and she is also mad at us because she wanted us to send her daughter a 6 yr. old who we told her was invited an invitation..I was like are you crazy...I sent her other daughter one because she is 20, I was like I am not sending out an invitation to a 6 yr. old..I'm sorry..then FH's father became mad at us for the same thing because he found out and was demanding we send out another invite...Like duh..we already were going to..FH's dad is just sooo annoying and is a nasty controlling man...So I totally hear you with this one...I'm going through almost the same stuff...